Parents with challenges

@JudyEv (323662)
Rockingham, Australia
March 18, 2023 8:32am CST
The photo has nothing to do with the post. One of our nieces has four sons. They are all highly intelligent, very musical but also, to a greater or lesser degree, on the autism spectrum. They have been home-schooled from time to time and now range from 12 to about 19. The oldest has a beautiful voice and plays a mean French horn. He will be coming to Ireland at Easter to spend several weeks with us. He is probably least affected. The second boy is probably the worst affected but is a very talented trumpet-player. He is starting to find his niche in the world of astronomy and enjoys taking groups through the Perth observatory with his father. The third boy has just returned from a robotic competition held in the Eastern states. He was involved in two teams, both of which did very well. Both teams have been invited to Houston for an international competition. The 12-year-old is the one we took to the motor museum. He knows just about all there is to know about motors and is a keen photographer.
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@DWDavis (25820)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
18 Mar 23
With all the literature and the ever-expanding classification of what constitutes autism, eventually, we will all find a place on the spectrum. Sometimes, I believe the term is too widely applied and has become a scapegoat diagnosis for what are, in truth, quirks in young people's personalities. I have taught several children who show clear signs of autistic behavior and others who were diagnosed as "on the spectrum" who acted and behaved no differently than their peers.
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@DWDavis (25820)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
20 Mar 23
@JudyEv This excellent article explains ASD very well if you're interested in learning more about it. Kaiser Permanente. (2016, August 5). Autism risk in younger children increases if they have older sibling with disorder. ScienceDaily. Retrieved March 20, 2023 from
www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/08/160805230101.htm
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Mar 23
@DWDavis Thanks for the link but I couldn't open it. I think I found it via a different pathway but still couldn't get the full story.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
I'm sure you're right. It must be a very difficult thing to diagnose. The youngest one seems very 'normal' but apparently can really go off the deep end if something upsets him. We haven't seen that side of him. To us, he seems like most other 12-year-olds.
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@moffittjc (118197)
• Gainesville, Florida
18 Mar 23
Sounds like all four of the children are very gifted and bright. I hope that throughout life they focus on their strengths and not on their autism. I think they will all have happy, successful lives.
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@moffittjc (118197)
• Gainesville, Florida
22 Mar 23
@JudyEv Isn’t it amazing how gifted and smart many special needs individuals are?
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Mar 23
@moffittjc It's like all our gifts/personality traits are on scales and some higher being gives you more of this but then you have to have less of that. If you get my drift.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Thanks. They are finding their own places in society and managing quite well. They are certainly gifted and in most cases in several fields.
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@shaggin (71573)
• United States
19 Mar 23
The 12 year old sounds spot on for autism they find something they like and learn every there there is to know about it. Obsessively at times. My son is on the spectrum as well but most times you’d never it.
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@shaggin (71573)
• United States
20 Mar 23
@JudyEv they usually do unless they are non verbal etc that’s when it’s even more heartbreaking.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Thankfully they are all growing up and finding their particular niches in life.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Mar 23
@shaggin Non-verbal would be just awful.
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
18 Mar 23
That are awesome. I hope my son will also found his passion. I'm so happy for them
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Thanks. Does your son have a particular passion?
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
20 Mar 23
@JudyEv he likes gaming (who doesn't) but he is way ahead into gaming like he can search things that he likes to do on the game. he uses modifications in his game that I do not know how he got to know.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Mar 23
@rakski Hopefully he will find his own niche in the world. Maybe he'll end up designing new games and buy you a new house.
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• Eugene, Oregon
19 Mar 23
Those kids sound like they can do really well in life. I hope knowing they are on the spectrum does not hold them back.
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• Eugene, Oregon
20 Mar 23
@JudyEv Sounds as if they are doing well.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
I don't know what they sort of know about themselves but they are all finding their place in the larger world. Just the one is still quite reclusive. They are all very clever so hopefully they'll find a niche for themselves.
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@Beestring (13054)
• Hong Kong
18 Mar 23
They are talented boys. Do you notice any symptoms of their autism?
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Mar 23
@Beestring Certainly one is. I'm not sure about the others
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Yes, we do from time to time. They don't have a lot of social skills and can be quite withdrawn.
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@Beestring (13054)
• Hong Kong
20 Mar 23
@JudyEv I see. Are they seeing a therapist regularly?
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
18 Mar 23
All four being that way could be a real worry for the parents but they all seem to be quite talented.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
It is really hard work for the parents but they are doing a fine job. I'm sure all the boys will be useful members of society in time.
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
18 Mar 23
They all seem to be very talented.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Yes, that's true. The parents are clever too but the boys seem particularly so.
@rebelann (110754)
• El Paso, Texas
18 Mar 23
I've only met one autistic child, he was very protective of his mother and when I began to talk to her he was concerned and told his mom that she shouldn't talk to me because she didn't know me. Up until then I had always thought autism was when a person didn't communicate well with others.
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@rebelann (110754)
• El Paso, Texas
20 Mar 23
You'd know more than I about it.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Autism shows itself in many different ways I think. It affects each child differently.
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@RebeccasFarm (84363)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
18 Mar 23
Well these boys are more than gifted bless. That photo is glorious. The parents of these boys are to be commended.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
It was a huge moon that night. Such a glorious sight.
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@LadyDuck (454850)
• Switzerland
18 Mar 23
I know that those with Autism often excel in something. Those boys seem to prove that this is true.
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@LadyDuck (454850)
• Switzerland
20 Mar 23
@JudyEv They are talented young men.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
They all have a speciality that they excel in.
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@LindaOHio (153176)
• United States
14 Apr
Sounds like the boys have all found their own niche. Great picture.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Apr
Yes, they are getting themselves sorted slowly.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
18 Mar 23
Looks like all boys are very talented ones .
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Yes, they are all very clever.
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19 Mar 23
Did they provide teachers for their children in their home or they teach by themselves?
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Mostly the mother has done the teaching although they have gone to a regular school from time to time.
@snowy22315 (168368)
• United States
18 Mar 23
Funny, that they were all effected. However, it sounds as though they will all be fine.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Maybe it's something to do with the genes of the parents. They don't mesh well perhaps. But I too think they'll all be fine eventually.
@wolfgirl569 (93502)
• Marion, Ohio
18 Mar 23
It sounds like all of them are very well adjusted.
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@JudyEv (323662)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 23
Considering their diagnosis, they are well adjusted. I guess we do see them mostly at their best.
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