~Showers, Peace for Some & A Trigger for Others~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85780)
Valdosta, Georgia
February 17, 2026 6:38am CST
A shower...trigger.
There are some things nobody prepares you for after the abuser is out of the picture.
Who knew saying the word "shower" could be a trigger?
The reason? That was a strong place of abuse. I wasn't "able" to take one alone. It was a place where I felt the most violated.
If I got in alone, I was soon met with the presence of another. If I fought the situation by arguing or if I got out, after the shower I was made to feel like trash, a disrespectful person and a "horrible wife".
After the shower I wasn't left feeling clean and refreshed like most people do. Instead I was left feeling guilty, alone, ashamed and worthless.
So, I think it will take time and God's healing before the shower no longer gives my stomach that feeling and no longer makes my heart race.
The crazy thing is I didn't even realize it was still a place that needed healing until LAST NIGHT.
It's been almost two months of freedom and this ugly shackle just reared itself last night. Wow.
There's still much to surrender to the Lord on this healing journey, more to come I am sure of it. One day at a time...some days one moment at a time. And that's okay, healing doesn't have the same timeline for everyone.
Do you need prayer for anything? I'd love to pray for you!
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Feb
@DianneN I didn't share for a while since shame had the best of me. Now, I share to hopefully help someone else. Thank you, I am on my healing journey. Most days are good, others bring reminders and triggers.
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@Traceyjayne (15252)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb
Thank goodness you are free now x have happy life now that you can enjoy it without fear x
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Feb
@Traceyjayne Yes I am truly grateful that I no longer live in the abuse. I pray my posts help someone else going through the situation.
@celticeagle (195856)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Feb
I'm so sorry. It sounds like you didn't have a place of refuge at all. A shower is so nice it is horrible that you can't fully enjoy one. Yes, one day at a time.
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@celticeagle (195856)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb
@LovingMyBabies ........I hope you get that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Feb
@celticeagle Thank you! I pray it will be a good place again someday. Right now I take 5 minute showers, get in to do what needs to be done and get out. I am praying one day I will enjoy a nice, long warm shower!
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Feb
@LadyDuck Thank you. He would force me to be intimate with him while I took a shower. Abusive 100%. So glad your husband is not abusive!
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@LadyDuck (505604)
• Italy
17 Feb
@LovingMyBabies - That was 100% abusive! My husband has always been very kind and polite.
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Feb
@LadyDuck That's a huge blessing and I am so very happy you have a good one!
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@Marilynda1225 (92759)
• United States
17 Feb
I know that it's going to take time for the healing from your abusive relationship, My daughter got out of a very abusive relationship and I can see that even now she can be triggered by something, Thankfully it's not very often anymore.
I pray for healing for you. I'm happy, though, that you are out of there 
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Feb
@Marilynda1225 I am so sorry your daughter has been through this as well. I share these things because even if it helps just one person understand behaviors/trauma or to recognize the signs before they fall victim to it themselves-it was totally worth it to me!
Thank you, I am so grateful the Lord made a way and my soon to be ex left...Such a blessing!
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@Marilynda1225 (92759)
• United States
19 Feb
@LovingMyBabies my daughter is doing good now but occasionally something will trigger her. I hope as the days goes by you can recover and find joy and happiness. I'm glad your ex left and you can recover from all that abuse. God is good and will definitely help you heal.
@LindaOHio (223002)
• United States
17 Feb
I hope the healing continues and you are free from anxiety when showering.
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Feb
@LindaOHio Thank you so much! It gets better with time, so I pray as I heal it becomes easier.
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@GardenGerty (170946)
• United States
18 Feb
You are healing in the best way possible. We can also pray for you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Feb
@GardenGerty Thank you! I so appreciate prayers always. I pray my situation, and speaking about it helps others.
@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Feb
@AmbiePam Thank you, it helps me to try to help others going through this.
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@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Feb
@snowy22315 Thank you so much.
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@LeaPea2417 (40059)
• Toccoa, Georgia
19 Feb
I'm sorry you went through that. Has your husband tried to get in touch with you and your kids, does he still care about your children? Or has he just really abandoned all of you?
@LovingMyBabies (85780)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Feb
@Kandae11 I'm so glad you got out quickly! It took me 21 years unfortunately.
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