May 26, 2022 12:54pm CST
My mum called me at 4 in the morning couple of days ago and I got so worried. Apparently my ex had asked them if he could ask for my hand in marriage. He told them he had made the biggest mistake of his life by breaking up with me. And he's got no excuse than the fact he was scared to commit and now he is and he is sure he loves me. This has left me quite confused and stressed as now I am in a new relationship. I don't know if my sadness is out of pity or love. And I don't want to hurt anyone. Whichever I do I will end up hurting someone and that really makes me even more stressed.
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Stay away from this horrible, selfish and coward man. As he understood he had no chances with you, he played the card to talk to your parents to ask your hand in marriage. Is he kidding? Why not to ask to you first to be sure you agree? Do he consider that you are an "object" to ask to your parents and then you will be "his" object? DO NOT marry this man.
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It is quite a tricky situation to give advise too as it has so much at stake and it's hard as you have not met the person. I don't even know him too well and if I can trust him and his words. Also I don't know the new guy much as we've only been dating for 2 months.
Now when you're in a new relationship, that's rather perplexing. I believe you should think about it carefully. I believe you should prioritize your new relationship over the one you had previously. In terms of your ex, I believe he's learned his lesson. Because he was hesitant to commit, he shouldn't have acted harshly. But, if I were you, I'd probably be content with your newfound love. I believe now is the time to nurture and build your relationship in order to take it to the next level. Finally, figure out where you are now happy. If it's the current, stick with it; if it's not, it's probably time to be honest with yourself.
@flapiz I'm glad you decided to continue your existing relationship. I believe he had his chance, but didn't show his true feelings for you. I hope you didn't make the wrong choice here and be happy with it and finally find the one you want.
@flapiz I don't know if I could trust the first boyfriend if I were you, because I remember all the time you tried to make it all work out and he simply did not try at all or acted like he cared. I mean...he really hurt you terribly... this is just my opinion. In the end, you will have to go with what you feel is right for you.