Should I say something?
By snowy
@snowy22315 (200071)
United States
November 9, 2025 1:06pm CST
So, I have not been attending the library writing group which I have gone to for quite a while because that rude child comes to every single meeting. I know the group leader really likes her..so she would be flumoxxed about what to do. Even if I suggested there be an adults only group once a month..I think she would be worried about offending the kid and her mother.
I don't owe anybody an explanation, but I do miss the group as well. Last time the kid ate almost all the chocolate out of the Halloween bucket that I brought when there were plenty of other candies to take. Also, had her fingers in her ears and was humming because someone's story had to do with a werewolf. It wouldn't be so bad if the mother would parent her, but she just lets the kid do whatever she wants. No wonder she isn't in school, she is too undisciplined. I could talk to someone else from the group and see what they think, and if the kid bugs them too, I suppose, and suggestions about how to approach Heidi about it.
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@AmbiePam (108096)
• United States
9 Nov
I think talking to someone else to see if the child annoys them and if so how to handle it is a good idea. I can’t fathom bringing a child to the meeting, and then letting her act however she wants.
It makes me grateful my sister doesn’t let bad behavior fly with her kids. I’d be so embarrassed if she did.
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
9 Nov
If they say nope, no problem with the kid..I guess I am stuck.
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@MarieCoyle (52237)
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9 Nov
If she is constantly a distraction and behaving poorly, yes, I would be tempted to say something. The group is for adults, not children.
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
9 Nov
Yes, there is a leader, and she spends a lot of time preparing for the group
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
9 Nov
@sallypup Except that, I might be the only one concerned.
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@sallypup (67114)
• Centralia, Washington
9 Nov
@snowy22315 To me, that is the person to go to. It isn't gossip. It is a group concern.
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
10 Nov
@LadyDuck I asked her to make some of the groups adults only.
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@LadyDuck (488968)
• Italy
10 Nov
@snowy22315 - This makes sense and adults can talk about more topics without having to be careful because there is a kid in the group.
@LadyDuck (488968)
• Italy
10 Nov
@snowy22315 Being stuck with specific themes is annoying. The kid would not be a problem should he had manner, but for what I understand he is rude (that means also his mom is not perfect). Most people tend to justify children, that is not my case, I would be so annoyed to stop going there.
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@LindaOHio (208340)
• United States
9 Nov
It's unfair that the child ruins the experience for everyone. I couldn't stand it. It's an adult group and should be held accordingly.
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
9 Nov
Not for everyone. I think it is maybe just me. I just talked to one of the other members. She said she welcomed the multi generational perspective .Oh please, that is giving her way too much credit.
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
10 Nov
@LindaOHio Well apparently she is fine with the others. They can have her then.
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@LindaOHio (208340)
• United States
10 Nov
@snowy22315 I would think that no one would welcome a rowdy child. I guess I'm wrong.
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@Dreamerby (9721)
• Calcutta, India
10 Nov
That is really frustrating. I cannot stand ill-behaved kids as well.
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@snowy22315 (200071)
• United States
10 Nov
It wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't at every single meeting. I don't like this kid bring jammed down my throat.
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