Gender abuse? I don't think so
By Judy Evans
@JudyEv (327124)
Rockingham, Australia
May 11, 2024 4:15am CST
The photo doesn’t relate to the discussion.
Firstly, two pieces of information: Half our news reports lately are about domestic/gender violence which in most cases has the woman as the victim. There have been a number of spouses/partners murdered by their menfolk. The other fact is that the lady in my discussion is quite frail and has had a number of falls. Her husband is very devoted to her and very caring.
She fell the other day and sustained a cut above her eye and bruising. She was using a walker to visit her neighbour. The ambulance was called and her husband said it seemed like the paramedics suspected him of abuse. They kept him well away from her while they were treating her.
That is bad enough but then they took her off in the ambulance and didn’t tell him where they were taking her. Luckily, there aren’t too many options but he had to make several calls before he was able to find out where she was.
It’s all a bit worrying. The world seems to be going to the pack lately.
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18 responses
@xFiacre (12526)
• Ireland
11 May
@judyev Australian gender abuse is making headlines here. As you point out, it’s an horrific crime, but not all bumps, bruises, cuts and other wounds happen this way. Here a lot of people worry about taking their kids to be seen if they injure themselves in case they are wrongly accused of child abuse.
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@annierose (19601)
• Philippines
11 May
It's deeply concerning to hear about the prevalence of domestic and gender violence in your area, as well as the specific incident with the frail lady and her husband. It's unfortunate that the paramedics' suspicion added to the distress of an already difficult situation. Communication and support are crucial in such cases, and it's disheartening when they are lacking.
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@annierose (19601)
• Philippines
13 May
@JudyEv Judy, it's understandable how such a misunderstanding could be distressing for the husband, especially considering his efforts to care for his wife. It's a reminder of how important it is to approach situations with empathy and understanding, especially when dealing with sensitive issues like domestic violence.
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@AliCanary (3077)
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12 May
I feel bad for him, but it's understandable that the paramedics were cautious. Better safe than sorry.
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@JudyEv (327124)
• Rockingham, Australia
19 May
@AliCanary He was ringing hospital after hospital trying to find out where they'd taken her.
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@GardenGerty (157970)
• United States
11 May
People should not make assumptions, even when they are doing it in well meaning vigilance. I am sorry this happened to your neighbor.
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@BarBaraPrz (45702)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 May
They didn't ask what happened but immediately thought elder abuse? 
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@wolfgirl569 (96693)
• Marion, Ohio
11 May
That does happen. They often ask if you feel safe in your home here when you go to the emergency room
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@LindaOHio (159239)
• United States
12 May
Going to the pack is a new saying on me. Sometimes people are overly vigilant when it comes to abuse.
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@JudyEv (327124)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 May
That was my upbringing too but times have really changed.
@Beestring (13514)
• Hong Kong
11 May
I wonder what makes the paramedics suspect her husband.
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@dgobucks226 (34520)
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14 May
Odd behavior from the paramedics. I did not know they also dabbled in Detective work in addition to administering care. Elderly people do lose their balance. How about using a little common sense.
Statistics show in the U.S. at least, 1 in 4 people over the age of 65 fall each year.
Statistics show in the U.S. at least, 1 in 4 people over the age of 65 fall each year.1 person likes this
