Where I disagree...

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Hi all! This could be thought of as a follow up post to the one previous to this ... my review of Tony Robbins "Comeback Challenge". So, a quick recap, incase you didn't know, Robbins is a famous and wealthy life coach who, provided a free coaching session for a week. While I recounted my main take aways in the first post, with this one I would like to express the ways in which I disagree. For relationships both Tony and his wife , Sage, got online to talk. The stressed the importance of giving 100% to your partner. By doing this, they stressed, your partner will feel your love, and reciprocate to you. Several times they used the term "narcissist" incorrectly. Stating that you - can't call someone a narcissist and stop trying in the relationship yourself. Well... true. You don't want to *wrongly accuse* someone of being a narcissist and use it for an excuse to not try in your relationship. However it is critical to note that there *is* such a thing as narcissistic personality disorder and by pouring your everything into those people - you absolutely *will not* get a loving partner out of the deal. They will take and take and take and demand more and more and more... it's an actual personality disorder. And I feel that Tony and Sage didn't mention that, at all. Another segment shown was Tony counseling a couple on the brink of divorce. The wife had just started her own business, and the husband had just retired. The husband stated that the wife was his only interest or hobby in life. And , of course, Tony encouraged the woman to "give 100%" to the husband. I'm sorry, but if you are making someone else - another human person - your only interest in life, that smacks of mental illness and co-dependence. It's not fair, to either party. It's too big of a role for anyone person. Anyway, I felt strongly that the advice should have been for the husband to look for opportunities to develop more as an independent person (some guy friends, some hobbies, ) AND for the wife to compromise and not spend as much time at her work and DO spend more time with the husband. And the third way I felt Tony Robbins was a bit off - Tony said the past is passed so not to let it upset you in the present. He used his own sad childhood. He said -- so what my mom used to pour liquid soap down my throat and make me be ill before school? Boo hoo! Uhm, actually that's some fairly significant abuse. That's a great reason to be upset. Now, ideally a person could get over their past. But some things need to be talked about and healed. I think it is unwise to advise people to "stuff" things. Though if that's what worked for Tony, personally, I commend him. So, thought provoking for sure.... of course Tony Robbins, is Tony Robbins - multi-millionaire life coach to the stars and I'm... well.... me.... so.... there's that. Photo: Pixabay Sci-Fi search results , user Acekreations