The Ongoing Saga of The Mother-in-Law
By LooeyVille
@LooeyVille (63)
United States
July 9, 2025 7:55pm CST
Well, she and her employer did make it out to see the senior living facility yesterday. She likes it and wants to move into it.
But that's where things got fuzzy. She's got it in her head that her employer (a family friend) is going to pay all her rent and all her bills. We tried using logic on her like "Why would he do that? He's not obligated to do that." But all we could get in response was that "He's a millionaire, he can afford to pay for everything I need."
Well that may be true that he COULD, but why WOULD he? She's got it in her head that this family friend promised to take care of her when her husband died. Okay, he has. He's given her money here and there. He takes care of all of her care maintenance for free, and he created a "job" for her where she works 14 hours per week for $14/hr. He HAS taken care of her. She thinks "take care of her" means give her everything she wants and foot the bill.
So we've just decided to take matters into our own hands. We're meeting her on Monday and giving her an apartment application to sign as well as a Power of Attorney. We will make all the arrangements. We told her not to get the family friend involved anymore.
Will she listen? Probably not. But that's all we can do at this point.
So frustrating!
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18 responses
@Vikingswest1 (6557)
• United States
19h
Tough choices ahead. This transition may be difficult to navigate. When my Dad got dementia, brothers and sisters were able to help take care but there came a point where he was safer in a facility designed for his condition. He saw everyone as a stranger near the end of his time at home. He had a moment of clarity the day he was brought to the Care facility. When he realized he wasn't going home he became angry. It didn't last long, within minutes, everyone was a stranger again.
I wish you luck in all that lies ahead.
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@snowy22315 (192502)
• United States
19h
Well, who is going to pay for it? Medicare?
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@FourWalls (76487)
• United States
17h
The pain of Alzheimer’s is so multifaceted. I feel for ya.
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@GardenGerty (164657)
• United States
3h
That is so hard but it is what you will have to do.
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@LeaPea2417 (38031)
• Toccoa, Georgia
1h
Oh my goodness. That's hard. Prayers the Monday meeting goes well for you.
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@LooeyVille (63)
• United States
1h
We've already got a hiccup. Waiting for the full details. Will post about it in a few hours.
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@wolfgirl569 (118987)
• Marion, Ohio
7h
I hope she signs everything. At least it's a start
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@RasmaSandra (86782)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26m
I sure wish you the very best of luck and hope it will all work out,
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@Marilynda1225 (85253)
• United States
6h
I hope she signs that Power of Attorney as well as the apartment application.
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@aninditasen (17229)
• Raurkela, India
6h
He maybe a kind man or might be wanting to build up a relationship with your mother- in- law.
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@porwest (102970)
• United States
8h
Right. That's the best question. Why WOULD he? I have means, but those means are MINE, intended for me and my wife. Not for anyone else. Not even my mother, dare I say, or my father. Seems like you have the ducks lined up and will get things accomplished sooner rather than later. But I am sure this is a trying time for all involved...except your mother in law it seems. lol
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@luisadannointed (7797)
• Philippines
16h
That's going to be a long day, I guess, but I hope everything will be okay soon.
Maybe they have that strong bond that is why they have that trust and strong accountability for each other.
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@LindaOHio (194043)
• United States
14h
Baby steps. Maybe this is the start of something good!!!
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@MarieCoyle (46055)
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18h
I hope you can get her to sign the Power of Attorney paper...gee, can you shuffle it in the apartment papers?? Haha, kidding, but not kidding. Since she is so unrealistic about money in general, it would probably be better for someone else to be in charge of her money at this point.
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