You miss things as a go between.

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I don’t like being a go between, do you? My friend wants my dad (a pastor) to come visit her parents in the hospital to talk about palliative care for her dad. Her dad wants to go home and her mom really wants him to keep trying to live. You may remember we kept my mom home during her 8 1/2 battle with early onset dementia. It was cheaper to put her in a home, but we didn’t want to do that to her. After all, she sacrificed for us. I remember the stress almost killing my dad. Eventually, they brought in hospice. So, the fact that my dad used to be their pastor before he came to his current church, and his experience with a dying spouse, it seems natural she’d want him to come up there (he’s already been once). However, I can’t tell him what to talk about. He did me a favor by going up there yesterday when his day was already packed. But if you want him to say something specific, I think she needs to tell him. I don’t know that he’s going to want instructions on how to handle it either (she’s my age). I’m checking on her, and all, but I don’t think it’s my place to say certain things if I’m not the one familiar with the situation. Maybe I’m not making sense. I feel badly for this entire family.