Old MyLot Cover Discussion
By vikingswest
@Vikingswest1 (6305)
United States
August 24, 2021 1:43pm CST
A discussion here over a decade ago still sticks with me. The truth is that many of them stand out in my mind.
This discussion was wildly popular and had many responses.
I'm curious if the same reactions and responses will be given 15 years later.
Is the original experience you had on a trip or a concert or any other big event more rewarding than the memories of that event?
You experience things one time but you can relive it thousands of times through your memories.
Which is more rewarding, the event or the memories of the event?
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
I think that memories are more valuable to me than the event was when I experienced it.
I can see why your memories are most important
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@Hannihar (129458)
• Israel
26 Aug 21
@CarolDM
I have many memories of my grandfather that I will always remember. I have a picture of him and my grandmother and one of my grandmother and her family and also pictures of my grandfather when he was younger. The older pictures of him I do not have but remember him in mind every day.
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@Hannihar (129458)
• Israel
26 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1
My grandfather was very important to me and even though I only had him for 14 years I will always remember him and how much he loved me and how much I loved him.
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@dgobucks226 (34356)
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24 Aug 21
When your going through the event your emotions whatever they are would be most heightened. You would also feel most rewarded during this time. However, when one recalls that moment again, that same emotional satisfaction returns, almost as if it was happening again. I would say both feelings are rewarding to you, but one is in the moment the other a reflection of that moment. There might be a slightly more euphoric reaction the first time around as some details tend to fade over time. How do you feel about the topic and my explanation
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
You make a good point.
Your memory may even smooth out the bad parts over the years too.
I feel the same euphoria felt initially can actually bring greater euphoria 50 years later through memories.
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@dgobucks226 (34356)
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27 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 I see what your getting at.... especially if one has a selective memory (just kidding).
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
24 Aug 21
It sure will be memories. I have a favourite corner where I reminisce on memories. I have a huge stock of those.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
25 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 All of us could write books on our memories
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
@allknowing
My guess is that some will have very short books but others will need several volumes to cover it all.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
I sometimes sit on the old swingset in the backyard near the campfire pit.
I'll think of the fifteen years that my backyard was the most popular place for my kids and their friends. I can close my eyes and almost hear the laughter and see them playing.
I have a large stockpile too
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Aug 21
For me it varies widely. I can say "I went to a Yes concert in Chicago!" But the fact is that the music was way too loud and the nuances of their music lost. I have some fond memories that don't work well as a story, but were wonderful while they were happening.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
I get that.
I have some events that grew greater in the memories than they were initially.
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 I wonder if I have any that grew greater as memories.
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@lovebuglena (43074)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Aug 21
Is it okay to say it's a bit of both? The memories of the event do not have exactly the same amount of emotion as the actual event does. The event has more as it's in the moment.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
I don't have rules lol you can say whatever you want.
Both the event and the memory of the event are rewarding, you're right.
I think back on my childhood memories with such fondness but sure wouldn't want to relive some of them hahah
@lovebuglena (43074)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 If I recall attending a certain concert I don't feel the same thrill, excitement, etc. that I did when I was actually there. But recalling the experience does bring some sort of a positive and joyful emotion for sure.
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@lovebuglena (43074)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 I am not a huge fan of remembering experiences that were not happy ones. Sometimes remembering those can make me feel worse.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
The memory of the experience will last you a lifetime. You can look back fondly when you're old and gray.
I think more will think of it the way you do. Maybe some older members will find memories more rewarding.
Thank you for your thoughts
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@snowy22315 (169937)
• United States
24 Aug 21
YOu aren't going to tell us what the discussion was about?
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@snowy22315 (169937)
• United States
24 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 Hmm, quite possible. I know the anticipation of an event is usually better than the actual event.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
@snowy22315
I think of a first date where everything went wrong but the memory of that first date is more rewarding than the actual date was.
@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
24 Aug 21
It was about whether the memory of an event is more rewarding than actually attending the event.
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@kaylachan (57635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Aug 21
in my opinion, the memories you make rather good or bad. Those are what stick with you for the rest of your life.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
That's what I think too. Over time they increase in importance.
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@RebeccasFarm (86755)
• United States
27 Aug 21
The event itself is great but the memories keep me alive.
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@RebeccasFarm (86755)
• United States
29 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 I mostly live on them
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
27 Aug 21
Memories sure can make a bad day better sometimes
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@aninditasen (15732)
• Raurkela, India
25 Aug 21
Memories are always sweet no matter how trivial they are in the past as events.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
Yes. Memories you carry with you can be more important as time passes.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
26 Aug 21
@aninditasen
You're absolutely right
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@aninditasen (15732)
• Raurkela, India
26 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 They sometimes become your inspiration.
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@Hannihar (129458)
• Israel
25 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1
I would say the event is very important because it is happening in the moment but the memories you will have forever and if you have pictures you will always have them to look at. That was interesting that you liked this particular post.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
This particular discussion went on for days and days. Many of the responders would come back and change their opinions based on what others said.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
26 Aug 21
@Hannihar
There was a much greater population here at the time this discussion was first posted.
It was common to have 30 or 40 responses to most discussions. A good discussion brought 80 to 100 responses.
I'm a little surprised that the majority of responders chose memories over the actual event.
I didn't expect that.
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@Hannihar (129458)
• Israel
26 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1
Now, we will see since you brought it back how long it will go on this time. People do change answers.
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@everwonderwhy (6697)
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25 Aug 21
Memories. They give me great sense of hope and happiness.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
Me too. I sometimes go through the old schoolwork the kids did over the years. I love reading the journals they both kept every year in elementary school.
It's fun reading about my wife and I through their eyes. It always brings floods of memories.
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@jefferson126 (3051)
• Shenzhen, China
25 Aug 21
In my opinion,both of them are rewarding,the memory was attributed to event,both of them are integrated as a whole.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
Very good. They both are equally rewarding.
I also think, as a person ages, the memory becomes more valuable.
An example would be playing games with other kids when we were young was no big deal. Just an everyday event. You didn't necessarily attach any significance at the time.
But now when you think back to those times, you recall them with a fondness you didn't have when you created the memory.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
@jefferson126
It can be sad but some memories have a way of coming back to you after a book or a specific food or aroma or a walk in a familiar park triggers them years later.
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@jefferson126 (3051)
• Shenzhen, China
25 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 ,yes,i think so,in addition,as we aged,we accumulated more memory.but in the meantime,we would forget some past experiences,personally,i can't recall what happened before i am 10 years old.as time went by,i think i will forget more happened before older age.,it's so sad.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
I think so too. An event lasts a short time but memories last a lifetime
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
28 Jan 22
I never saw this until now. Sorry.
Another response pointed out that the anticipation of the event added to the value too. I guess that value should be added to the event side.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
Yes. However great the experience is, it lasts only a short time where the memory will last until your last breath.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
26 Aug 21
I think you're right. You don't always realize the importance of events until years later.
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@arunima25 (85274)
• Bangalore, India
25 Aug 21
Your experience end up being the memories and they can be good memories or bad ones. We live the experience for short time but memories can be there forever.
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
25 Aug 21
Yep. I agree. Memories last a lifetime.
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