Recipe For Longevity

We celebrated last month 50 years of marriage. There are no secrets or magic formula, patience, understanding, keeping your mouth shut when you are angry, if something hurt you, you can tell without arguing. Love is only one ingredient for a good marriage. You need to be compatible. If one of the two loves to go out every night, see friends go to parties and the other loves to stay at home, this marriage will not last.

Though I'm single what I could suggest are the following : 1. Respect 2. Trust 3. Listen don't compete talking to your man or woman 4. Settle the grudge before evening comes 5. Don't overrule arrogance 6. Be sweet and gentle. 7. Settle dispute in a calm way. All these, I believe could help marriage or relationship to last like Forever

I would have still been with my hubby had he lived. I'm sure. Because we had a mutual respect for each other and a 50/50 partnership. We discussed all decisions to be made. We were perfect for each other and soul mates

Mike and I celebrated our 30th-anniversary last month. Our secret is simple, we put God first in our marriage. We also make each other laugh every day. We listen to one another and do things together.

I liked what Henny Youngman once joked about the secret of his long marriage. "We dine out twice a week. She goes on Tuesdays and I go on Fridays." lol

a good discussion, lots of good tips here, i really respect the couples who can last long in their marriage ^^

I have no experience of this but I would say mutual respect may even be a good base for relationships.

I have been with my hubby, between our dating days and our married days, for 40 years in March. He still turns my head, is my best friend and makes me laugh, we have the greatest adventures ever, and those have not stopped, I think that is our secret.

Mine failed due to a lack of communication. Communication is vital in any relationship. Trust is another component of a good relationship. Without either, you're doomed to failure.

I don't really know the answer. We have been married 50 years but we've ups and downs along the way. I guess being willing to compromise and always trying to respect your partner would be important. And having fun together too.

I think it’s sharing equally and being kind and loving to your partner.

Nice image. I am single so no idea. I would like to see other people's replies here too

At least one should be very patient and mature. Put God in your relationship and everything will be okay.

We are all different and have to find whatever works best for us.

Interested in hearing the responses

My late husband and I were soul mates and we had a lot of love between us now I can only wait till we meet again up above, I am not going through another relationship but I would not mind having a good friend to go places with,

Hi and happy new year! Besides loving each other to bits and pieces, I think respect, humor, and affection are important. So are no money problems lol

Hubby and I celebrated our 40th anniversary last year. I agree to what @LadyDuck commented.

I think the recipe for longevity in a marriage is for both the husband and the wife to have a belief and faith in God. Also important is to keep the flame of love alive, have trust and a sense of humour. It could be beneficial to have "date nights" even when you are married, and always remember why you fell in love with that person in the first place.

I've only been married for 13 years, so I'm no expert, but here's what I learned. * Respect should be number one, out of everything else, I found that to be one of the most important for me. * Don't try to change your significant other. You got them as they are and should love them as they are. With that said though: * Communication is everything. If something is wrong you shouldn't suffer in silence. * In the heat of the moment, things that shouldn't have been said and didn't mean, are thrown in the air and they hurt. Wait until you're both calm, and figure out where the problem really lies. Half the times, it's not even your significant other's fault (it could be stress from work, it could be hormones, or a misunderstanding etc). * We are simple people and we found that works in our favor, as we come from 2 different cultures and upbringing. We don't bother with anniversaries, Valentine's days, religious stuff, useless expensive gifts. It may sound weird for some but it helps keeps our focus to what matters: truly being there for each other, for both the good times and the bad. * Sometimes it's better to be quiet than to be right (and that goes for both men and women). * People change, whether due to age or circumstances. Be supportive of their new interests and hobbies, but also be mindful if they're headed on a destructive path. * And last but not least, absolutely no lies. Not even small ones. If you're always truthful to each other, very little can go wrong. That's my take on the subject anyways.