Remembering loved ones who passed away

@S4mmyboy (3266)
Mumbai, India
August 5, 2021 11:37am CST
Its been exactly 33 years yesterday since my dad passed away. He had a paralytic attack and was on bed for 3 years before he passed away. I was barely 14-15 then.... Since he was buried in my hometown which is almost 700 miles away from where we all stay now, we don't visit the grave anymore. So every year we just have a remembrance prayer for him in our local church. My mom always used to tell me, there is no point or say its of no use decorating the graveyard, placing garlands /wreath or flowers at the gravestone after the death, make drama and let people know that you loved your parents. One should care about/shower love/respect their parents when they are alive. So these words always haunt me till now, I have always tried my best to be a good boy and never disobeyed (maybe I was too young to misbehave) . So always express your love and gratitude to your parents by respecting and honouring them
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@snowy22315 (170262)
• United States
5 Aug 21
Yes, of course we should appreciate our parents while they are alive, but there is nothing wrong with putting flowers or a wreath at a grave. if their spirit can see you..they would probably be happy they have not been forgotten. Also, it is a nice touch. I did that a couple of years ago at my grandparent's graves. I had not been to either cemetary since they passed. I was glad I did.
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@snowy22315 (170262)
• United States
5 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy I agree really
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@snowy22315 thank you
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
5 Aug 21
I have always respected my parents and my 2 sons do respect me also.
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
5 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy , It is not easy to raise children, it takes a lot patience
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
@marlina..glad to know that....such parents are always considered lucky...thank you
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
@marlina very true....I fully concur with you on this.
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9 Aug 21
Great memories of your deceased father Sam. My father also left the world 10 years ago. I still live with his memories and the love, respect and attachment for him will lie for eternity. Everyone has highest appreciation for their parents who are next to Gods.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
9 Aug 21
Very true... Thank you very much. Sorry about your loss too.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
5 Aug 21
Sorry for your loss. I can definitely relate. You have forever memories with you.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
Thank you @CarolDM
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
5 Aug 21
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
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• Rupert, Idaho
6 Aug 21
All I really know to say is that I am sorry to hear that.
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• Rupert, Idaho
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy no problem...
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@MommyOfEli2013..thank you
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Very true
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
Thank you
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy you're welcome
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 21
Beautiful words by your mom...
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
@prashu228 Yes I always remember those words
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
5 Aug 21
You mom is a very smart woman
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@BelleStarr...yes she was..... Thank you very much.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 21
Very true, people should not taken their parents for granted. They raised you well and I'm sure you've made them proud.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy Happens to many of us, I guess. But they raised you to be a respectful person, that's important.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
9 Aug 21
@cahaya1983 yes thank you very much
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
8 Aug 21
@cahaya1983...well I never behaved rude with them, but there are few things which I regret for not listening to their advise.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
6 Aug 21
You had a very smart mother.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy I've been sick for several days. I quit the new job last week and then got sick over the weekend. I had a headache that made reading hurt, so stayed asleep as much as I could. (I was also throwing up everything I tried to eat. It wasn't fun.)
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@DaddyEvil thank you so much. DE you seem to be very busy nowadays. Hope all is well at your end. Are you busy making more money for Pretty?
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@DaddyEvil Ohh dear.... Did you have fever or just headache?..... Oh man..... Am so sorry
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@DianneN (247083)
• United States
6 Aug 21
So sorry your dad passed away so young. I agree. Love should be expressed while our parents are alive. You know in your heart they were loved.
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@DianneN (247083)
• United States
9 Aug 21
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
7 Aug 21
@DianneN...thank you so much.... Very true
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
9 Aug 21
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@anya12adwi (6043)
• India
6 Aug 21
True words spoken by your mother! I am sorry for your loss!
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• India
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy He is always there with you and would be blessing you!!
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@anya12adwi thank you once again
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@anya12adwi...thank you
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@Anqaya (3033)
• United States
13 Aug 21
I'm so sorry friend. Yes, remembrance days are hard to live.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
13 Aug 21
@Anqaya...thank you very much
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@Anqaya (3033)
• United States
16 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy Welcome
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
5 Aug 21
Sorry to hear that They must be seeing you from somewhere and feeling proud for raising such a child
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
5 Aug 21
@ThatDisha. ..thank you
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@RebeccasFarm (86787)
• United States
6 Aug 21
Thank you for sharing this. You are so right. RIP to your dear Dad. You were a good son dont worry. He sees you I am sure. That is a long way far to go to grave. Both my parents have passed too RIP I have a few regrets but know in the end love is all that matters.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@RebeccasFarm thank you for your comforting words.. ..sorry about your loss too
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• United States
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy Thank you too Sam
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@jstory07 (134473)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Aug 21
You should always show your love ones how much you love them while they are alive.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
11 Aug 21
@jstory07 very true.... Thank you very much
@LadyDuck (458648)
• Switzerland
6 Aug 21
I am sorry for your father. My mother used to say the same, show to people that you love them when they are alive.
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@LadyDuck (458648)
• Switzerland
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy It is very true that once people are no more they cannot appreciate what we do.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
Thank you. Wow thoughts are alike of our moms
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@JudyEv (326063)
• Rockingham, Australia
18 Aug 21
My husband and I feel the same about anniversaries and birthdays. We still celebrate them but feel it's more important to be kind and loving to each other every day and not just make a special effort a few times a year.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
18 Aug 21
Very true @JudyEv
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
10 Aug 21
I'm sorry about the loss of your dad. I think I would tend to agree with your mom. Once gone, I don't think our loved ones are with their physical body anymore. I think remembrance is just as meaningful distant or near
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
10 Aug 21
@FayeHazel thank you very much..... True
@CuriousGab (3251)
• India
6 Aug 21
Sorry for your loss Your mother is very right. My grandfather also got paralytic attack and was on bed for almost 5 yrs... It is very hard to see our loved ones in that condition
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
@CuriousGab thank you. sorry to hear about your grandpa.
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• India
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy Thankyou
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