Jokes
By Laura
@Laurakemunto (13791)
Kenya
January 7, 2026 2:04am CST
Had a guy in my work place after a meeting he followed me and asked for my number. He was with a colleague of his. I asked why he said he'll tell me. Now the guy texted , asked for a relationship which I was open to it and said yes. Now he's acting weird it's barely two weeks he's silent texts vaguely. Yesterday' we were to meet but it didn't happen since I was super busy. It happened I accidentally bumped into him when moving to a different office. He said he'll text which he did when I answered the text till now no response.
I don't want to second guess but i think it's childish unless there's some explanation to this cheap behavior. Why do some dudes behave in a manner to portray that it's the woman who's interested and in the first place it was him?
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9 responses
@coolimrose (656)
• Australia
7 Jan
They really do act likea child. It's also something like a mental issue that if one sets their mind to doing something and they get it easily, they don't value it and quickly lose interest. Some people demand too much importance and feel we should make them our only priority. Forget and move on.
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@Laurakemunto (13791)
• Kenya
7 Jan
Being an adult he asked and I said yes I wasn't there to tell him to wait for an answer cause I know getting to know someone takes time but this he has already shown he's a boy not a man . Am open to meeting new people and interacting so maybe he doesn't know what he wants
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@Laurakemunto (13791)
• Kenya
7 Jan
Thanks a lot for your advise it's the best I can do for me
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@luisadannointed (10273)
• Philippines
8 Jan
I have no comment about it.
But I hope everything is well with you guys, and if you are secure with that go on, but if not, I think it is better to rethink if you are goign to give it a go.
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@DaddyEvil (170562)
• United States
7 Jan
I don't know for sure, but it sounds like he was upset you couldn't make the date because you were too busy, he's decided to "punish" you by ignoring you... I'd drop the guy and move on. You're worth a lot more than his attitude shows.
Guys may behave like that because they don't want to seem too interested, in case the girl isn't really interested.
Dating is hard. Is it too early to text/call them after a date? Are they acting too interested so the girl might think they're weird? Dating is a minefield with thoughts running all over the place.
Most guys are worried they're coming on too strong and will scare the girl away. Those were some of my thoughts back when I was dating... I didn't want to scare the girl away but didn't know what she'd feel was appropriate behavior from someone she was getting to know.
Of course, I'm old now and not hunting for dates. I could be completely wrong.
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@coolimrose (656)
• Australia
7 Jan
Every point of yours is valid. That is how young people think. Very few are superconfident in themselves and know what they want and deserve. Also, times have changed, and relationships are way more complicated than before. Somewhere, I feel men still want women to make them their priority. It is still difficult for them to understand that a woman may choose her work over them.
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@Laurakemunto (13791)
• Kenya
7 Jan
I now understand thanks for this insight I guess maybe it's some among the reasons he's silent or acting distant so I guess it's his mess to fix not mine. As we grow older most of the time we grow more wiser
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@DaddyEvil (170562)
• United States
7 Jan
@Laurakemunto You're very welcome.
After you've lived a while, things stop worrying you so much and you get over timidity.
Now, I just don't care what people think and am completely myself... but it took years before I gained that attitude. (I turned 62 on my last birthday in October.)
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@Laurakemunto (13791)
• Kenya
7 Jan
It's good you've given your opinion it makes sense energy should be reciprocated if not, you mirror it
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@mytunemagic (258)
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25 Jan
I feel you shouldn't have said 'yes', not knowing about him completely, in the first place. He might have lost interest because you complied. It's like, the pattern is from apprenticeship one works to develop friendship and if both feel they are comfortable in each other's company and each is willing to give space to the other, then there's what you call, a relationship that happens. It takes months, sometimes years, to form the bond.
This is completely my personal point of view. I don't know what exactly transpired and what exactly is the picture. All this is from whatever I've observed from reading books, watching movies and listening to podcasts.
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@Laurakemunto (13791)
• Kenya
25 Jan
I had not given him any yes i told him it wasnt possible and since we are working together maybe he thought ill change my mind about that but unfortunately thats not the case.
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@Marilynda1225 (89397)
• United States
7 Jan
If he doesn't respond soon I'd say forget him.
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@SIDIKIMPOLE (3189)
• Eldoret, Kenya
7 Jan
Lol, maybe he's still shy and you looked a lot powerful. He didn't expect a quick yes from you. He is probably still in shock and you need to give him time as you study his moves. Again, maybe he is in a relationship with someone else and has not found the best way to balance it with the new one he has gotten into with you.
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@Laurakemunto (13791)
• Kenya
7 Jan
Thank you for this answer I don't think I was supposed to play games . He may be shy, afraid or whatever I let him deal with it himself
@valherma00 (1690)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
9 Jan
it's not only childish, it's lame. maybe it's best to ignore him or say shortly hello if you bump pn him again and proceed on your way. i'm sorry you had to go through this, when you just want something serious.
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