Do you think people should know the family history?
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (141905)
Philippines
February 21, 2023 9:55am CST
In my view, we need to be aware of both of our parents' sides of the family tree. It is how it will complete our lives knowing them. Unfortunately, I do not know my mom's relatives or parents. When she was still alive, she never talked about them with us. She never discussed them with us when she was living. It appears that she wished to forget everything negative from her history.
Do you know your family clans on both parents' sides?
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
22 Feb 23
I know the history of both my parents and was briefed about my in-laws family history by my husband.
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@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
24 Feb 23
@aninditasen I agree, people should know about each other's families before getting married.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
24 Feb 23
@Shavkat Yes, In India it is said that marriage takes place between two families and therefore family history information is shared before finalizing a marriage.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
22 Feb 23
I can agree more with you. I was keep on using my Facebook account to search my mom's relatives in the visayas part. As far as I can remember, her father has Spanish blood and a US Veteran. With the said course of action, there is no lead about them.
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@rsa101 (41005)
• Philippines
22 Feb 23
I was familiar with the family on both sides growing up. To a large extent, I grew up with my mother's side of the family. My father's side is a little different because I was unable to see his parents when they were alive because they passed before I was born. Nonetheless, my father makes sure I see his relatives. We never had the chance to become close to my father's siblings because they were primarily living abroad by this point, though I do know them all and occasionally talk to them.
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@rsa101 (41005)
• Philippines
22 Feb 23
@Shavkat My family may not be close to the relatives on my father's side, but there aren't any obvious sibling rivalries, so I notice how different mine is. We were unable to form a strong connection with them because they are just separated by location. Yet, I am confident that they would get along well if they ever had the chance to meet. The same is true on my mother's side, although when I was young, I had the opportunity to interact with a large family gathering that included blood relatives.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
23 Feb 23
@rsa101 My familt and I used to be close with my father's siblings. It all changed because of inheritance issues. Although we still have connections with the cousins. I guess we are all fine and civil at some point. We can blend them easily because we were trained to be like this by my biological parents. They are just do not like us. Thus, the feeling is mutual.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
22 Feb 23
I know a fair bit about my family history. It's not very interesting 
My sister is into genealogy so she's done a family tree. There isn't a great deal to know but we can go back a a good way on my dad's side and several centuries easily on my mum's side.
I do think it is important to know family history in relation of health. It has been an issue with my son as his father doesn't know his history, which would have been helpful when my son was going through various tests.
Of course, it may be that your family simply doesn't have that information. Or the possibility that there are reasons that the family can't or doesn't want to share the information.
My sister is into genealogy so she's done a family tree. There isn't a great deal to know but we can go back a a good way on my dad's side and several centuries easily on my mum's side.
I do think it is important to know family history in relation of health. It has been an issue with my son as his father doesn't know his history, which would have been helpful when my son was going through various tests.
Of course, it may be that your family simply doesn't have that information. Or the possibility that there are reasons that the family can't or doesn't want to share the information.1 person likes this
@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
22 Feb 23
It is ideal to know the family history for the sake of knowing the medical history. Whatever my mom's reasons, I do respect her for not telling us. She did say certain things but not fully and managed to filter some of the information, too.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
21 Feb 23
I know about both sides of my family to a point. My parents come from big families, so there is a lot to cover. On my father's side, apparently someone in Canada created and plotted a huge family tree on a wall . . . it would be interesting to check that out someday.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
25 Feb 23
@Shavkat I grew up knowing all of my mother's siblings and my cousins. I only knew less than half of my dad's side as the rest were in Japan. As for grandparents, on my mother's side, I only knew my grandfather - but half my life he was bedridden and could not speak . . . my mother's mother passed away when she was 9 so I never met her. My dad's side, I only met my grandmother who came here for about a week . . . my grandfather had long passed away by that time.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
22 Feb 23
I have not met grand parents from both sides and now it would only be of academic interest to know who my ancestors were although this got discussed by elders occasionally
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
22 Feb 23
@Shavkat One guy has written a book after meeting individuals and doing some research himself. I have yet to read that book
@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
23 Feb 23
@allknowing I hope you could see it and knows more about your ancestors. If it happens in my family, I might be the first one to do it.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
22 Feb 23
I also wanted to know more about my mom's side. However, there is no lead how to know them. I tried to use the Facebook to search possible relatives, but we cannot find essential information. I do agree with you that we can know our ancestors.
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@wolfgirl569 (135910)
• Marion, Ohio
21 Feb 23
I never knew my grandparents on my mom's side as they passed away before I was born. But I know about their medical history and things. That is an important thing to know
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@zulfrontado (199)
• Puerto La Cruz, Venezuela
21 Feb 23
I have met some of my family. But, I think it's not that necessary, unless you need to have blood donated or something.
Sometimes it's hard to know your whole family tree.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
22 Feb 23
I agree with you. In my father side, I did know them all despite it is considered a big family. We knew them since birth, but we cut our tie with them three years back. It is because of inheritance issue. In my mother side, I only know her siblings without knowing the relatives.
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@zulfrontado (199)
• Puerto La Cruz, Venezuela
27 Feb 23
@Shavkat Inheritances separate families, that's sad.
@astutimeliana723 (4686)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 23
Yes I know my father's and mother's brothers or sisters, but I don't know any of their distant relatives from the same great-grandparents, except for a few.
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