My neighbor is so unlucky, she married a man with HIV

By Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83223)

Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

August 11, 2022 6:48am CST

My neighbor didn't know the man she married has an HIV. They were married 3 weeks ago and only just recently learned her husband has an HIV. He met the man through her friend. Her friend didn't also know. Many neighbors learned for that day our neighbor was running around the street shouting in madness.

. She wanted to kill her husband. She calmed down when the police intervened. Her husband lied to her this eternal health problem on HIV. She was advised to see a doctor for a blood test. This time they were separated to avoid constant war. The newly wed wife wanted to commit a suicide. She's so desperate. The husband should have used protection if he truly loves his wife. He's a shameless human spreading his endless virus It will be better for both parties to submit health certificate before something else happens. Would you agree for both lovers to submit a health certificate? Image credit to Facebook gif

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@LadyDuck (457822)

• Switzerland

11 Aug 22

Here, the man would go straight to jail, but usually people have a full medical check before get married.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

11 Aug 22

@LadyDuck, here none just trusting each other which is wrong for me. I like that law having full medical check up before getting married.

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@LadyDuck (457822)

• Switzerland

11 Aug 22

@cacay1 It is not a law, but those who want to get married want to be sure not to have physical transmissible problems.

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@Laurakemunto (12862)

• Kenya

11 Aug 22

It's good to go for the check before anything

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@merrybelle2021 (1389)

• Philippines

11 Aug 22

When she has calmed down, maybe she can go to the PAO (Public Attorney's Office) and ask if their marriage can be annulled.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

11 Aug 22

@merrybelle2021, I'll tell her about your suggestion. She's so unfortunate.

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@sjvg1976 (41131)

• Delhi, India

11 Aug 22

Truly speaking. Both a girl and a boy should go through the complete test before marriage. This man should be punished severely for ruining the life of this lady. I dont know what the punishment they give to a person here in India.

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@sjvg1976 (41131)

• Delhi, India

12 Aug 22

@cacay1 wise people ask for it before the marriage and it's good to have it.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@sjvg1976 , it seems there is none here doing it. HIV is present anywhere, it is just kept secret for those patients, but they should also refrain from infecting other innocents

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@sjvg1976, it's horrible, that sickness is transmissible. The wife surely be infected. It's so sad, the man didn't disclose he has HIV. He ruins the life of his wife. I agree to the idea to have full medical check up before getting married.

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@CarolDM (203454)

• Nashville, Tennessee

11 Aug 22

Not a secret that needs to be kept for sure.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@CarolDM, the man should have told his wife of his HIV. He's so cruel inhuman.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@CarolDM, she's in total ruins.

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@CarolDM (203454)

• Nashville, Tennessee

12 Aug 22

@cacay1 Totally agree.

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@Laurakemunto (12862)

• Kenya

11 Aug 22

So sad I can imagine how thee lady feels

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@Laurakemunto, she's so scared. She wants to end her life

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@Laurakemunto, she's counselled.

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@Laurakemunto (12862)

• Kenya

12 Aug 22

@cacay1 she needs counseling

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Sam The Godfather

@DevMrSamEleazar (13701)

• Philippines

11 Aug 22

oh that is so bad. Well I am new in that kind of virus but does that thing can kill?

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@DevMrSamEleazar, it's AIDS, it's no curable but life could prolong with some medications for it. You have to be careful to who you would want to be in a relationship.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@DevMrSamEleazar you're welcome Sam.

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Sam The Godfather

@DevMrSamEleazar (13701)

• Philippines

12 Aug 22

@cacay1 oh I see thanks for letting me know.

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@MGjhaud (23154)

• Philippines

12 Aug 22

HIV testing must be normalized. How cruel and selfish of him. My heart breaks for her.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@MGjhaud, yes her husband is so cruel traitor.

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@rsa101 (37932)

• Philippines

18 Aug 22

I guess the only remedy I see there is they could annul their marriage since now disclosing this disease is annullable in so many angles. As to her condition, I think if they already had many intimate contacts with him then there is a high probability that she has the virus as well. I think it is indeed best for them to separate already since they cannot live as a couple anymore. The trust is broken already and is irreparable for now. HIV is a serious and life time disease that once you have it, it will stay with you forever.

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@rsa101 (37932)

• Philippines

18 Aug 22

@cacay1 That is unfortunate consequence.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug 22

@rsa101, so true their marriage is good as nothing , irreparable, trust gone and hatred prevails. The husband is to blame. He's an idiot for not disclosing his lifetime sickness. The wife sad to say infected with HIV as per result of the blood test.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug 22

@rsa101, yes and she feels so unlucky. She's still not going out ashamed to face people especially she's infected

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@jobelbojel (34729)

• Philippines

12 Aug 22

So it is important nowadays to really know the person first before making the decision to get married. That's a shame.

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@jobelbojel (34729)

• Philippines

13 Aug 22

@cacay1 exactly.. I feel sorry for the wife and feel bad about the husband.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@jobelbojel this day her mom told me the blood test result confirmed she's infected with HIV.

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@jobelbojel, it's very necessary to avoid problems. Regrets come at the end so better be prepared than sorry.

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Dr Souvik Chatterji

@sathviksouvik (17925)

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12 Aug 22

i think easy solution is to get divorce and marry some one else

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@sathviksouvik, how could she remarry if she's infected with HIV?

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@58lordstreet she's positive of HIV test results revealed this afternoon. Her mom told me.

@58lordstreet (1669)

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12 Aug 22

@cacay1 she can take tablets so she doesnt pass it on and also use protection

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@pitsipeahie (4277)

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12 Aug 22

Usually couples would undergo full medical check up before marriage. What happened that they did not even think of it?

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@58lordstreet (1669)

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12 Aug 22

is that usual ? Ive never been married so I wouldnt know

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@pitsipeahie, they might have trusted each other. She's so badly hurt.

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@58lordstreet, it's not usual if one doesn't engage sexually with a person with HIV so better have a full medical check up before getting married.

@porwest (78761)

• United States

11 Aug 22

What a terrible thing to have happen. What kind of a man would not disclose such a thing even if it meant the end of a relationship?

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

he's so cruel, dishonest. He should have told his wife his sickness and accept the end of their relationship rather than say it after having done their acts as husband and wife. She's planning to sue her husband.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@porwest they're going to court on Monday. The wife is confirmed positive of HIV. The parents are so mad. They want to know the penalty. Many said it's wrong for the man to marry considering his sickness.

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@porwest (78761)

• United States

13 Aug 22

@cacay1 I actually think he should be in jail. In fact, I thought there was a law about disclosing HIV. Either way, it's a terrible thing.

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@florelway (23095)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

27 Aug 22

@cacay1 Oh my, that's a very devastating news for her. How old is the new wife? How did she know her husband is affected with it. It's alarming Cacay, we live in the same area so no one can tell the disease could be rampant.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

27 Aug 22

@florelway, she's turning 29.Her husband confessed to his wife 1 week after their marriage.

@sica98 (2441)

• Malaysia

11 Aug 22

Just like Anna said,same thing here people get tested before getting married. Pre-marital health screening in Malaysia is often required when couples submit their wedding registration. I hope that your friend get a full medical check up after this.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@sica98, that's a good law I hope Congress would submit a law like that to protect the citizens of the Republic.My friend is scheduled for a blood test tomorrow morning at 8 and she will be accompanied by her parents and some close relatives to protect her from harming herself.

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@sica98 (2441)

• Malaysia

12 Aug 22

@cacay1 Cross fingers that everything will be ok.I hope she will be all right.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@sica98 , I hope for a miracle be upon my neighbor for we all know how this virus transmits to others. The wife learns only after 3 weeks after their marriage plus those moments they cannot resist their urges. The husband is to blame for his cruelty.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36428)

• Toccoa, Georgia

12 Aug 22

Yes they should both submit health certificates. Also if I were the woman, I would divorce the guy.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@LeaPea2417, she surely divorces her husband. her parents are planning to see the court next week. Tomorrow is also her schedule for the blood test. She is accompanied by her parents and some close relatives to comfort her in case she is positive of the HIV

@RasmaSandra (73326)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

11 Aug 22

The man should be hanged, but of course, that won't happen, If the wife has a good health checkup, she should get an immediate divorce and start all over again and next time, have the guy get a health check-up but I guess she won't trust anyone for a while,

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@RasmaSandra my friend is scheduled for a blood test tomorrow morning at 8. She's so afraid. She will be accomplished by her parents and some close relatives to protect her. They're afraid what she would do if infected with HIV

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Paula Tranchina

@Ganma7 (3664)

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12 Aug 22

I agree with Anna

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

13 Aug 22

@Ganma7 I agree too

@sarik1 (6765)

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12 Aug 22

Sad to know.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@sarik1, yes, it's a heartbreaking happening in my neighbor's life. She can't bring back the hands of time. If only regrets happen before the effect... It's so bad.

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@Adie04 (17360)

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12 Aug 22

So sorry to hear that news. For me, I insist the man I am to marry next time to get HIV test first.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@Adie04 it's the best thing to do before getting into marriage.

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@58lordstreet (1669)

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12 Aug 22

that would be a horrible thing to learn considering that the person with HIV can take a tablet and wont pass it on to their partner....its called prep as far as I know

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

12 Aug 22

@58lordstreet, the guy was so careless and selfish. He should have told his wife so they can both solve his problem. They're now at a total loss.