What type of person are you?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (16568)
Philippines
April 28, 2023 1:30am CST
How do you say to someone that you dislike something in her/him? Do you sugarcoat your words or state directly what you think - even if it hurts the person?
Do you say, "You look ugly in your eyeshadow?"
or do you say: "Your eyes are beautiful but the eyeshadow doesn't suit you."
Which type of person are you? Blatantly honest? Or sweetly diplomatic? Which statement applies to you?
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21 responses
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
28 Apr 23
I am both, depending on the situation and the rapport that I share with the person. And most of the times, I just ignore it if it's none of my business Or I don't need to confront.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
28 Apr 23
@Jenaisle Yes, I would agree there. I gel with almost everyone. I keep my expectations real and don't like to overcomplicate things. I don't let many things bother me. Good for my peace of mind 

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@Jenaisle (16568)
• Philippines
28 Apr 23
@arunima25 I assume, you could be a good leader or team player. You make a lot of sense.
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@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
28 Apr 23
I still think that when speaking, especially to strangers, using euphemisms is ideal. I believe that you can only be brutally honest with someone you are already most familiar with. It is preferable to choose your words carefully when speaking to new acquaintances to prevent offending them.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
28 Apr 23
No, one just because I dislike a look on a person doesn't mean I have the right to say something to hurt their feelings. One its none of my business how someone wears their makeup or why they wear makeup. Some people have strong insecurities and make up can be a comfort or it can be a way for them in self-care. My 12-year-old wears make up because it makes her feel good. Even though I tell her she doesn't need it she is pretty with or without make it it makes her feel secure and that is what matters most.
If it's an action or act they are doing I don't like, like they throw things because they are angry. I would say hey I understand your upset, but this behavior isn't appropriate way to show it. throwing and breaking things because you mad. There is place where you can do that but not in my house or to my things.
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@Jenaisle (16568)
• Philippines
28 Apr 23
@ShyBear88 Oh, I see. You're an empath, I can sense it from your answers to discussions. That's right we should do what makes us happy without judgment from other people.
I understand what you feel for your kid too. I am a parent too. Thanks for your contribution, you make this discussion more interesting.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
28 Apr 23
@Jenaisle It comes with being the third child and emotionally broken at times. It's easy to look from the outside in. I take pole classes and read smutty books because they make me feel good. There's no judgment and looks, or size it's just me being me or me falling into something that fills me with a guilty pleasure.
My kid's emotional and mental wellbeing is part of being a parent. I can't make my kids see them the way I do any less than I can make myself see what others see about me. Like I tell my husband him calling me beautiful is nice but there is always something about someone else saying nice things about me that makes you giddy. I'm not only empathic I am empathic to those around me. I walk into a room those Icloseses to I can tell their mood from one look. Great physic ability but also draining at times.
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@MarieCoyle (59246)
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28 Apr 23
Truthfully, as long as the person is clean and well groomed, that's all that really matters. I don't like it when people let themselves go and always wear dirty clothes and such. I find that rather unpleasant. But as for colors or make up or hair, that's their choice, so I don't say anything.
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@Jenaisle (16568)
• Philippines
29 Apr 23
@MarieCoyle It's the same with me, Marie. What's inside a person (heart and thoughts) counts more than what is outside (appearance).
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@MarieCoyle (59246)
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29 Apr 23
@Jenaisle
We all have our preferences as to what we like and don't like. The outside, surface stuff is easier for me to overlook than a mean spirit or an evil heart.
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@m_audrey6788 (58468)
• Germany
28 Apr 23
I`m the person who really don`t say anything about other peoples attitude or looks not unless they asked me
Then, I will tell them my honest opinion in a nice way 
Then, I will tell them my honest opinion in a nice way 
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@allknowing (153530)
• India
28 Apr 23
As Somerset Maugham said one does not have to be unnecessarily frank and I follow that rule. If someone asks me for my frank opinion then I will give my opinion.
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@Jenaisle (16568)
• Philippines
28 Apr 23
@allknowing That's a good act. and were you able to help her?
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@allknowing (153530)
• India
28 Apr 23
@Jenaisle Only if it helps a person. While I was working there was a lady whose mouth would smell while she was talking I brought that to her notice and she was grateful
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@Marilynda1225 (91116)
• United States
28 Apr 23
I try to be diplomatic. There are certain circumstances when I wish I could be brutally honest but that's really not my nature.
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@innertalks (23741)
• Australia
28 Apr 23
To me "dislike" is a mere opinion, and I would never state about anything that I dislike. I prefer to talk about what I like in them. Sometimes, a dislike can be taken for a criticism too.
On the other hand, if they have asked me for an opinion on a certain hairdo, I might give my opinion, with the proviso that that's all it is.
And again, if I notice that my wife's collar at the back is curled over wrongly, instead of straight, I will offer to straighten it for her.
I will never openly dislike, as in criticise, something, as everyone is allowed to have their own opinion.
@Jenaisle (16568)
• Philippines
28 Apr 23
@innertalks It's a challenge that we should conquer, if we want to become better individuals.
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@zhangxueying (3362)
• China
28 Apr 23
If I am very familiar with the other party, I may directly say that if I am not familiar with the other party, I will not express my opinion
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
29 Apr 23
I'm sweetly diplomatic. I'm a southern Belle, after all. It takes us 20 minutes to say good bye and even longer to say no.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
1 May 23
I am more diplomatic than blatantly honest.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
1 May 23
@Jenaisle Yup. Tomorrow I will do April 30 and May 1!!!
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@pitsipeahie (5758)
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29 Apr 23
It depends on the situation and the person you're dealing with. As a general rule for me, I am honest but not rude. You can be truthful and yet does not offend a person with your words.
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Thank you 








That's a wise and safe reaction. I think I would do that as well. 


