Asking Blood and I Cannot

@Shavkat (137215)

Philippines

January 6, 2022 3:12am CST

One of my friends is asking for my help and that is to donate my blood. As far as I know, she is undergoing a blood transfusion while being surgically operating her right fractured ankle. I cannot do this because I do not want to see blood. I explained to her the situation and she felt bad for it. Am I a bad friend? Image Credit: clipartstation.com

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@LadyDuck (458152)

• Switzerland

6 Jan 22

You do not even know if your blood group is compatible. You are not a bad friend, your friend should have not asked.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

I agree. The point is she did not ask me ahead of time and is making me in a rush moment.

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@louievill (28851)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

Even if it's not compatible it could always be swapped with a compatible one in their blood bank if he qualifies. Donors can be rejected through pre-screening if they have had diseases like hepatitis, dengue or AIDS.

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@LadyDuck (458152)

• Switzerland

6 Jan 22

@Shavkat - This is something you have to plan, not to rush there and donate.

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@franxav (13603)

• India

6 Jan 22

For a blood donation you need not see your blood, neither anyone else's blood. You could have just kept your eyes shut and given your blood.to your friend.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

The idea of being described by you sounds fine. But it is not for me to have all the requirements before doing bloodletting for her sake.

@aureliah (24319)

• Kenya

6 Jan 22

Is your blood compatible? If you can save a life go ahead and do it. I totally understand you

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

Actually, she did not even ask about my blood type.

@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

14 Jan 22

@aureliah I agree.

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@aureliah (24319)

• Kenya

10 Jan 22

@Shavkat She had no reason to feel bad

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@Shivram59 (31777)

• India

7 Jan 22

@Shavkat Do you and she have the same blood grou??

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

14 Jan 22

That's a big question. She did not tell me about it.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

14 Jan 22

@Shivram59 I think she does not need my blood now.

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@Shivram59 (31777)

• India

14 Jan 22

@Shavkat Then ask her first.It's very necessary.

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@Rashnag (30598)

• Surat, India

6 Jan 22

It's ok dear. It's your choice after all. Still one needs to help a friend when in need.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

I agree. It should not be an obligation on my part.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

7 Jan 22

@Rashnag I can help her with other things and not like this for now.

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@Rashnag (30598)

• Surat, India

6 Jan 22

@Shavkat True indeed. Then don't think much. You can help her in getting another donor if you want to help her

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@JimBo452020 (42629)

• United Kingdom

6 Jan 22

No you are not a bad friend If you don't want to give blood then do not give blood.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

I agree. I just felt guilty because her message is making me obliged, which I should not be.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

7 Jan 22

@JimBo452020 Thanks. I need to convince myself that I did the right thing

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@JimBo452020 (42629)

• United Kingdom

6 Jan 22

@Shavkat No need to feel.guilty at all.

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@louievill (28851)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

Giving blood is a donation, it's voluntary so no one should be coerced into doing what is against their will . It's similar to donating an organ like your kidneys. If I were in your shoes and I have hemophobia but honestly care for the person, I would most probably just give money to buy a bag of blood through a blood bank. I don't think she has the right to feel bad since she's the one asking a favor.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

It sounds desperate for her to ask this favor. I assumed the blood bank in Red Cross ran out of blood. I just felt bad because she is insinuating that we are best friends. For me, she is just a friend but has never been the best.

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@xstitcher (30302)

• Petaluma, California

13 Jan 22

I cannot give blood either--to many medications in my blood.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

14 Jan 22

I just do not want to share my precious blood because of being scared.

@DaddyEvil (137142)

• United States

6 Jan 22

Yes, a terrible, terrible friend... No, you aren't. If you knew your blood type matched hers and she told you before-hand that she'd like you to donate, then telling her no right before you needed to do it would be a different story.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

This is also what is running in my mind when she sent a message about it. I cannot just drop all the things planned for this particular day and donate blood to her. I am not sure if she is panicky with this concern.

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@DaddyEvil (137142)

• United States

6 Jan 22

@Shavkat If that happened to me, it would depend on what I already had planned whether I'd drop them to help her out... I'd guess she is scared and hoping you'd show up as much for comfort to her as for your blood. I could be mistaken but kinda doubt I am.

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@JudyEv (325798)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Jan 22

Of course y you're not a bad friend and your blood may not be any use to your friend anyway.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

7 Jan 22

I agree. Besides, I am scared of being in a hospital.

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@petatonicsca (7070)

• Japan

6 Jan 22

I always look away from the needle and sing to myself and I'm ok. Otherwise I get faint feeling.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

I can deal with the needles thing but not to endure like having dextrose. I cannot deal with butterfly needles or something.

@arunima25 (85328)

• Bangalore, India

6 Jan 22

I used to donate blood every six months before I got diabetes. You don't need to see your blood. It's okay if you are not comfortable doing it. I pray that your friend gets help from someone else.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

Let me share my thought about it. Despite I am scared of the blood thing, I do want to help her but it is not the right time.

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@arunima25 (85328)

• Bangalore, India

7 Jan 22

@Shavkat Maybe it's a sudden call and you were not ready for it. Hope that she got the needed help and is doing good.

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

7 Jan 22

@arunima25 I hope she is fine now. I am sorry that I cannot help her this time. I was really caught off guard with this matter.

@Iqbaleee (125)

• Tangerang, Indonesia

6 Jan 22

I guess that doesn't make you a bad friend, because you have a fear of seeing blood, after all are your blood compatible?

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@Shavkat (137215)

• Philippines

6 Jan 22

That's a big question! She just texted me to donate my blood and not even mentioned what blood type that she needs.

@Shaqueela (25)

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7 Jan 22

You are not bad friend dear. To Donate blood also have some requirements for your body and health condition. it shouldn't be compelled.

@May2k8 (18079)

• Indonesia

7 Jan 22

you don't have to feel you are bad you honestly say to her.

@rebelann (111178)

• El Paso, Texas

7 Jan 22

No, it is not a bad thing, giving blood is a personal decision.

@freelancermariagrace (27219)

• Philippines

7 Jan 22

No, you are not a bad friend at all. And Anna is right, your blood may not be compatible

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7 Jan 22

I've donated blood, the needle is very big and feels lumpy...