If you met a person with a physical handicap would you treat them differently?

@BethTN81 (564)
United States
July 24, 2007 7:26pm CST
I have come across many different people in my life, and one thing I have noticed is when people see someone with a handicap, whether it is physical or mental, some feel they have to be treated different. Now there are different accomodations for those that are handicap, but I just don't understand why some people think someone that may have lost their hearing, blind, unable to walk or is mentally challenged should be talked to in ways that make those people feel stupid when the truth is, they are not. One example, I have seen people approach a blind person and yell in their ear. Hello! They are not deaf! They can't see, their hearing is just fine!
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@redfang (969)
25 Jul 07
This is a slightly sidelined subject to be honest as alot of people all feel differently to people who they see as having a handicap there are also two sides to the story when you think about it on one side you have the should i just walk on and mind my own busines because i don't want to offend the person and on the other side you have the i really should stop and take the time to help in any way i can so i am no seen to not care. Being the father of a severly handicaped child i have a slightly different approach, my son is mentally and physically handicaped and needs almost everything doing for him, i also have a gran who is almost fully blind. If i were to see someone who i could clearly see they had a handicap and they were struggling with something i would ask them if they would like a hand if they said no it's okay i would offer once more saying honestly i don't mind and it's no trouble if they still said no then i would not push it any further. When i have been around other handicap children i have never spoken to them any differently than i do to my son and i talk to him just like a normal person, he may not be able to reply to me but it makes no difference. I think it all comes down to the two sides i mentioned above and the type of person you are. Interesting topic though.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Jul 07
oh yes...definitly help them physcally...just don't undermine them...many of the most physically disabled people are much more intelligent than they are given credit for. I think that is the gest of this discussion.
• United States
23 Apr 08
that would be just rude for someone to do that im disabled myself and i classify myself physcally challenged i would never want to be treated any differently
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Apr 08
I treat people with a physical handicap just the way I wanted to be treated as I also have a leg in a brace. We are still just human beings the same as anyone else except we havesome minor problems. so treat us as you would like to be treated.
• China
23 Jan 08
when suffering from misery,those disabled or handicapped become fragile.if treated differently,they will feel very sad.what we do is to comfort them,help them and let them feel they are treated equally as an normal person.
• Sweden
25 Jul 07
I know exacly what you mean, it's very annoying, I don't do stuff like that, but thats probely because my dad is and was when I was little aswell, a driver for people with diffrent sorts of handicaps, so I have been around alot of people both young and old with lots of diffrent handicaps all my life, so no I don't treat them diffrently I am just as nice to everyone :D
@kimyat24 (42)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
yeah... i think tose persons deserve respect to as much as we do... i may not be very helpful but when it comes to people like them, i try to give them a little special treatment, like when they need to cross the road or get into a jeepney... i mean they are persons too...
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I tend to take their handicap into consideration, but try to otherwise treat them no different then others. I have some friends who have various handicaps, and for the most part they function the same as everyone else, in fact some are superior to many.
@venshida (4837)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I think I treat them differently. I tend to be more helpful and caring than I would with someone who is not handicap.
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
I have met a lot of handicapped people with not just only one handicap but with multiple. I have treated them with respect and treated them as a person. nothing special, unless they need assistance. people should be informed with people with handicap. they may need special services and attention but not the way that they feel outcast and different from a normal person.
• Malaysia
25 Jul 07
It means we are not being sensitive enough to the handicapped people. To me if a person is handicapped I would treat him differently but not in a negative way. I would always prioritize him first before others. I will always remember whatever he tells me to show that I care for him. If he does something or gives me something, I would accept it with all my heart and I really mean it, not just faking it. I have a handicapped nephew. He doesn't have a left leg, and I pity him. But I never treated him badly. I talk to him like usual, but I respect him more than the others. If my siblings said something stupid or hurt his feelings, I will tell them to apologize because I understand handicapped people are more sensitive than normal people.
@Darkwing (21588)
25 Jul 07
I'm quite used to being around physically handicapped people, from children to young adults, as my nephew was in a local school, for both his daily learning and physical care. He had lots of friends, which I have met and most of them are the greatest of people. They have a sense of humour, and are interesting to talk to, as their handicap doesn't make their intelligence any worse. In fact, they are probably more intelligent than a lot of "well" people. Mentally handicapped I do find just a little more difficult. I need time to understand the extent of their mental disorder, and how to cope with it because often, their mood can turn in a second, which can be pretty scary. On the whole though, you're right. Certainly, a blind person doesn't need shouting at, and I would also add that anybody with a loss of one of their senses, be it eyes, ears, nose, or whatever, is far stronger in the other senses. They can smell or even feel a person within their space, even though they are without sight. Brightest Blessings.
@missunder (100)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Most people with disbilities want to be treated normally
@beyond12 (77)
• China
25 Jul 07
I may come across many persons with a phisical handicap .In this case I will check that wether the person is really handicaped.It is admitted that some person pretend to be handicaped in order to make money.So we shoul analize the peaple carefully
• China
25 Jul 07
Last Novenber I stayed at home for Spring Festival, I had not been home for Spring Festival for several years, SO I decided to spend as much time as possible. There is a villager with some physical problem.Almost all the villages dont like her, incoluding her husband, normally he has meals with his parents,but not her. The lady makes troubles so that her family members could not get along very well. My father also asked me not to talk with her, but I noticed that I liked talking with her very much, when she visited our home, I talked with her a lot. I did not know why, mabye she only does not know how to make family members well. And I heard that she does not like to take care her little daughter ,but she could take care of my nephew very well when she was at our house. I was confused. And also I liked talk with another people who also has some physical problem, I think they have many different ideas about the normall things, even sometimes they do things is very different from us,but respect them is the first thing that we should do.
@lyndee22 (1211)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
No because they are human being like me. They have feelings and they wanted to be treated the same with normal people. I met a lot of handicapped individual and I'm very proud of them because they are making their own living. Indeed they are very smart, resourceful, independent. Their defect is not an hindrance for them to succeed but they use it as challenge for them to reach their goal. They have initiative. I am very thankful because no one in our family is handiccaped that's why I have a heart on handicapped people.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
25 Jul 07
Hi there. Actually over the years gone by, I have met people with difficuties such as; being paralized or deformed and handicapped in some way... And yes at first, I did feel kind of awkard, which made me stand offish towards them, for fear of saying something wrong or offending them without realising... But then I watched how my mom and other staff communicated with them, and I thought well, they're really just talking to them as you would talk to any other person without difficulties, so I tried it and found myself more relaxed and really talkative with them, I found them to be really intelligent and gifted people, one of them sang and played a song for me, on his 3 string guitar, flat as hell lol, but the look on his face was like he achieved bigtime, it was quiet funny, I yahooed and clapped and laughed, he really thought he was neat lol... Today I have 2 good friends, one whom is paralized from the neck down, from a motorcycle accident, he has since married and is living a wonderful life with his family, being his wife and there adopted son... The other one, being Down Syndrome and is very capable of doing alot for himself, he works in a grocery store, and takes singing and guitar classes... A few years ago, I went to visit my mom who at the time worked in a Retreat and Rehabilitation Center, for special needs and people who suffered mostly from motor vehicle accidents and trauma... This is where I met these people, who are very kind natured and eager to live there lives to the fullest... Im glad I did, sometimes I take my children with me when visiting, and it also teaches my kids to appreciate and never tease them, to see and treat them as a normal human being with difficulties that are overcome by there eagerness and energy... Because they look different it does not mean they are not capable of doing anything, these people are quiet intelligent and really clever...
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I would not treat them differently. I work with people with mental and physical disabilities every day and I have a couple of wonderful friends that are in wheelchairs. They are two of the nicest people that I have ever met and I always treat them with kindness and respect. They would want us to treat them with respect them and like them for who they are as a person. We should not judge people by their disabilities.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
25 Jul 07
You are so right! I have a friend who has a handicap, and I know he wants to be treated like other people. I guess some people just don't understand or don't know how to act around someone with a handicap. To anyone who thinks this way, try putting yourself in the other persons place, and ask yourself how you would want others to act towards you.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Jul 07
i took care of a boy with cerebal palsy many years ago and in learning to help him one of the first things I was told was to treat him as I do the others. it was tough at first as I just wanted to protect...it did not take long to realize that he was just like all the rest with the exception of his physical disabilities. I gave him special help physically but beyond that ...nope! He was highly intelligent. He went thru school with high honors and went on to college. I find that most of the people with physical shortcomings do make up for them with other areas in which they excel. They are a far cry from being stupid and should not be treated as such1
@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
25 Jul 07
I work with people with disabilities and it can be really frustrating when people presume things!!! I mean just because a person is in a wheel chair doesnt mean that they dont have a brain and cant think! This can cause huge social problems for someone who is in a wheel chair and jsut wants to become a normal person again, people dont even try to make friends with someone with a disability.... they do have personalities and they can be really nice people. I do wish more people would try to see them as normal!