rbenjamin

@rbenjamin (25)

United States • Age 67

Joined myLot 14 years ago

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What is the secret for a ever lasting LoVe?

katie0 @katie0 (5203) • Japan 18 Mar 11

Is it commitment, honesty, being sincere, what's the most important thing?

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rbenjamin Don't have big humongous expectations and don't sweat the small stuff. Develop a friendship, that is the secret to everlasting love. The feelings of romantic love often wax and wane in a long-term relationship - and that's fine. But the friendship will pull...

18 Mar 11

Follow your heart or listen to your children...any suggestion mylotters :)

Jane @jaiho2009 (39140) • Philippines 18 Mar 11

I met this guy online and already met him in person. His story is He is separated for 8 years now,has 4 kids and all grown ups. His eldest daughter is now married and has one son already. His 3 other kids 2 girls and son...

love and decision

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rbenjamin I just want to be clear..are you his girlfriend? His kids are grown now, so what they want is not a priority. I am really concerned, though, that he is confused. and sharing this with his girlfriend. That is a bad sign, I think. It would be okay for him to...

18 Mar 11

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How is a person with good self esteem?

katie0 @katie0 (5203) • Japan 16 Mar 11

I love this subject and I would love to hear your point. I think people with good self esteem never criticize others, they are humble, confident, they help others, they are happy, have a good humor, have fun and have friends and...

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rbenjamin I think you are right about this. Everyone likes to be around a person like this, which just adds to her self esteem. I do think that if you act like this, even when you don't feel like it, it will help to raise your self esteem because people will respond to...

17 Mar 11

jesus is coming back soon...

ernest220105 @ernest220105 (179) • Indonesia 17 Mar 11

In the public hospital of Itaguaí Brasil (RJ) last weekend was born a girl with hands joined together, like one who's praying. The doctors told the parents that they would operate on the hands of that girl. The operation was easy...

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rbenjamin Have you seen a picture of her hands? Does it really look like that's what is written on them? I ask this because I remember a few years back that Jesus or Mary was supposed to burned on a piece of toast here in the US - the toast sold for some huge amount of...

17 Mar 11

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Your husband/wife love child...can/will you accept the innocent child?

Jane @jaiho2009 (39140) • Philippines 11 Mar 11

For WIVES : You know your husband is cheating on you and promised to leave the other woman You loved your husband that much that you are prepared to forgive him, back into each other arms once again. Your husband is...

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rbenjamin I think I could accept the baby, but not the husband. Maybe I am rare...because my mom was cheated on by my dad, i have never had a boyfriend or husband who was a cheater--I can smell that type a mile away. I have never had the urge to cheat, either. I firmly...

13 Mar 11

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I am having trouble getting motivated

daeckardt @daeckardt (6237) • United States 10 Mar 11

Hi everyone! This may sound strange, but I find that I would rather do my online work (ptc and mylot) than to work on my online class! I am having trouble getting myself to sit down and finish reading the chapters for this week...

homework

procrastination

student

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rbenjamin I am the Queen of Procrastination, but I always get my stuff done. Here is what I do--maybe it will work for you. I force myself to open the book...that's what I say to myslef...I'm just going to open the book. Then I do something else (maybe post to a...

10 Mar 11

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Woman survived 11 storey fall

maean_19 @maean_19 (4655) • Philippines 10 Mar 11

A 20 year old girl had fallen from 18th floor to a swimming pool on the 7th floor in a certain condominium in Makati. Reports say that the girl was drunk when she visited a tenant of the building, who is a Korean and assumed to be...

life

news

women

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rbenjamin My goodness, even if she landed in water I can't believe she survived. Truly, I am surprised this kind of thing doesn't happen more often. It's kind of a wonder that human beings decided to build up inside of digging down. You would think evolution would favor...

10 Mar 11

Education is a team effort.

megamatt @megamatt (14290) • United States 8 Mar 11

Between a teacher and their students. Without the students being willing to learn, then there is not much that a teacher can do. On the flip side, without a teacher that has a lot of knowledge in the subject and can explain as...

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rbenjamin I am so glad you said this! So many teachers in the US think they should have to do nothing to engage students, and so many students think the teacher is there to entertain them. That is one of the big things wrong in public education in the U.S.--that...

9 Mar 11

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Going Blind

Mickie30 @Mickie30 (2626) 8 Mar 11

Please help. My friend is going blind and I'd really love to do something special for them before they lose their eyesight. Please can you give me some suggestions. What would you do if your friend was going blind?

going blind

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rbenjamin The best thing you could possibly do is to travel with your friend so he/she can see sights that he/she won't get to see in the future. One of the things your friend will miss most is the things they will never see. Try to pack in as much as you both can...

8 Mar 11

Is high education really worth it?

Soochow @Soochow (40) • China 5 Mar 11

The phenomenon that the salaries of many college graduates are lower than those of migrant rural workers has triggered a heated discussion on the net.Do you think it really reasonable for a poorly-eduacated migrant worker to earn...

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rbenjamin I don't know if the way the question is stated is really the way the formula works. I think a lot of students do go through college taking the easiest classes and not really learning that much. When they get out they are not prepared to do very much in the...

8 Mar 11

Is Your Child Gifted?

ernest220105 @ernest220105 (179) • Indonesia 8 Mar 11

The Merriam Webster's Collegiate Dictionary defines the term "gifted" as: 1. Having great natural ability 2. Revealing a special gift. "Gifted" children have been defined as those "who by nature of outstanding abilities are...

gifted child

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rbenjamin I am a teacher and have worked as a gifted education specialist. I do believe that every child has gifts, but there are some children whose gifts cannot be nourished in a normal educational environment...they need gifted education. I believe in the...

8 Mar 11

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Learning is Fun

Mike D' Angelo @madp_071983 (228) • Oman 8 Feb 11

I have been an experienced teacher for almost a decade now and I have found something unique and challenging. Students learn at their best when the teaching session is done to the fullest. It all depends on the teacher. Teaching...

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rbenjamin Yes, I believe that students learn more when the teacher is having fun teachin. In fact, studies have proven that for English Language learners, a warm classroom atmosphere is a must. If children (and adults) are going to take a risk and do something...

8 Mar 11

an interesting assignment

daeckardt @daeckardt (6237) • United States 1 Mar 11

I just started a class today (at least it officially started today though I had part of this week's work done by last Friday when the classroom became available). It is about linguistically and culturally diverse learners. What I...

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rbenjamin Hi--I am an ESL teacher..I've been doing it for almost 30 years! My general answer is that "it depends." And what it depends on is the native language of the person who is learning English. It's great that you have observed your Chinese learners so closely....

8 Mar 11

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Earning Online for a New pet

kharen @kharen (1488) • Philippines 6 Mar 11

I'm desperately in need to earn money to have this cute napoleon kitten by April. I've been wanting a kitten for sometime now and I don't have any idea where to get the money except for selling original Rayban sunglasses,...

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rbenjamin You have enought time to earn some money through Adsense...What you should do is go to a site like webs.com and make a free website. A good choice would be one about the type of kittens you love (I don't know what a napoleon kitten is). The go to...

8 Mar 11

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Honest and dishonest ways for earning money.

DoctorDidi @DoctorDidi (7018) • India 7 Mar 11

Every man has to earn money for a livelihood. Money can be earned in both honest and dishonest ways. There are some who leave no stone unturned to earn money but whatever they do they always stick to the path of honesty and never...

by hook or by crook

deviate

honest

leave no stone unturned

ways

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rbenjamin I have lived my life so that I can earn money honestly--there have been temptations, but I have always resisted them because I do not feel good about myself when I think about doing something dishonest. I am a teacher, and I teach my students to be honest...

8 Mar 11

Is Pakistan Now A terrorist country???

cervine888 @cervine888 (125) • Pakistan 8 Mar 11

Everybody in the world especially Europeans think that people of Pakistan are terrorists. But I am living in Pakistan safe and Know that I am not a terrorist and all friends are not terrorists. Then why Europeans think that we are...

pakistan

rocks

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rbenjamin Of course you are not terrorists. I am American, not European, and I have never been to Pakistan. But I know many Pakistanis here and they are no different from any other foreigner. In America, there is a mistrust of the Pakistani government because it is...

8 Mar 11