Inhibiting culture....hellhole? Not sure

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There is something sweet about eastern cultures. We respect our elders. I am sure you all do too at your end. Just that you all take it in your stride, we make a big deal about it. Recent brush with this culture was with my neighbor...who is much older than I, and so by default entitled to "respect", even if he has put his parent in old age home, while I am the caregiver. His "well wishing" comment was adopt a six years old girl, her mother and her step father and her mother's family members will stay in your home and look after you. I told him, I am not interested. He was not taking no. I told him I have different objectives. Doesn't register. I told him, we would be vulnerable to physical abuse because nobody knows what goes on behind the closed door, and since there is no emotional entanglement here and these people will be coming only for money, they are not likely to spare us. Still it does not register. Many other ways to convince the person because he is "elder" so "respectable". Then I blew my top. I told him his behavior was disgusting and mannerless. And that he didn't have an inch of gray matter up there in his head. Offense meant offense taken. Reaction. He says he was only joking. We aren't that close. I even sent provisions of law that said I am not entitled to adopt. But jealousy was preventing him from bothering to read it. Now others think I am rude. LOL Got me thinking, would they forgive this man if he had raped someone, just because he was an elder and so respectable? They sure seemed ok with the idea of me being physically abused and so also my 91 years old parent. The culture is not wrong. The way it is followed is.