Who has the more responsibility?

@Jenaisle (16433)
Philippines
July 17, 2025 10:11pm CST
In your culture, which has more responsibility in the family, is it the eldest adult daughter or the grandmother from the father's side? I am just wondering if we have the same culture. I am not sure about our culture, but from what I know, it's the eldest child.
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@Nakitakona (58395)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Our culture, the eldest takes responsibility but for grandchildren it's the grandma takes the greatest responsibility. Just like my wife who never sleeps if her grandkids needs aren't met.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
I see, what about house bills, etc.
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@Nakitakona (58395)
• Philippines
18 Jul
@Jenaisle It's shoulered by their parents.
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@Treborika (18069)
• Mombasa, Kenya
18 Jul
Same with our culture here
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@youless (113771)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Jul
It's hard to say. When I was a child, my dad has more responsiblities to the family. Now I grow up and have my own family. I seem to have more responsibilities as I am in charge of our property. Besides handling the income, I also need to arrange to pay for the charges. I think it depends on which one wants to take the duty or which one is smarter
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@youless (113771)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Jul
@Jenaisle I think it makes more sense
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
which one is smarter that made me smile.
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@Treborika (18069)
• Mombasa, Kenya
18 Jul
Same here. The man in the family has got fully responsibilities
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@GardenGerty (165762)
• United States
18 Jul
Unfortunately, for the most part no one except the parents are responsible. Some children or other relatives might step up and assist like you are saying, but that does not happen often.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
19 Jul
I understand. It's their primary duty anyway.
@rsa101 (40191)
• Philippines
18 Jul
The father is traditionally expected to be the head of the household. These days, though, it appears that this is already hazy because there are families where the wife is the head of the household. As long as the people do it because they love their family, I think it depends on who can do it and not on the hierarchy.
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@rsa101 (40191)
• Philippines
19 Jul
@Jenaisle l am sure many still does appreciate it and return the favor.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
I believe that's true. People do it because of love and not because of anything else. But I hope that the family would appreciate the effort.
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@LindaOHio (200675)
• United States
18 Jul
I think DE has explained it well.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Yes, he did. Thank you.
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@LindaOHio (200675)
• United States
19 Jul
@Jenaisle You're very welcome.
@porwest (107476)
• United States
18 Jul
So far as I am aware we don't really have a "hierarchy."
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
I see. I understood what the U.S. culture is.
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@Treborika (18069)
• Mombasa, Kenya
18 Jul
I too thinks so
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@id_peace (16652)
• Singapore
18 Jul
Usually it is the adult children who have the most responsibility to the family. We spend money to upkeep the family, help with the family repairs, spend time with the elderly parents, and also bring them to the clinic if they are not feeling well.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
In the P.I., it's that way, too. That's why there are rare homes for the aged here. Because family members want their parents to be taken care of at home.
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@LadyDuck (483405)
• Italy
18 Jul
Usually it's the father, but often now both man and woman in a couple have the same responsibilities.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Yes, you said it right.
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@LadyDuck (483405)
• Italy
18 Jul
@Jenaisle Right now that my husband has memory problem, I am the one with more responsibilities in our home.
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@Treborika (18069)
• Mombasa, Kenya
18 Jul
That is quite understandable for sure
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@DaddyEvil (159626)
• United States
18 Jul
I'm not sure what you're asking... In the US, the father usually has the most responsibility. If there isn't a father, then the mother does. Once kids leave home, then they're only responsible for themselves until they have a family.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Okay, the kids don't need to help the family?
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
@DaddyEvil, like sending their younger siblings to school or helping with hospital or house bills?
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@DaddyEvil (159626)
• United States
18 Jul
@Jenaisle In what way would they help?
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@rakski (147937)
• Philippines
18 Jul
in my hubby's side, it was the eldest daughter
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Yes, I think so too.
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@rakski (147937)
• Philippines
19 Jul
@Jenaisle The women usually have strong personality on both sides of our families
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@RasmaSandra (88902)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
18 Jul
usually the father is the head of the family but can share equally with the mother
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
19 Jul
Yes, there are certain instances when that works.
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@Deepizzaguy (114033)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
18 Jul
In my family it was either the mom or oldest daughter in charge of my home.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
So, many responded that way.
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@Deepizzaguy (114033)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
18 Jul
@Jenaisle That is true.
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@Shivram59 (45607)
• India
18 Jul
My parents are the head of our family. They take all decisions. Nobody can disobey them..In Hindu culture the oldest member of the family is responsible.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
19 Jul
I see. Whether it's a girl or a boy?
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@Shivram59 (45607)
• India
19 Jul
@Jenaisle It may be either of the two.
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@Treborika (18069)
• Mombasa, Kenya
18 Jul
Here in my region women have no say pertaining on the family issues. Our culture values the boy child not unless the girl child is financial stable for sure.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
19 Jul
Oh that's extreme.
@AmbiePam (102888)
• United States
18 Jul
For the most part, if those are my choices, it would be the eldest daughter. Grandmothers are supposed to have lesser responsibility as they age. At least in the traditional American home. Of course, there are always exceptions. My family wouldn’t dare have put the responsibility on my paternal grandmother over my older sister.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Oh, I think so too. We have the same thoughts.
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@marguicha (228501)
• Chile
18 Jul
I think that it depends on the family. But while the children are small, it is the parents who have the responsibility.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
Okay, that's what applies here too.
@allknowing (153542)
• India
18 Jul
I do not think there is any hard and fast rule left now To each their own Depends on each house and how each one decides. With the system of nuclear family there is no grandmother aroudn to take on any resonsibility.
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@Jenaisle (16433)
• Philippines
18 Jul
You're right.