Young mothers can have it tough

@JudyEv (371841)
Rockingham, Australia
December 19, 2025 6:29pm CST
There is always something new to learn but even so, some things still surprise me. A friend has become allergic to cold and now carries an EpiPen. Imagine being allergic to cold!! It seems it is quite difficult to control but so far she is managing. Then I read an article about post-partum rage. This causes new Mums to erupt with all-consuming rage and over the smallest things. It can be fuelled by hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation and stress. Young mothers are reluctant to talk about their problems for fear of appearing to be a ‘bad mother’. It seems another indication of how our lives have become more stressful as more and more demands are put on people. You can read the article here: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-11-29/mother-comes-to-terms-with-terrifying-postpartum-rage/106072456 The photo is a photo we used in a Christmas card once. We took the photo probably in July so it looks like it's a cold Christmas but the reality was quite different.
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Go Crossbones
@crossbones27 (52221)
• Mojave, California
20 Dec
In these times I cannot even imagine. I would really tell young girls to stay single and avoid most men. You cannot afford a baby in this world with the wrong man.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Dec
That's so, so true. I'm sure it's a struggle for many even with the right man - both working, childcare, expenses, huge mortgages, etc, etc.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Dec
@crossbones27 From women's liberation it seems the wheel has gone full circle and is now starting to turn back. I can see it's difficult for men too. I'm just glad I'm going out of the world.
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Lenore Plassman
@sallypup (67978)
• Centralia, Washington
20 Dec
Being a Mom is supposed to be Disneyland but reality isn't hilarious at times. That's a cute family photo.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Dec
There is virtually no training for motherhood. We did have 'mothercraft' lessons at school for one year but it was all pretty basic.
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DE
@DaddyEvil (168014)
• United States
20 Dec
Your boys didn't stand a chance with the red/blonde hair on both sides, did they? I'm glad Pretty's mom stayed relatively sane and balanced after Pretty was born. I don't think I could have managed taking care of both of them if she hadn't.
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@DaddyEvil (168014)
• United States
20 Dec
@JudyEv Very true. I'm surprised there aren't more news stories about young mothers.
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Lenore Plassman
@sallypup (67978)
• Centralia, Washington
20 Dec
@JudyEv I was not prepared to be a Mom. Plus us parents were having horrible luck at finding work. I found work so my husband stayed home and cared for daughter. He was a super good and loving parent and they still have a very close bond.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Dec
Some are very unprepared. It's not like there are lessons in mothering.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (129632)
• Marion, Ohio
20 Dec
Being allergic to cold would be very hard. Does she have a temperature range that triggers it. Here it's called post partum depression usually.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (129632)
• Marion, Ohio
21 Dec
@JudyEv I think that just is all part of it
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
I don't know if she has a range. She certainly can't get at all chilled. I knew about the depression but sudden rages were new to me.
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Anindita Sengupta
@aninditasen (18017)
• Raurkela, India
20 Dec
Because of pollution strange kind of allergies are infecting people.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
Our environment is not nearly as clean as it used to be.
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Anindita Sengupta
@aninditasen (18017)
• Raurkela, India
23 Dec
@JudyEv That's true. My city too is becoming dirty day by day.
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LindaOH
@LindaOHio (213871)
• United States
20 Dec
I love the picture. I'm sorry your friend is allergic to cold. She certainly couldn't live here.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
They had to cancel a trip to Antarctica as it would have been too dangerous.
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LindaOH
@LindaOHio (213871)
• United States
21 Dec
@JudyEv Definitely! That's a shame.
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Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (167736)
• United States
20 Dec
It seems our lives are making us sick. I get muscle spasms from the cold, but your friend's allergy sounds frightening.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
I get a very stiff neck if I get too cold but that's about it.
snowy
@snowy22315 (202979)
• United States
20 Dec
All kinds of strange things that go on in the world it seems.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Dec
They do indeed.
changjiangzhibin89
@changjiangzhibin89 (17150)
• China
20 Dec
What a happy family of four ! Your sons were at the tender age of 6-10.I have not known of anyone who is allergic to cold so far.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
We had to take the photo in the winter but of course, our Christmas is during a very hot time of year.
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Juliaacv
@Juliaacv (54626)
• Canada
20 Dec
I admire this photo, you all look so happy, it must have been some of the best years of your lives. I have a sister-in-law who suffered from post partum depression, she is in her 60's now, but I can tell you, that she has never been the same. I do not think that she has ever really known true happiness, unless she hides it very very well, since then, and she seems to have a desire to put others down so that she looks better. Sad
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
Yes, what you say is correct. Some only seem happy if they feel better than those around them.
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