I feel ashamed
@shaggin (75356)
United States
October 2, 2026 11:40am CST
I set my alarm for 5 and got up and went downstairs. I checked my messages and say around 11:30 last night a message from Baby S’s mother. She took the day off so she didn’t need a sitter today.
So I went back to bed. My husband rolled over and put his arm on me and he twitches in his sleep so it keeps me up. Then his alarm went off twice before he got out of bed.
I fell asleep deeply until the alarm went off at 6:30 to wake Little E up. I got her on the bus around 8 and decided I was bone tired and top a nap.
A few nights ago I had an upset stomach so I was up all night. I know the reason I have been so tired since is due to needing to catch up on that missed sleep. I always feel guilty and ashamed when I take a nap though thinking of all the things I could have accomplished.
I slept until 11:30. My oldest and I are going to the post office to deliver her packages at 1:30 and going driving to get some practice in for her.
Photo is of a neat mushroom I saw yesterday when I was out geocaching with my dog.
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@AmbiePam (130598)
• United States
2 Oct
Girl, you are a superwoman that is also a mother. Moms are so used to doing for others that they feel guilty for doing anything for themselves. And getting a decent sleep is just something that should be an equal opportunity event for everyone. But not for moms! They never get breaks. I’m so glad you got extra sleep.
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. I can almost never nap so I know I must have really needed this.
@snowy22315 (213424)
• United States
2 Oct
Nothing to be ashamed of, your body needs rest.
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@snowy22315 everyones does and I know I shouldn’t feel guilty about it when mine needs to catch up but I feel guilty anyway.
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@toniganzon (81593)
• Philippines
3 Oct
The reason why I rarely or never take a nap is that I always feel guilty doing so. Same as you, I think I'm missing a lot of opportunities to be productive. But there are days, which is very rare actually that I really couldn't help it and I would fall asleep during the day but it doesn't last long at all. Only a few minutes because the guilt would creep up.
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@toniganzon I usually can just never shut my brain off to try to nap. Then when I do nap I feel guilty. I’m sorry to hear you feel the same way I do. Even though I know I shouldn’t feel guilty I still do and I definitely don’t think you should feel guilty napping either. But sending you a virtual hug 
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@toniganzon after what you went through resting is a good way to heal mentally.
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@DaddyEvil (179150)
• United States
2 Oct
If you're tired, then you're just tired and should nap when you get a chance. All the other stuff will still be there waiting until you feel up to doing something about it.
I can only do so much before I'm too tired to even think clearly. I take a nap whenever I need one. The work always waits.
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
2 Oct
@Daddyevil that is true but if I get the things done when Little E is at school and my husband is at school then I have more quality time with them. That’s where the guilt comes in.
I get sick to my stomach when I lack sleep. I feel like I’m coming down with a bug but it goes away when I get sleep.
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@DaddyEvil (179150)
• United States
3 Oct
@shaggin You still shouldn't feel guilty for taking naps when you need one.
I always eat more when I'm tired. Doctors say lack of sleep and eating more is normal. Food can make up for lack of sleep. (Bananas or berries help as can eggs to restore your blood sugar after a bad night and drink plenty of water to help with dehydration.)
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@MarieCoyle (64041)
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2 Oct
Sometimes, Mom’s do too much. It’s just part of who we are, I think. I know there are days when sleep isn’t really possible for me, at least not much more than a rather short nap. And once in awhile, we all crash when we didn’t intend to. But—we’re human!! Our bodies need to rest. Don’t be so hard on yourself. I don’t feel guilty when I have to rest- sometimes we just have to!
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@MarieCoyle you are right and thank you for the kind words. I wish I didn’t feel guilty about it but I do. I’m glad you don’t feel that way though 
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@MarieCoyle aww that is awful I’m sorry he did that. I’m glad you did it anyway.
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@MarieCoyle (64041)
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3 Oct
@shaggin
If I was still married, my (ex) would nag and complain if I took a nap sometimes. I took one anyway!
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@celticeagle (194603)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Oct
Sleep is so important. I hope you can relieve yourself of this feeling of guilt and shame.
Cool mushroom.
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@celticeagle my husband didn’t ask what I did today so without having to tell him I took a nap I feel a little better. I’d be more ashamed if I had to tell him although he naps without any worry. I feel more judged with anything I do.
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@celticeagle (194603)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Oct
@shaggin .......That's a shame. Self-care is very important.
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@wolfgirl569 (141091)
• Marion, Ohio
2 Oct
When you get a chance take those naps without guilt
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@shaggin (75356)
• United States
3 Oct
@wolfgirl569 there is always something I feel guilty abour 
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@Wrexxo (9244)
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2 Oct
Please don't feel ashamed about a nap, you were up all night with a bad stomach and your body just needed the sleep. Getting up at 5 and then going back to bed is not lazy at all. Hope the driving practice with your oldest goes good, and that mushroom looks pretty cool.
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