Recipe For Longevity

Anna

@LadyDuck (459538)

• Switzerland

1 Feb 22

@Kandae11 - Thank you. I do not say here that it has always been easy, but we managed to go on and aging are more and more compatible.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

1 Feb 22

@LadyDuck, very nice suggestions

it's very important to be compatible.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

First of all congratulations on 50 years of marriage, you're an inspiration. Yes indeed - without compatibility there will be problems.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

31 Jan 22

Though I'm single what I could suggest are the following : 1. Respect 2. Trust 3. Listen don't compete talking to your man or woman 4. Settle the grudge before evening comes 5. Don't overrule arrogance 6. Be sweet and gentle. 7. Settle dispute in a calm way. All these, I believe could help marriage or relationship to last like Forever

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

1 Feb 22

@Kandae11

yes, at least. It's not good to sleep heart at rage.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

I totally agree - those ingredients are a must, especially #4.

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Mildred Tabitha

@mildredtabitha (16088)

• Nairobi, Kenya

31 Jan 22

Thank you for this tips you shared

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69409)

• Germany

31 Jan 22

I find the title of your post puzzling. 'Longevity' means living a long life and has nothing to do with being married or not. 'Recipe for a long marriage' would be clearer, wouldn't it? I was married for more than 40 years. I can't answer your question, though. I think it's easier to give reasons why people separate than why they stay together. One marries with the intention of staying together, doesn't one? So separating needs an explanation, not staying together.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

I feel the tags about love, marriage etc which are in plain sight would be a clear indication of the kind of longevity the post is about. I don't like titles that are too long.Thanks anyway.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

Why then do some people separate and some stay together? It means that some couples work harder at keeping their marriage intact than others. Togetherness for 10, 20, 40 or 50 years won't be a non stop honeymoon, there will be ups and downs but with the right ingredients it can survive.

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Dena Miller

@Dena91 (15908)

• United States

1 Feb 22

Mike and I celebrated our 30th-anniversary last month. Our secret is simple, we put God first in our marriage. We also make each other laugh every day. We listen to one another and do things together.

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@askme123 (6150)

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1 Feb 22

That is nice

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Dena Miller

@Dena91 (15908)

• United States

1 Feb 22

@Kandae11

@Kandae11 (53695)

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1 Feb 22

Putting God first would definitely help to keep a relationship stable.

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Jim Bauer

@porwest (78759)

• United States

31 Jan 22

I liked what Henny Youngman once joked about the secret of his long marriage. "We dine out twice a week. She goes on Tuesdays and I go on Fridays." lol

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

Ha ha.But seriously it could work. Some claim that having separate bathrooms did the trick.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

@porwest Ha ha l don't think so.

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Jim Bauer

@porwest (78759)

• United States

31 Jan 22

@Kandae11 I wonder if separate houses would be even better? lol

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Rashna Gandhi

@Rashnag (30594)

• Surat, India

31 Jan 22

Nice image. I am single so no idea. I would like to see other people's replies here too

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

31 Jan 22

@Rashnag

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

Great. Singles could also list their expectations.

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bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50973)

• Holiday, Florida

31 Jan 22

I would have still been with my hubby had he lived. I'm sure. Because we had a mutual respect for each other and a 50/50 partnership. We discussed all decisions to be made. We were perfect for each other and soul mates

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bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50973)

• Holiday, Florida

31 Jan 22

@Kandae11 20 yrs. He would have been 83 yrs. Yes, I know I still miss him

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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1 Feb 22

@bunnybon7. You will always miss him. So sorry.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

I am sorry to hear of his passing. How long ago was this?

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Juliaacv

@Juliaacv (48614)

• Canada

31 Jan 22

I have been with my hubby, between our dating days and our married days, for 40 years in March. He still turns my head, is my best friend and makes me laugh, we have the greatest adventures ever, and those have not stopped, I think that is our secret.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

Awesome! And yes - being able to make each other laugh is a big plus.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (307405)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

31 Jan 22

Mine failed due to a lack of communication. Communication is vital in any relationship. Trust is another component of a good relationship. Without either, you're doomed to failure.

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@askme123 (6150)

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1 Feb 22

Some men still keep looking They don't respect their marriage and their partner.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (307405)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

31 Jan 22

@Kandae11 You're welcome.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

Indeed. Without communication one is heading for disaster.Thanks for sharing.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99423)

• Atlanta, Georgia

1 Feb 22

I think it’s sharing equally and being kind and loving to your partner.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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1 Feb 22

I agree. Selfishness would definitely cause problems.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99423)

• Atlanta, Georgia

1 Feb 22

@Kandae11 and likely divorce.

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Mildred Tabitha

@mildredtabitha (16088)

• Nairobi, Kenya

31 Jan 22

I'm looking forward to seeing the responses since I've never married. Hoping to use the tips in my future marriage. Nice post. That's a pic of a beautiful couple

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

I hope you find some helpful tips. Young love is beautiful too.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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1 Feb 22

@mildredtabitha You are welcome.

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Mildred Tabitha

@mildredtabitha (16088)

• Nairobi, Kenya

31 Jan 22

@Kandae11 Thank you for the kind words

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Simone

@Janet357 (75656)

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31 Jan 22

At least one should be very patient and mature. Put God in your relationship and everything will be okay.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

God in the relationship is a very important ingredient.

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CarolDM

@CarolDM (203451)

• Nashville, Tennessee

31 Jan 22

We are all different and have to find whatever works best for us.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

Some of us must learn the hard way. What works for Peter might have the opposite effect for Paul.

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CarolDM

@CarolDM (203451)

• Nashville, Tennessee

31 Jan 22

@Kandae11 You are correct.

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Qiana Malayeka

@qianamalayeka (84)

• Indonesia

1 Feb 22

a good discussion, lots of good tips here, i really respect the couples who can last long in their marriage ^^

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@askme123 (6150)

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1 Feb 22

Look at Dolly Parton. She has the perfect marriage.No cheating rumors about her husband.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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1 Feb 22

I agree, quite a number of good tips. Are you married or plan to be?

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Qiana Malayeka

@qianamalayeka (84)

• Indonesia

1 Feb 22

@Kandae11 I'm married, it's been 12 years, how about you?

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snowy

@snowy22315 (170663)

• United States

31 Jan 22

Interested in hearing the responses

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

So far so good. I wish l had heard some of these responses before l got married.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (86839)

• United States

31 Jan 22

I have no experience of this but I would say mutual respect may even be a good base for relationships.

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OceanTiara

@RebeccasFarm (86839)

• United States

31 Jan 22

@Kandae11 Yes because without respect there is no love, at least in my thoughts.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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31 Jan 22

I agree with that. - most definitely.

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (73774)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

1 Feb 22

My late husband and I were soul mates and we had a lot of love between us now I can only wait till we meet again up above, I am not going through another relationship but I would not mind having a good friend to go places with,

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (326247)

• Rockingham, Australia

1 Feb 22

I don't really know the answer. We have been married 50 years but we've ups and downs along the way. I guess being willing to compromise and always trying to respect your partner would be important. And having fun together too.

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@askme123 (6150)

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1 Feb 22

Did he ever cheat on you during those 50 years of marriage.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (326247)

• Rockingham, Australia

1 Feb 22

@askme123 No, he didn't.

Sorry but I find that question very funny.

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@Kandae11 (53695)

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1 Feb 22

I know there will be ups and downs in every relationship - but the mutual respect that you mention and other qualities would help navigate the down times.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (76481)

• Germany

3 Feb 22

Hubby and I celebrated our 40th anniversary last year. I agree to what @LadyDuck commented.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (459538)

• Switzerland

4 Feb 22

@thelme55

Congratulations for your long marriage Thelma.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (76481)

• Germany

6 Feb 22

@Kandae11 Thank you very much.

@Kandae11 (53695)

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3 Feb 22

Congratulations! I wish you and hubby many more years together.

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