@rbenjamin on myLot

Jane @jaiho2009 (39142) • Philippines 18 Mar 11

I met this guy online and already met him in person. His story is He is separated for 8 years now,has 4 kids and all grown ups. His eldest daughter is now married and has one son already. His 3 other kids 2 girls and son...

love and decision

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rbenjamin You are a beautiful lady. I want you to be with someone who is crazy about you and does not hurt your heart. He should not have gone on a dating site if he was not free. He should not go back to his wife to make his children happy. They do not have to live...

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katie0 @katie0 (5203) • Japan 18 Mar 11

Is it commitment, honesty, being sincere, what's the most important thing?

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rbenjamin Don't have big humongous expectations and don't sweat the small stuff. Develop a friendship, that is the secret to everlasting love. The feelings of romantic love often wax and wane in a long-term relationship - and that's fine. But the friendship will pull...

18 Mar 11

Jane @jaiho2009 (39142) • Philippines 18 Mar 11

I met this guy online and already met him in person. His story is He is separated for 8 years now,has 4 kids and all grown ups. His eldest daughter is now married and has one son already. His 3 other kids 2 girls and son...

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rbenjamin I just want to be clear..are you his girlfriend? His kids are grown now, so what they want is not a priority. I am really concerned, though, that he is confused. and sharing this with his girlfriend. That is a bad sign, I think. It would be okay for him to...

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katie0 @katie0 (5203) • Japan 16 Mar 11

I love this subject and I would love to hear your point. I think people with good self esteem never criticize others, they are humble, confident, they help others, they are happy, have a good humor, have fun and have friends and...

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rbenjamin I think you are right about this. Everyone likes to be around a person like this, which just adds to her self esteem. I do think that if you act like this, even when you don't feel like it, it will help to raise your self esteem because people will respond to...

17 Mar 11

ernest220105 @ernest220105 (179) • Indonesia 17 Mar 11

In the public hospital of Itaguaí Brasil (RJ) last weekend was born a girl with hands joined together, like one who's praying. The doctors told the parents that they would operate on the hands of that girl. The operation was easy...

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rbenjamin Have you seen a picture of her hands? Does it really look like that's what is written on them? I ask this because I remember a few years back that Jesus or Mary was supposed to burned on a piece of toast here in the US - the toast sold for some huge amount of...

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Jane @jaiho2009 (39142) • Philippines 11 Mar 11

For WIVES : You know your husband is cheating on you and promised to leave the other woman You loved your husband that much that you are prepared to forgive him, back into each other arms once again. Your husband is...

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rbenjamin LOL--it's never an accident! But I am sure it is from growing up with my father. I just avoid men like my dad and I am fine! My mother's rage and depression when she found out made a big impression on me, and I find that I feel it myself when I am around a man...

16 Mar 11

Jane @jaiho2009 (39142) • Philippines 11 Mar 11

For WIVES : You know your husband is cheating on you and promised to leave the other woman You loved your husband that much that you are prepared to forgive him, back into each other arms once again. Your husband is...

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rbenjamin I think I could accept the baby, but not the husband. Maybe I am rare...because my mom was cheated on by my dad, i have never had a boyfriend or husband who was a cheater--I can smell that type a mile away. I have never had the urge to cheat, either. I firmly...

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daeckardt @daeckardt (6237) • United States 10 Mar 11

Hi everyone! This may sound strange, but I find that I would rather do my online work (ptc and mylot) than to work on my online class! I am having trouble getting myself to sit down and finish reading the chapters for this week...

homework

procrastination

student

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rbenjamin I am the Queen of Procrastination, but I always get my stuff done. Here is what I do--maybe it will work for you. I force myself to open the book...that's what I say to myslef...I'm just going to open the book. Then I do something else (maybe post to a...

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maean_19 @maean_19 (4655) • Philippines 10 Mar 11

A 20 year old girl had fallen from 18th floor to a swimming pool on the 7th floor in a certain condominium in Makati. Reports say that the girl was drunk when she visited a tenant of the building, who is a Korean and assumed to be...

life

news

women

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rbenjamin My goodness, even if she landed in water I can't believe she survived. Truly, I am surprised this kind of thing doesn't happen more often. It's kind of a wonder that human beings decided to build up inside of digging down. You would think evolution would favor...

10 Mar 11

akinad @akinad (446) • Philippines 8 Mar 11

I am so tired of my younger brother. He is turning 23 this coming May and he still doesn't know how to manage his allowance by himself. I mean if I give him allowance then he would spend all of it playing online games. After all...

brother

money matters

relationships

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rbenjamin Can you give us some more information here? Are you both working? Are you saving something? Why does he feel you are too tight with money? Is he older or are you older? Where are you getting the money that you are giving him for the allowance. I feel like...

9 Mar 11

megamatt @megamatt (14292) • United States 8 Mar 11

Between a teacher and their students. Without the students being willing to learn, then there is not much that a teacher can do. On the flip side, without a teacher that has a lot of knowledge in the subject and can explain as...

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rbenjamin I am so glad you said this! So many teachers in the US think they should have to do nothing to engage students, and so many students think the teacher is there to entertain them. That is one of the big things wrong in public education in the U.S.--that...

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rbenjamin @rbenjamin (25) • United States 8 Mar 11

As a teacher, I am always interested in what people think makes a good teacher. My favorite teachers were either warm and caring at a time when I really needed a friend, or very demanding in a way that what I learned in their...

favorite teacher

teacher

teaching

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rbenjamin Thanks so much for responding. I know exactly what you mean. As adults we need to support that kind of teacher when we find them, because they are often very sensitive.

9 Mar 11

rbenjamin @rbenjamin (25) • United States 8 Mar 11

As a teacher, I am always interested in what people think makes a good teacher. My favorite teachers were either warm and caring at a time when I really needed a friend, or very demanding in a way that what I learned in their...

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rbenjamin This guy sounds so wonderful. And I bet he had loads of fun teaching, also. Which he communicated to all of you. Can I use this example on a teaching website I am putting together?

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Mickie30 @Mickie30 (2626) 8 Mar 11

Please help. My friend is going blind and I'd really love to do something special for them before they lose their eyesight. Please can you give me some suggestions. What would you do if your friend was going blind?

going blind

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rbenjamin The best thing you could possibly do is to travel with your friend so he/she can see sights that he/she won't get to see in the future. One of the things your friend will miss most is the things they will never see. Try to pack in as much as you both can...

8 Mar 11

daeckardt @daeckardt (6237) • United States 1 Mar 11

I just started a class today (at least it officially started today though I had part of this week's work done by last Friday when the classroom became available). It is about linguistically and culturally diverse learners. What I...

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rbenjamin I teach in the U.S. I started out in the Boston area teaching adults when I was in my twenties. Over time I took administrative jobs...family literacy coordinator, alternative high school director...but I always taught ESL some time through the years...then,...

8 Mar 11

ernest220105 @ernest220105 (179) • Indonesia 8 Mar 11

The Merriam Webster's Collegiate Dictionary defines the term "gifted" as: 1. Having great natural ability 2. Revealing a special gift. "Gifted" children have been defined as those "who by nature of outstanding abilities are...

gifted child

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rbenjamin If your children are gifted, you need to be sure they are challenged in school, or they will get into trouble trying to come up with ways to challenge themselves! If the schoolwork is not enough, you need to work with them at home to challenge them. One thing...

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Soochow @Soochow (40) • China 5 Mar 11

The phenomenon that the salaries of many college graduates are lower than those of migrant rural workers has triggered a heated discussion on the net.Do you think it really reasonable for a poorly-eduacated migrant worker to earn...

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rbenjamin I don't know if the way the question is stated is really the way the formula works. I think a lot of students do go through college taking the easiest classes and not really learning that much. When they get out they are not prepared to do very much in the...

8 Mar 11

ernest220105 @ernest220105 (179) • Indonesia 8 Mar 11

The Merriam Webster's Collegiate Dictionary defines the term "gifted" as: 1. Having great natural ability 2. Revealing a special gift. "Gifted" children have been defined as those "who by nature of outstanding abilities are...

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rbenjamin I am a teacher and have worked as a gifted education specialist. I do believe that every child has gifts, but there are some children whose gifts cannot be nourished in a normal educational environment...they need gifted education. I believe in the...

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Mike D' Angelo @madp_071983 (228) • Oman 8 Feb 11

I have been an experienced teacher for almost a decade now and I have found something unique and challenging. Students learn at their best when the teaching session is done to the fullest. It all depends on the teacher. Teaching...

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rbenjamin Yes, I believe that students learn more when the teacher is having fun teachin. In fact, studies have proven that for English Language learners, a warm classroom atmosphere is a must. If children (and adults) are going to take a risk and do something...

8 Mar 11

daeckardt @daeckardt (6237) • United States 1 Mar 11

I just started a class today (at least it officially started today though I had part of this week's work done by last Friday when the classroom became available). It is about linguistically and culturally diverse learners. What I...

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rbenjamin Hi--I am an ESL teacher..I've been doing it for almost 30 years! My general answer is that "it depends." And what it depends on is the native language of the person who is learning English. It's great that you have observed your Chinese learners so closely....

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