Where I live
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (47974)
Staten Island, New York
October 13, 2025 12:49pm CST
I live alone in a three-story house with a fully furnished basement. My house is surrounded by cemeteries. Whenever I am in the kitchen I can see rows of tombstones in the distance. The cemetery used to be partially blocked by trees, but they recently chopped them all down so now I can see everything. On the other side of the house where the entrance is if I go a little bit up my street I can see the other cemetery. That’s the cemetery where my father, three of my grandparents, and some other relatives and people I know are buried. I can partially see the tombstones.
The house itself is a townhouse. It is surrounded by neighbors on both sides. There is a backyard that has a deck. The backyard is more of a long rectangle than a square. There are two bedrooms on the third floor, including a bathroom with a bathtub. The second floor has a living room, a kitchen, a bathroom with just a toilet and sink, and a balcony. The first floor is just one open room and has the front door, the door to the backyard, the door to the garage, HVAC room, two closets, and of course, the stairs to the basement. The basement has a fairly big walk-in closet and two rooms, including space for washer and dryer. There is also a bathroom with a shower.
It’s a nice community to live in. There is a library nearby, and we have a plaza not far from us with a pharmacy, a Russian grocery store, a diner, a greeting car store, a florist, a pizza place, a Starbucks, a hardware store, and a few other businesses.
If you drive, it’s a great place to live in. If you are like me and you don’t drive it’s a bit of an inconvenience. The closest bus to my house is about a 20 minute walk. The train is about 27 minutes away from my house. And a few other buses that I sometimes need to take are about 37 minutes away from where I live. I usually take the train to those buses in a different location, but if the train is not running for some reason, then I have to walk 37 minutes to the bus stop that is near me. I don’t mind walking to transportation, but if the weather is too hot, or it’s very storm or windy, or if there’s ice and too much snow it’s a bit of an inconvenience. And dragging heavy bags full of groceries is no fun either.
I first moved into this house in 1998 with my parents. Then around 2011 I think my parents bought a different house and we all moved there. They never sold this house. Sometimes they rented it out and sometimes it remained empty. When I met my husband and we decided to move in together, we ended up moving into this house. That was in 2015. Now that my husband decided to move out, I’m on my own and I’m not sure I want to live here anymore.
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@LindaOHio (203385)
• United States
14 Oct
If you move anywhere else, I'm sure the rent would be prohibitive.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
14 Oct
My mom is taking care of the bills for this house, which is a great benefit. If I were to move somewhere else she’d have to spend a lot more so I’m stuck here for now. Also if I were to try to rent something else, nobody would rent me anything because I don’t have a job so that is another reason why I’m stuck here.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
15 Oct
@LindaOHio same issue with driving. My mom wants me to start driving. I’m afraid to drive so no way, at least for now. But even if I wasn’t afraid to drive I’d need a car and I can’t get myself a car because I don’t work. No one will lease me a car if I have no income. Forgot about not being able to afford a lease either.
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@LindaOHio (203385)
• United States
15 Oct
@lovebuglena I forgot about that. Your mom would have to sign something saying that she is responsible.
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@snowy22315 (197472)
• United States
13 Oct
Sorry about your hubby. Could you really afford to move anywhere else?
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Oct
Unfortunately, I cannot. For now I am stuck here.
Thank you. I really wish he comes back.
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@celticeagle (180567)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct
Sounds like many of your loved ones are close to you. That's always nice. What an interesting history of your home.
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@celticeagle (180567)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct
@lovebuglena .......Sounds like you need to burrow under a fence like a rodent. Those inhabiting the place won't mind.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Oct
It’d be great if I could go inside the cemetery from my house. Unfortunately no entrance here. I have to go all the way to the other side. Problem is that there are no sidewalks or crosswalks where that entrance is so if you’re going there on foot that’s a problem.
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@RasmaSandra (89834)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Oct
Actually being born and raised in NYC I find that the house is a nice retreat in Staten Island. Maybe you can rent out the furnished basement,
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Oct
There is no separate entrance to the furnished basement and it doesn’t have a kitchen so renting it out wouldn’t work. Plus, I’m not sure I’d want a stranger in my house.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
15 Oct
I’ve done it plenty of times while hubby was here. It ain’t fun, especially when it’s very hot and humid or it’s a downpour.
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@porwest (109395)
• United States
14 Oct
You'll have to make some choices, for sure. We all do ultimately. Lots of things to weigh, as there usually are. I remember when my wife and I decided, quite abruptly, to put our house up for rent in Wisconsin, quit our jobs, and just beat it to Illinois and start over. It came with many challenges, and lots of open-ended questions, but it turned out to be a wildly successful idea.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
14 Oct
Glad that it all worked out for you. And that you had a partner in this.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
3h
@porwest I wonder what new doors will open for me in the future. I also wonder how long it’ll be until he decides if he will make it official or if he will return. I hope he’s not planning on just being separated and living his own life without me.
@porwest (109395)
• United States
5h
@lovebuglena The here and now is not forever. Life has a way of setting us up for better things down the road, things we sometimes lose sight of if we are forced to stop looking for it. Things happen, good or bad, but sometimes they happen for a reason, and sometimes they open doors to things we never would have found until they are opened.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Oct
Thank you. I never thought that was going to happen. Now I wait and see what he’s going to do. He’s been gone since end of August.
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@aninditasen (17700)
• Raurkela, India
14 Oct
Living in such a big house alone is at times scary, that too with cemetery all around. I live alone too in a double storey building but I have my pet dog,the security guard comes at night and my elder son often visits me. That's the reason I don't feel lonely. I get my groceries and vegetables online.
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@lovebuglena (47974)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Oct
I think it is. But it’s my mother’s other house so it’s convenient to stay here.
