Do you try to impress someone you just knew?

Do you try to impress someone you just knew? - Do you try to impress someone you just knew? I rarely do it.
@argie713 (1809)
Philippines
July 22, 2007 10:39am CST
As the saying goes " First impressions last". Some people always try to impress someone they just new. It's a way of saying, I am a good person, and I want to be your friend. There are some people that are very good in getting you to trust them from the moment you meet. I admire some of them, but not all. For me, I just try to be myself, I don't want to impress people and later on disappoint them when they see my true color. Do you always try to impress someone you just met? Especially someone you like.
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• United States
22 Jul 07
i never try to impress anyone cause at my age i realy dont care what others think of me Im happy with myself !
@drannhh (15240)
• United States
22 Jul 07
You have put your finger on it there! I think that when we were very young most of us were taught to be overly concerned with what other people might think of us, and as we matured the life skills we acquired increased our self-esteem. Again, I am impressed with the maturity of the many myLotters whose responses here indicate they are happy with who they are, and for the most part little concerned with trying to put on a false persona.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
True. I think what's more important for us to do, other than impressing other people, is work hard to be happy.
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
22 Jul 07
No, I am who I am and thats that, if they dont like it then thats their problem not mine..I am not going to change who I am for anyone..
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Right. Me too, I would never change who I am for anyone.
• Thailand
23 Jul 07
You guys are nice. Losing our own self is like loosing in the forest with mist. one will be hard to get out of it. The mask is only suited in the stage not good for real life. I am what I am, no mater what others looked or talked about me. I just what I am!
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@asahibza (388)
• Canada
22 Jul 07
I think at one point of time. But not now. I want to be real myself. Talk and behave naturally. It is no good to impress others. I don't think it will be better in the long run as the truth comes out eventually.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
True. It is much better to impress them with what you really are.
• United States
28 Jul 07
Yeah if they don't like it than they're not for me to be friends with.
@Sushicook (691)
• Sweden
22 Jul 07
I try to just be myself, but at the same time impress them with my good qualities. I like to come of as an interesting person, but at the same time I can be quite anti-social. So when I meet new people I try to hide that fact, and enhance my interesting or pleasant traits.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
I think a lot of people will get impressed if you just be yourself.
• South Korea
23 Jul 07
I totally agree. I wouldn't say I'm antisocial, but I definately don't warm up to people right away. I like to sit back and observe until I feel comfortable enough to let my true personality shine. But, I've learned over the years that I just come off as stuck up or anti-social. So, I've gotten in the habit of being more vocal and inviting upfront lest I miss the opportunity to get to know someone for being hesitant. So, I'm still myself. I've just learned to observe and engage at the same time.
• United States
22 Jul 07
Nope I sure don't unless its for a job lol But in my personal life nope.... its take it or leave it with me. I made the mistake of doing stuff to make my husband love me and now its blowing up in my face. I cannot be who I am with him now and we are constantly having problems now. In Hindsight I see I should have done a few things differently.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
True. The problem with not being yourself is that you cannot open up later. You have to keep some secrets and that would be not good.
• United States
28 Jul 07
Yeah it could get really stressful if your keeping secrets and the true will come out sooner or later anyway
@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I agree with you. I just try to be myself. If you act false, you have to be able to keep that personna up forever. I'm a pretty friendly person, so I guess I do okay on first impressions. I just wish I wasn't so shy!
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Right. I'm a shy person to. I tend to avoid people.
• India
22 Jul 07
Yeah I do believe in that phrase "your first impression is your last" specially for those you have just met and find them quite attractive. Any ways I have been in such situtations a lot of times before, I have always tried to put the best foot forward. I mean I never tried to be what I am not but have always tried to put forward the best in me in the best way possible. Like no would like to seem their dumbest to those special attractive ones atleast. I won't try to annoy any one with a stupid kind of behaviour which people usually get into when they try to over exagarate what they are or if they try to just show off. I believe the best way to get noticed is to notice and learn. I do notice people and so I always stay away from rowdy and hot tempered kind of people. There ain't any good impressing them, no matter how good they look, they ain't even good for long term friendship. Any ways Take Care May GOD Bless YOU
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Thanks my friend. It's really good to be just yourself.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I agree with you. I don't really try to impress anyone by doing anything I wouldn't do on a regular basis. First impressions are the staying impression for me and if I meet someone who tries to hard to be something, that's usually not a good sign. a first impression should always be the true impression.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Right. You must show who you really are from the first time you have met.
@derek_a (10898)
22 Jul 07
I do my utmost to just be myself. When I was in my teens though, I think like every other male, I would try and impress my peers and potential girlfriends. I think that was just hormones and nature taking its course. I learned the "hard way" that it didn't really work. Being myself seemed to produce more meaningful relationships. :-)
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
That's true. Being yourself always gets the best results. Some people doesn't realize this.
@Dasari100 (3803)
• Anantapur, India
30 Apr 08
First of all beings as a good human being is very important for us than any thing and after that it will come to friendship in my way and when you meet either new person or old friend you should give your happiness to them and share with them and stay with them some time and be honest with them so then friendship grows in good way, so is it correct?
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• India
28 Apr 08
Yes I always try to impress after come to know some body . Because I believe first impression is last impression ... thanks !!!
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• Philippines
28 Apr 08
There's no need.I am confident with my self
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@Madona1 (2099)
• Gibraltar
25 Apr 08
Following my years experience of life, I am used to reserve myself and don’t have the initiative to impress someone I just know. I believe the feel and destiny, if someone I just know can have a good initial conversation with me, I will be pleased and count it as a good start. But I will take time to know that person in long run.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
25 Apr 08
I just try to be myself.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
I usually just be myself. Unless the person is very arrogant and needs to be taught a lesson. Otherwise I'm just the normal me. No strings attached, no best-foot forward deal. I just smile and be courteous, as marketers usually are, without being plastic. =) But of course, I wouldn't decide on something like trusting the person on the first meeting. I don't go for the first impression, unless he/she forces me to decide never to talk to him/her again. *LOL* =)
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Nope what ya see is what ya get . No put on if they dont like me that their tough luck ,I dont think putting on aires get you any where and they people I net that tryto do that Boy I get a awful feeling and I want to get away from them. My biggest test is the hand shake, If I dont gt the right kind of hansshake I just know there is no more reason to talk to them but I might stay around to talk to be polite but make sure I dont get in a place that close agin with that person . Sorry if this sounds rough but that is the way I am.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
22 Jul 07
No I am also just myself. I feel like if you have to impress someone it's not worth doing.
@santuccie (3374)
• United States
22 Jul 07
When I first meet someone, I usually don't talk to them unless either we're introduced, or they break the ice with me. New acquaintences call me quiet and "mysterious." One person told me a few years ago that I had a "quiet confidence" about me, which would explain why people asked me for strange favors at times (like assembling a piece of furniture for a friend of a friend :S). When I was younger, and hung out with the "wrong crowd," I could go up to strange girls and start "choppin' it up" with them to impress my friends. I got a lot of phone numbers, most of which I never used (I'm sorry to say). Now I'm a bit older, and have no desire to be a "player" anymore. I've also seen the darker, uglier side of the world, and learned that even the most scandalous and even deadly people can play to your tastes with the most articulate insight and seem like they have positively everything in common with you. On the flip side of the coin, I've seen intimidating faces that hid the warmest personalities one could ever wish to know (I've even seen a 300-pound man covered in leather and spikes cry like a baby). First impressions mean little to nothing; it is time that shows you who is there for you, who wants to use you, and who wants to really hurt you. So I've learned to keep my distance while I feel people out. I am approachable and accepting, yet I may remain reserved and detached for many a visit in keeping vigil of my safety. I am much more outgoing over the Internet than in person, because I am at a much safer distance here. :)
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
22 Jul 07
honestly no! i don't really try to impress others by my behavior. i simply show myself as i m. but sometimes i notice that some people have wrong notion about my nature.. i mean as usually i m very polite in my general behavior to strangers or acquaintance so get the feeling that i m someone too innocent and someone they can easily fool(LOL).of course they get to see my true self only after a timespan and that's quite different..;) oops sorry i m getting a bit off topic!
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Hey a713, I would say yes I do try to make a good first impression by being myself & if I am truly myself then I don't need to worry about my "true colors" coming out in the future b/c I showed from get go. +'s |:)
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