Is there a difference between

@winterose (39918)
Canada
May 25, 2007 3:00am CST
Is there a difference between being alone and being lonely? for best response defend your answer.
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@cancatis (406)
• Brazil
25 May 07
It's one of the most important questions nowadays. I think, specially with single people that like to go to club and "spend the night" with different people, not building bridges, you know what I mean? Keeping it all on the "material" side of life, keeping the body satisfied. The inner being of course suffers from this... When one realizes how much he/she have missed so far, then the feeling of being lonely will grow. Still... the "pain for being lonely" is a good thing. Pain is always a good thing. Pain is just an alert that you're doing something wrong and you should get it right at some point, or it will get worse for you. Picture this... your hands are too close to the fire and you feel no pain (anesthetized, for instance). When you check your hands, you'll see that they're burnt, right? But if you get them too close and you FEEL it hurts, you'll get your hands out of there fast and they will not get burnt. So if you feel that you're lonely... that's because you're doing something wrong and should straight it back. It's good when one realizes that he/she is lonely.... the bad thing is when one lives a whole life being lonely and never realizes it...
@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
25 May 07
There is a bit difference in such a way that; Being lonely is a feeling of abandoned, friendless or deserted. Take for example a case of staying away from your loved one, your kid or whoever who's gonna make you missed them. And in this instance you can still feel this way eventhough you're not alone or there are other people with you. On the other hand, being alone is similar to a situation in which you're just the only one in a certain place and that you wanted it to that way. But it doesnt necessarily mean that you are lonely. Of course, you can be alone without being lonely. Its a matter of chances that in our life, we need to ba alone just to think about ourselves, our whereabouts, business, of which we can concentrate on all about it.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
25 May 07
It is going to be hard to mark a best response on this one you are all so good.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
25 May 07
Hi winterose, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Being alone is when you all by yourself and only yourself. Being lonely is when you feel there is an emptiness inside you that only can be felt by the presence of someone.
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@deeksh (77)
• India
25 May 07
yeahh...therez a big diference in being alone and being alone..being alone that literally you're alone and dun have anyone with you at the moment..no friends..family..not even someone to talk with...like when you go to some unknown party or place and don't kno anyone there you are alone..but being lonely means you have everyone with you still you feel a sense or emptiness or loneliness..one could be lonely amonmg a crowd..like sometimes it happens we are in a bad mood or are depressed abould something and are feeling down and out then even if have have a hundred friends around us and we are chatting and havin a great tym deep inside v feel disconnected and lonely..like we are upset about something and we feel there';s noone in the world who could understand us and our feelings or is able to...
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@feliniti (875)
25 May 07
hi Rose, yes I do think there is a difference between the two things. It all depends if one is happy in their own company. Being alone does not have to mean being lonely. The reason is because if we are content to do things on our own then it is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes it is good to be alone, so that we can get to know ourselves better and take care of ourselves, to sort out our feelings or priorities. Also I believe that one can feel alone in a crowded room, or feel alone even when in a relationship. This can happen when we don't have much in common with the people we are with, or when we feel we are not being heard, this can lead to a feeling of loneliness, even though we are not alone. So on balance, I think the two things are very different. Kindest regards. :)
• Philippines
25 May 07
There is a BIG difference between the two. being alone means that physically, there is no one else aside from you in a particular place or time. Being lonely is more of an emotional one,because even if you are in a room filled with people, yet you can feel lonely for some reasons like maybe the one you want to be with is not there or you are uncomfortable with the people there and you cant find someone who you can relate to and talk with.
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25 May 07
I Think, when you there no one at home , you are alone......but when there are no friends , no family,no parents, no relatives....you are lonely...
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
24 Jan 08
I believe there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. This is very thought-provoking discussion. I know the best response has already been awarded; however, I would like to also make my point and prove my answer. Being alone means that no is there for you. Perhaps you have no one to turn to. Perhaps you live by yourself. This is physically speaking, of course. Being alone could also mean having few or even no friends or family. It's a sad position to be in, but many people have to battle it everyday. Being lonely means that you think you're alone. You could be alone and lonely at the same time. Being lonely means that you could have people all around you who love and care for you, but you would still feel as if you were alone. This is also a sad position to be in when a person is surrounded by people who love them and they still think feel lonely. I would say that being alone is more of a physical trait. Loneliness is definitely a feeling. So you see, these traits are both extremely different. Of course, I would've never thought about this had you not posted this discussion! Another awesome one, Winterose.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
absolutely correct my friend.
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@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
i am alone but I am never lonely. I think there is a big difference between the two. Alone means that you are basically yourself and not having any partner or not surrounded by people close to you. Lonely means that there is that yearning of you to be with somebody. Visiting a good mountainous spot alone will never make me lonely. Goint ot movies alone never amkes me lonely. I am happy with myself then.
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@LAWise520 (276)
• United States
11 Jul 07
there is a HUGE difference between being alone and being lonely. If a person is alone, they may want to be alone. They may appreciate their solitude, whereas, a person who is lonely does not have people to share with at the time and does not like being alone. Being alone is good, and people should be alone sometimes. Being lonely is never good and you should not be lonely. You should have friends to lift you up and be with.
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@mjsdls (1840)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Yes you can have a household of people living in your house and still feel alone. I think this is a state of mind and a troubled heart. I have felt alone for most of my life and I aways have been around people.
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@jackgym (276)
• Australia
10 Jun 07
Yes, there is a difference. I like being alone for extended periods, but I have someone special whom I can turn to for intimacy or just to talk to. I think that's the difference between being alone and being lonely.
9 Jun 07
Sure. Being alone means someone could be around at another time and lonely is when someone doesn't have that or doesn't feel they are. Least that's my take. ~Joey
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
26 May 07
Hi Winterose, I believe that being alone is a choice, at least it is in my case. and being lonely, is having a barrier around you, and not allowing others in. and I can not imagine any one choosing to be lonely.
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@faruqy (155)
• Indonesia
26 May 07
Being lonely is more pain than being alone. Because being lonely indicated that you need another people to company you. But being alone is not need that much.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
26 May 07
Hi winterose, First let me congratulate you for bringing this topic for discussion. A very good topic put in a very abstract way. The responses you got till now shows how deep the question is. When we are amidst other people we cannot be alone. But even in the company of others we could feel lonely. Being alone is physical, whereas being lonely is a feeling.
@UDDERONES (888)
• United States
25 May 07
I feel like there is a different. If you are alone you maybe just want to be alone. If you are lonely, you could be lonely around others or by yourself.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
25 May 07
I think there is definitely a difference between being alone and being lonely. You canbe alone by yourself or in a crowd if you separate yourself from others. You can also feel lonely if you are by yourself or with others. The bug difference between being alone and being lonely is, alone means by yourself and lonely means you can be by yourself or with others and still feel alone or lonely.
@fengbo (731)
• China
25 May 07
Hello my friend.I think they have big different between being alone and being lonely.The lonely is meaning you stay when a person, you don't have lover,family,relation,friends and others.You will do all things by yourself.The alone means you have friends,lover,family and another peolple or things.But in this time they not stay with you.You feel alone was in the short time but when you feel lonely it means you don't have anything.Sometimes i feel alone,because my lover,family and friends who are they don't in my side.But when i have a holiday i will see they.So what do you like?
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• United States
25 May 07
I think that being alone means just that you are alone, as in the only person around. Lonley on the other had is a feeling. It is a feeling that you can have when you are alone or when you are with others. It is a feeling that I know all too well!
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