Which one are you?

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@nzlz123 (6473)

Indonesia

July 2, 2021 3:19am CST

there's at least 2 types of people. One is an open book and Two is close book. The open book type of people is easily tells people or at least their loves one about their problems, they worries, what they like and they don't like, what make them upset, how they are feeling and so on And the close book type of people is the opposite of that. They tend to keep it to themselves. All their problem, their worries, and how they feel, they keep it even from their loved one. Because they feel people just curious and don't really care. so which one are you? the close or open one?

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@yoalldudes (35040)

• Philippines

2 Jul 21

After being hurt a lot of times, I feel like I am turning into a closed book.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

That's bad, i mean you got hurt lot of times. It changed you then i guess

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

2 Jul 21

@yoalldudes , me too sometimes my heart aches for I cannot voice a sentiment especially family's problem.

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@yoalldudes (35040)

• Philippines

2 Jul 21

@cacay1 It is a culture in our country to value family second to God. In western culture, you try to be independent and get rid of toxic people even if they are family members for your own mental health and happiness.

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@LadyDuck (457918)

• Switzerland

2 Jul 21

I am very private, but I am not a closed book, I share my worries with the few people I trust.

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@LadyDuck (457918)

• Switzerland

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 I agree, it is important to have someone to whom to go to ask for help.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

that's good. it feels good to have someone to trust and to shared

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@LadyDuck yes, even if it only one person, better than nothing i guess

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@prashu228 (37526)

• India

2 Jul 21

I am a closed book..

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@prashu228 (37526)

• India

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 yes..some circumstances makes people a closed book most of the times

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

same here

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@prashu228 yes i agree, and sometimes it good sometimes it sucks

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

2 Jul 21

Humans are hard to define due to individual differences. I usually keep the problems to myself to avoid conflict no matter how hurt I am.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 yes, true many are insensitive even a member in a family.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@cacay1 couldn't agree more. Eventho what we need sometime just question like "are you okay?"

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

i really can relate to you. Too bad sometimes peole doesn't think about others feeling

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@Shiva49 (26199)

• Singapore

2 Jul 21

I like to put all at ease whether family or at workplace. When I am open, others too are. At times, some have had bad experiences to make them behave the way they do.

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@Shiva49 (26199)

• Singapore

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 I am quite open but I also watch who I am with!

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@Shiva49 true because we can't and shouldn't trust peole easily

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

i totally agree, so you are more like open book then?

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@S4mmyboy (3266)

• Mumbai, India

2 Jul 21

I keep all my worries to myself and don't share. The reason is, I don't want my closed ones to worry along with me. Worries bring in tension, sadness and depression which I don't love to share. I don't mind sharing my woes with strangers, if they are ready to lend an ear, but never to loved one So I don't know, if am a closed or an open book

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

maybe tell your closed ones about the problems or something that makes you worried is not that bad? i mean they can give you some solutions tho

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@S4mmyboy (3266)

• Mumbai, India

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 I take your advise.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@S4mmyboy thank you, it's an honoured

@sjvg1976 (41131)

• Delhi, India

2 Jul 21

I am the both as there are few things which I don't tell to my loved ones otherwise I often tell whatever happens in my life to my loved ones.

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@sjvg1976 (41131)

• Delhi, India

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 yes it depends on the things.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@sjvg1976 yes i agree, eventho we trust that person, we can't still tell them anything

@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

oh i see, so it depends on the things then?

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@DianneN (246643)

• United States

3 Jul 21

I’m a bit of both. I leave my bookmark inside.

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@DianneN (246643)

• United States

9 Jul 21

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

10 Jul 21

@DianneN okay thank you, good to know :)

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

4 Jul 21

but which one are you the most? closed one or open?

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@meowch (2220)

• United States

2 Jul 21

I used to be an open book. But then I realized whatever I say people use it against me. So nowadays I'm a closed book.

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@meowch (2220)

• United States

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 I come across as shy not talkative at all. I don't mind people think of me that way instead of people being too nosy in my life. Being a closed book it's guarantee for privacy and safeness.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

@meowch i totally agree with you, but sometimes the closed book people need someone to share with

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

oh yes that make sense, i can relate too

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@Rashnag (30598)

• Surat, India

2 Jul 21

I am both at times

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@Rashnag (30598)

• Surat, India

3 Jul 21

@nzlz123 yes dear

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

oh so it depends then?

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@lazydaizee (6736)

• United Kingdom

2 Jul 21

I normally keep things to myself, so I suppose I am a closed book. However , the people close to me normally guess when there is something wrong, so I have to tell them eventually. Which are you?

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@lazydaizee (6736)

• United Kingdom

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 When people notice there is something wrong, it is good to get it out in the open and then sometimes the problem can be solved.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@lazydaizee yes that's why i said that i'm glad you still have that kind of people in your life. sometimes eventho we're already close to each other, they don't seem to notice that

@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

I'm glad that people close to you notice when there's something wrong with you. For me i'm more closed book

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@Butterfingers (66585)

• India

2 Jul 21

This depends on my mood. There are times when I'm open book and other times I'm closed

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@Butterfingers (66585)

• India

2 Jul 21

@nzlz123 yes because when I trust a person I be an open book

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@Butterfingers i see, so it has to do with the right person then

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

oh it makes sense, so s it depends on the people too? like you choose only few people?

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@MarieCoyle (28429)

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2 Jul 21

My book is almost closed. I share with the people I feel comfortable about sharing my heart with, but I am not one to blab about my feelings to just anyone. I think when people are hurt, or bad things happen to them, the book shuts down some. Plus, you learn from time and from others that some things are just better off not discussed with some people. A delicate balance, I guess.

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@MarieCoyle (28429)

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2 Jul 21

I have a tendency to keep things to myself more than most people do. I am sure it has a lot to do with past hurts, but then again, when someone blabs your personal business, you learn quickly to just not share it anymore. I am thankful for the few people who I can trust and who trust me. Not violating that trust is one of the best gifts a person can give or receive.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

@MarieCoyle i agree on "it has a lot to do with past hurts", yes i agree, to trust and be trusted is one of things we should be grateful

@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

oh yes i totally agree, it still feels good that we have some people - our close ones to share with. i guess if we keep it all to ourselves for a long time we can explode

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@ThatDisha (4010)

• India

3 Jul 21

I come somewhere between both types i tell my worries and feelings to those who i think can understand my situation:)

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

i agree, we can't just tell our worries to people easily except our trusted and close one

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

@ThatDisha right, have people who we can trust and rely on is one of the greatest thing that happened to us

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@ThatDisha (4010)

• India

3 Jul 21

@nzlz123 Yes:) but am quite lucky to have a bunch of people whom i can trust

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@snowy22315 (169888)

• United States

2 Jul 21

Closed..there is only one person I tell about most of my issues.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

2 Jul 21

that's good eventho you only have one person to shared about. better have one than nothing i guess

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@prinzcy (32322)

• Malaysia

3 Jul 21

I don't usually share all. You'll know my problems but not all my problems. I won't tell unless I feel it's necessary, which usually I won't.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

Oh i understand, and i think it depends on the people too?

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@vandana7 (98787)

• India

3 Jul 21

I am open book now. I used to be close book but that did not help. I would have anger issues, and I was also so crammed up in my mind - overwhelmed with my emotions and self pity that I would end up getting angry without being able to explain why though in my mind I was clear why. It was kinda other feelings rushing before the actual feeling. I feel far more relaxed and have more patience than before. It may or may not be the right thing to do. But this is how it is.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

that is the right thing to do i guess, instead of keep it to yourself and make you explode better to share it with someone so you can feel relaxe and like what you said have more patience. it is give you good effect, i'm happy to hear that

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@janethwayne (5193)

• Philippines

3 Jul 21

I think I am a mystery kind of a book if I may say it about.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

oh that's interesting, is the mystery solved yet?

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@florelway (23095)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

3 Jul 21

I am both.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

4 Jul 21

that's good

@Gitaafiana_2 (29)

• Pakanbaru, Indonesia

3 Jul 21

I prefer to be open, It's not easy to be open to someone we don't know. That's always a problem for someone to make friends. Be an open person, don't wait for someone else to open up to you. If you want to be a good friend, learn to be open to others.

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@nzlz123 (6473)

• Indonesia

3 Jul 21

yes but i think we should be selected with who we can be open, not everyone is worth it