Pop in Unexpectedly / myLot

Toccoa, Georgia

July 11, 2022 2:45pm CST

There is a friend of my husband who he has known from college days who lives in our town and seriously, on occasion, he will just pop in on us. He won't call before hand. He just pulls up in the driveway and rings the doorbell. When we answer, he will sit around and talk for hours. I always thought it was odd. I would never do that to people, just pop in and not call beforehand. Do you have friends who do that?

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much2say

@much2say (53944)

• Los Angeles, California

11 Jul 22

I would never do that . . . my parents always thought that was rude to not call beforehand. Hubby used to do that with his circle of friends, but down the line he realized it was a bit nervy with other friends, so he stopped that habit

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

11 Jul 22

I was taught that as a child also.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

12 Jul 22

@marlina Now that I think back, I had an uncle who would pop in on my parents. It drove my Dad nuts.

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Marlina

@marlina (154165)

• Canada

11 Jul 22

Growing up we had tons of relatives showing up not anounced.

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Ron Rybs

@Ronrybs (17838)

• London, England

11 Jul 22

It has been a fair old while since that has happened and until now I hadn't thought about it. Can't say I miss it

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

11 Jul 22

I'm glad it has been awhile for you.

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (71663)

• United States

27 Sep 22

I do have friends who have done this and I don’t like it. It’s considered pretty uncommon now to do it but when I was a kid people dropped by my parents house to visit all the time.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

27 Sep 22

Yes, now I am remembering an uncle who used to do that all the time when I was a kid.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (58027)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

11 Jul 22

No. Not really. My sister-in-law called us while we were at the vet today, and she stopped by for a few minutes.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

11 Jul 22

That's good she called beforehand.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (58027)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

11 Jul 22

@LeaPea2417 She did, which I'm grateful for. But, it was awkward because I didn't bother to bring my earbuds.

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (95545)

• Marion, Ohio

12 Jul 22

I dont mind when they do that. Real friends dont have a problem if you already have plans. They will leave.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

12 Jul 22

That's very true.

Dena Miller

@Dena91 (15907)

• United States

13 Jul 22

Before Mike and I married we talked about having people over. We both came from families where there was someone over all the time with our parents and neither of us liked it as a kid. So we decided we wouldn't have a revolving door as our front door. We have people over seldom. We are happy. I think it is rude of your husband's friend not to make contact before coming over. What if you and your husband had plans already?

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

13 Jul 22

One time I remember years ago, we did have to get up early the next day to go somewhere. The friend popped in the night before and stayed till midnight. We did mention how we had to get up early the next day.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (134508)

• Roseburg, Oregon

12 Jul 22

My friends always called before coming over. They were afraid I would not be home.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (458829)

• Switzerland

12 Jul 22

NO, our friends know that this is something we both would not appreciate a bit.

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Marie

@Tampa_girl7 (49090)

• United States

21 Dec 22

That’s a very rude thing to do to someone. It’s been a long while since that happened to us.

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@DaddyEvil (137142)

• United States

12 Jul 22

Before the pandemic, yes. Most of the time it didn't matter. We weren't doing anything or planning on going anywhere. When it was inconvenient, I'd just tell them we're busy and they'd leave. *shrug*

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69413)

• Germany

11 Jul 22

Is it not possible to tell him in a polite way that you'd appreciate a call before a visit?

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36486)

• Toccoa, Georgia

11 Jul 22

We should do it. I don't know why we haven't

Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (58048)

• Centralia, Washington

23 Jul 22

Years ago we did. Hubby sure got angry about such doings.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (326098)

• Rockingham, Australia

12 Jul 22

When I was young, no-one had phones and that's what everyone did. But now it seems to expected that people will ring first. I certainly appreciate knowing that someone is likely to call in.

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