When a couple separates you’d never expect
@shaggin (74612)
United States
September 26, 2025 9:44am CST
There are couples over the years who are what we view as the perfect marriage. Couples that you know will make it through the long haul.
I just saw on a Facebook a few days ago a post by the wife of one of those couples who announced they have been separated now for two months. That it wasn’t anything bad that happened they just married too young and are better as best friends.
It made me so sad. I hope the both of them will be happy this way. They are amazing parents even if their marriage didn’t last they have that and being able to stay friends after a marriage ends is wonderful.
I am shocked and although I am not close to the woman anymore I would love to see them get back together down the road.
A marriage like that ending makes nearly of them seem hopeless to me.
Photo is unrelated. It is a caterpillar I saw on some boots outside.
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@jefferson126 (3667)
• Shenzhen, China
27 Sep
I do think you made a wise decision,someone just can be good friend rather than couple.We need figure out whether the friend can become couple.
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@noni1959 (11421)
• United States
2 Oct
@shaggin When things go wrong, it's hard to recapture the closeness. It's good we got past the "stuff." The judge said she was amazed how quiet and calm we were. After, we had lunch together and my ex said he lost his best friend and cried.
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@RasmaSandra (91580)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Sep
My first marriage was a disaster and fate took me to my soul mate,
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@jefferson126 (3667)
• Shenzhen, China
27 Sep
may i ask how do you find out soul mate?
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@RasmaSandra (91580)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Sep
@jefferson126 soul mates are two people who are totally compatible with each other or as the Internet says
a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.
@jefferson126 (3667)
• Shenzhen, China
28 Sep
@RasmaSandra ,I nearly understand,but soul mate is not easy to meet,right?
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@AmbiePam (107738)
• United States
26 Sep
There is this one couple I know where the guy clearly out kicked his coverage. She will never leave him, and I’m not advocating they split, but he needs to get his head out of his rear and start appreciating her. After all, she might get sick of it someday and leave his sorry rear behind.
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@snowy22315 (199711)
• United States
26 Sep
Happens all the time. Some people give up too soon. Some couples should have given up far sooner or never been married in the first place. I never would have thought that was a caterpillar.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
26 Sep
@snowy22315 when I think about my first husband I always wonder if I gave up to soon or waited too long.
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@LindaOHio (207701)
• United States
27 Sep
I was with my husband for 58 years, 54 married. I can't imagine being with anyone else.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
2 Nov
@Lindaohio after that long I cant imagine it either. It does happen though.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
3 Nov
@LindaOHio the loneliness must be terrible. Your home must seem so quiet.
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@LindaOHio (207701)
• United States
4 Nov
@shaggin Yes. I talk to my husband almost every day; and almost every day I cry. Maybe it will get better as time goes on.
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@GardenGerty (166703)
• United States
26 Sep
Sometimes things seem so hard. You always wish them well, though.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
29 Oct
@GardenGerty I saw them together at every football game this year for their son who is a senior. I knew staying friends they would be able to do that. Im glad they could part as friends. My first husband and I both wanted to spend time with our kids and not miss out so we would go together for holidays and parties etc. it wasn’t easy as we did not get along.
@celticeagle (182834)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Sep
I think that sometimes couple go into a marriage very enthused and hopeful, but time turns things around. I wonder what this couple's separation will do to their children.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
31 Oct
@celticeagle I hope since they are able to stay best friends that things will go well for their children. I know the home was the fathers grandmothers house but I assume the wife and kids will keep it. Hard to say. Their oldest is in college and their second oldest is a senior this year. The youngest I believe is 9 and there is one in between there.
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@celticeagle (182834)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Nov
@shaggin .......It says a lot about them if they are able to stay friends.
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@allknowing (153953)
• India
27 Sep
I have written about my friend here who had differences and both were keen on a divorce but now they live separately and are in touch.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
29 Sep
@allknowing it’s good that it was a mutual decision and they stay in touch.
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@wolfgirl569 (126049)
• Marion, Ohio
26 Sep
A friend of mine was like that. They realized they had just drifted apart and developed different interests. They get along great and didn't even have any problems dividing stuff.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
13 Oct
@wolfgirl569 if they both agree it’s for the best and get along that is wonderful they were able to part so easily. Usually it isn’t like that.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
3 Nov
@porwest my first husband had relatives I loved. When they divorced I was so shocked and asked the wife why. She said all they did was fight 
. They had been together for about 10 years before marrying the bad a daughter together and I think the little girl was only 2 when they split up. Their marriage didn’t last long once it actually began.
. They had been together for about 10 years before marrying the bad a daughter together and I think the little girl was only 2 when they split up. Their marriage didn’t last long once it actually began.1 person likes this
@porwest (111593)
• United States
3 Nov
@shaggin Sometimes the best marriages that appear that way on the outside hold the darkest secrets. I have seen many marriages like this where the couple seemed really in love and together, yet after their divorce, the stories were ones of nightmares.
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@jefferson126 (3667)
• Shenzhen, China
27 Sep
Marriage is lifetime test,marriage need us manage hard in a lifetime.I am not surprised by hearing some good couple divorce.We don't know how their marriage is through appearance,just themselves know how it is.In sum,i wanna state that we need manage marriage hard in a lifetime,rather than stop hard marriage management after get married.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
4 Nov
@jefferson126 I struggle wondering if I waited to long to leave my first husband or if I didn’t try long enough to make things work. My husband now I wonder the same thing. Things are much better since he stopped drinking but I’m left with a lot of nervousness and anger and bad memories. You definitely never know what goes on behind closed doors I agree!
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@jefferson126 (3667)
• Shenzhen, China
5 Nov
@shaggin ,Hard to make a conclusion about your first husband,marriage is so complicated.Since you have separated from first husband,just let it go,don't think much about it.I feel so hard say who is right or wrong in marriage,only can see whether he/she is suitable for you.I agree we never know what goes on behind closed door.
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