Where things stand for Bob

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Bob seems to be getting a little more coherent. A little more hungry. Yet he still is missing lots of pieces in his lifeskills.. He and I have talked. I am not 100% sure what he understands, but he has been positive about the idea of living with the other old soldiers. I am seeking to move him to the Kansas Veteran's Home in Winfield, Kansas.He likes the idea of physical therapy, and more things to do. He tells me he is social. They will be better able to care for him than I am, and I can visit. It is more than an hour away from here, and I hate that. They have a locked or closed Alzheimer's unit. There is a courtyard that is fenced so they can go outside safely. He will get physical therapy and other therapies and care on site. They will take him to his appointments, draw his labs there. In addition to celebrating all the customary holidays, they celebrate military holidays as well. Bob has told me that being in the Army was the most fun part of his life, except he did not have a wife. Monday is his care assessment meeting, here at the house, to determine if this is indeed a good placement for him. When it is all complete and my DPOA is approved, I can move him there at any time. I am very sad, and yet it has to be done. I have five medical appointments and treatments that I need for myself, that I cannot get done and care for him full time. If he goes down to the ground or floor, I cannot pick him up. If he is confused, I usually can settle him for now, or wait him out.I spend a lot of time waiting. I spend all of my time trying to make him better, and that will not happen. I cannot take him anywhere because I cannot get him back into the house when we are done, unless he wants to do it. It is after noon. I am still waiting for him to wake up. And I am sad.