Our Planned Florida Trip Makes Me Onery

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We have planned a trip in late August around the 28th, arriving back home on the 3rd of September. It's to Sanford, Florida and is about a roughly 15+ hour drive. It's not the drive that has me in an onery condition. It's not the cost either. The stock market will pay for the trip—gas, hotels, spending, everything. We're driving because I abhor flying and simply refuse to do it. Not that I have any fear of flying. It's a pain in the ass and I simply don't want to do it. It's not that I don't want to go to Florida, even though I prefer the panhandle when we vacation there. We're going to see some friends, which is the reason, and I don't mind their company. It's that this is the fourth trip we will make to see them in about 15+ years and they have never once come up to visit us. So, we make the treks. We spend the higher dollar amounts. We make the effort. We do the driving. We (when I was working) take more time off to do it since it requires four days of driving. This trip, we will stay at their house, so we'll save on hotels that way other than the 2 nights we'll need on the way there and on the way back. They say, "We'd come to visit you, but there's nothing there where you are." Well, okay. Maybe Milwaukee where we lived before was not that exciting, and the St. Louis metro area where we live now isn't either. But, what about us? Aren't we enough to just come and visit us? We'll find things to do. We have a nice backyard. A beautiful deck. A welcoming pool. We have casinos. St. Louis sports many fine dining establishments. My wife gets irritated when I tell her very sternly, "This is the last trip we make to them." Whether or not I win that argument ultimately is to be seen. Whether or not I bring the issue up when we are there is to be seen, but if anyone knows me here well enough, they know I'm not one to really not say exactly what's on my mind, consequences be damned. For me it's the principle of it. It's give and take. To my mind when you visit friends, isn't the company supposed to be the highlight more than the destination? Isn't the company enough to make it worthwhile regardless of where you spend the time? Like I said, this will be trip #4. We've done our part, if you ask me. We've made the effort. Isn't it their turn? And what does it say about our friendship if we're not good enough if the place we spend time is not "up to par?" I don't know. Am I being onery with good reason or am I just being a tool? I'd be very interested to know what your thoughts are about this.