Heated argument

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@luisga814 (6913)
Quezon City, Philippines
August 21, 2022 9:37pm CST
Good morning. It's 10:23am of Monday. My sons are already in their first day of face to face classes. Me, few minutes from now, I'm about to do my nap in order to gain strength for my night work shift later. Anyway, last night, I woke up at 10:30pm because hungry. I ate my dinner. I'm too tired in which I force myself to sleep early at 5pm as my neighbor is singing out loud with their karaoke. Then after dinner, I opened the computer of my youngest to continue watching the Netflix "Money Heist", I'm already at Season 2 Episode 4. Then about 12midnight, my eldest woke up and opened his laptop. He opened immediately his laptop. I have no intention to stop him in using his laptop at that time. I just ask him, what time he's going to sleep because I'm worried for his first day of classes at 7:30am and I don't want that he's sleeping or dizzy while on the class. You know what I mean as a parent. He almost cried and telling I'm trying to stop his usage his laptop. I got mad. I don't throw anything to him physically but telling something that he needs to take care of his health. I'm not stopping him to use the computer, he needs that, just trying to convince him to lend enough time to use. I'm almost in a heart attack last night. My wife was crying while asking me to take Amlodipine. I'm sorry my son for being over protected to you. All of you, Sam, Kyler and your mother are all important to me. We don't have enough money to have in the hospital if there's a need. I hope you understand. Sorry for this long message. Sorry.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
23 Aug 22
Sam wrote a discussion about it, too. It can be really hard to be a good parent. I'm sorry for the misunderstanding and hope the two of you talk about this when you have time.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Aug 22
@DaddyEvil Yes. I'm trying all my best to be a good father but I'm not that perfect.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
23 Aug 22
@luisga814 You don't have to be perfect to be a good parent. And I firmly believe you and your wife are good parents.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Aug 22
@DaddyEvil thanks for understanding. I do understand that Sam is not that mad. He's just some tantrums that time.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
22 Aug 22
It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong though. You just helping your son do his best
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
22 Aug 22
Children have to be supervised and corrected. Most children’s parents see that children are in bed early when they have to get up to go to school. Children can’t be left alone to make their own decisions.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@FayeHazel I was still sleeping when they've gone to the school. I don't know what Sam feels right now.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@RubyHawk thanks for the comment. I do appreciate with this.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
23 Aug 22
I dont find anything wrong you did. I was also wondering what Sam will do once the school opens as he was so addicted to mylot. I warned him this when he joined the site. I know it's not easy to find out the times once you're studying. It is a better decision if gives more time for the studies than any site. You did fine as a parent, I would have done the same with my kids too.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Aug 22
@sjvg1976 he goes back to school. And with myLot, he only do about 2-3 hours a day unlike during school break, it's more than 6 hours. I don't know how many hours he will do here in myLot as yesterday, government announced class suspension due to Typhoon.
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@RebeccasFarm (86833)
• United States
22 Aug 22
You are being a reasonable and caring loving parent. Kids today should not get angry but they do. I understand you. And you are working so hard to take care of everyone. So sorry this happened dont feel bad Luis Your son should listen and be grateful to have you.
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• United States
22 Aug 22
@luisga814 I hope he was up for school
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@RebeccasFarm He's already sleeping when I woke up before my work shift.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@RebeccasFarm Yes. I'm hoping so that with this face to face class, he will do his best.
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@LadyDuck (458890)
• Switzerland
22 Aug 22
I was going to ask about your son Sam as he disappeared from myLot, I suppose it is because he is back to school. I understand your reaction, just try to be less angry when you talk to your sons, they are going to think you are against them.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@LadyDuck he didn't disappear in myLot. He changes profile name.
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@LadyDuck (458890)
• Switzerland
22 Aug 22
@luisga814 I have to check, I cannot find him.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@LadyDuck NightowlSam
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@porwest (78759)
• United States
23 Aug 22
For generations, parents have struggled to have their kids understand that they speak from years more experience, and kids have struggled to accept and understand the wisdom. Your plight has been fought through time and will be fought through time with their own kids one day. Younger people always think they already understand everything—funny how we all get older and one day realize... Our parents were right.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Aug 22
@porwest I agree with that.
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@LindaOHio (157012)
• United States
22 Aug 22
You were just trying to make sure that your son wasn't too tired at school.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@LindaOHio Yes. That's my point.
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@gtdoss (1013)
• United States
23 Aug 22
The reaction of a parent really can't be understood by the child until that child is a parent. I think about the things that my parents stopped me from doing or made me do that made me mad, and now, as a parent myself, I totally understand where they were coming from.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
23 Aug 22
@gtdoss I know that my son will not be mad at all. He understood what's I'm coming from.
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22 Aug 22
being a parent is hard. hope you all are better!
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@NatsuYeung Yes being a parent is to hard. I do believe that my sons know what I've wanted to be with them.
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@Beestring (13368)
• Hong Kong
22 Aug 22
I think you did the right thing to remind your son to go to bed earlier. He'll understand when he calms down.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
22 Aug 22
@Beestring Yes. I'm hoping so.
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