Been 6 years
By Ithink
@Ithink (10071)
United States
November 2, 2025 7:54pm CST
So it has been about 6 years since I have been here. Things have changed of course in those 6 years. Our daughter graduated school this last year, our youngest son has moved back in and I'm 6 years older. lol Still gardening and canning, doing what I can on the home front to make it easier on hubby and spending on food.
I am now taking care of 2 homes, ours and my moms. She isn't doing to good. Wish she lived closer and we had another vehicle so that I could get over there more. I get over there about once a week, I pay the bills, visit, clean and then make sure has food for the week. She totaled her car (after riding with her 1 time, I don't think she needs to be driving) and all she talks about is getting another one. I know this will sound bad but would love to have her license revoked. Her driving is bad now and scary and Im afraid for her and truthfully others.
Im doing better health wise, well was but yesterday pulled a muscle or did something to my upper thigh in the back. Hurts to sit to long and hurts to stand. Getting older isnt for the weak, that is for sure. Going to go read and see if anyone I used to read is still here. Hope all has a good night.
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14 responses
@kaylachan (80572)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Nov
Life goes on, but if you're that concerned about realitive driving, you can talk to her doctors and talk about having her driving privliages revoked.
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@Ithink (10071)
• United States
3 Nov
We have and they say we have to take her in to take a cognitive test and she is refusing. Have to wait to see what happens, meanwhile since we have to go through the paperwork from insurance on the vehicle it gives a bit of time to try and see what our other options are.
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@kaylachan (80572)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Nov
@Ithink If she's refusing, you can look into getting a cort order (which she can't refute) if you can prove her driving is reckless. If there was a wreck, there should be a police report, which could help in your case.
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@DaddyEvil (161540)
• United States
3 Nov
Welcome back!
My older brothers took the keys to mom's car and refused to give them back. Even with power steering, she couldn't turn the wheel hard enough to make tight turns and was scary driving on the roads. She was mad and threatened to take them to court over it. My brother told her if she wanted the judge to order her to stop driving, to take him to court. She knew he was right and stopped fighting with him about driving.
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@Ithink (10071)
• United States
4 Nov
@DaddyEvil Right now I'm going with she has no vehicle and cant go get one so she has to deal with the fact she needs to depend on us and my Aunt. Luckily she hardly goes anywhere anyways. We told her we can take her on Sundays and do pick ups for her, my Aunt will cover what we cant.
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@DaddyEvil (161540)
• United States
4 Nov
@Ithink You're welcome.
It's a difficult decision but safety of your parent and the safety of other drivers/pedestrians should guide you in the right direction.
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@LeaPea2417 (38804)
• Toccoa, Georgia
3 Nov
Years ago, my Mom had to take my Grandmother's car keys and license away from her, which hurt her feelings but was best for her.
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@aninditasen (17796)
• Raurkela, India
3 Nov
You are right. Oldage brings in lot of ailments if you are weak. We should take care of our health to avoid these pains.
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@Ithink (10071)
• United States
4 Nov
She was always so strong then just is declining, Im working on my health or trying to. My mom seems to just wants to feel sorry for herself and I told her you cant do that, need to get up and do things or something. Such a long story, but thank you and have a good day.
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@aninditasen (17796)
• Raurkela, India
5 Nov
@Ithink It's better for the old and weak to take light exercises. This will keep their hunger and digestion in balance.
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@AmbiePam (106228)
• United States
3 Nov
It doesn’t sound bad that you want your mom’s license revoked. My mom was 46 when she happened to be diagnosed with dementia, and we had to take away her license and keys before her official diagnosis. We just knew she and others were at risk. But telling your own mother that is not easy.
Hopefully, you can check back in with Mylot more often. We would love to see you come back.
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@LadyDuck (487009)
• Italy
3 Nov
My Mom also did not live close to us. I went to see her every two weeks to check if she needed something. My brother lived close, but he did not care to check if she had paid all her bills and if she needed grocery and so on.
Getting old is not funny.
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@Ithink (10071)
• United States
4 Nov
It is so hard to be the only one that cares out of the kids to try and take care of a parent. All my brother cares about is trying to look good to everyone but people up here know the truth and do what they can to help me. He does care about the money and material items thou. *sigh*
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@RasmaSandra (90774)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Nov
Glad to hear from you, Kids grow up so quickly, I hope you have a good week ahead,
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (16313)
• Torrington, Connecticut
3 Nov
Welcome back, hopefully you can catch up with old friends here
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@Deepizzaguy (116032)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
4 Nov
I know how you feel dealing with life challenges.
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@Shivram59 (45961)
• India
4 Nov
You may be right. Old people cantycontrol a vehicle. Talk to her and try to convince her about the risks involved. Or, take her to a doctor who can earn us against driving.
My mom is 80 plus. She doesn't know how to drive a car, nor does she wants to know.
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@Ithink (10071)
• United States
4 Nov
My mom is going to be 82 this month and has always had a vehicle since she was a teen, but it is time to let it go in my opinion for her safety and others. I have the winter to get her to agree and then will have to do something else if she doesn't. Thanks for comment.
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@Shivram59 (45961)
• India
5 Nov
@Ithink My mom is past 80, too. She don't know how to drive. And she never wanted to learn it either. Try to convince your mom it would be risky if she drives at this age.
I wish her and you a long, healthy and happy life.
