The last word

United States
August 3, 2007 2:37pm CST
Do you feel like you have to have the last word in an argument/discussion? (In real life, or here on mylot.) I'm not very good at keeping up with responses I've made to people if I don't get email alerts, so I doubt I get the last word very much. Doesn't bother me.
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• United States
3 Aug 07
In myLot, I don't necessarily need to have the last word, but if there is a misunderstanding or a disagreement, I like to be understood. There has been a few times where the discussions has gone back and forth for days, and I keep at it because I'm not being understood properly but once I have, I leave it at that. Other times the person is just going in circles saying the same thing over and over, so I just leave again and let them have their last word. In real life, I'm not much of a debater so no, I don't need to have the last word. If I'm wrong then I'm wrong, I don't try to get around it. If I know I'm right, I try let the other person understand that, and if then don't then okay. Disagreements can become so stressing if one feeds them too much, so I eventually drop it.
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Sometimes I do with my husband but most of the time I'll just walk off and say the heck with it.
@sunshinecup (7882)
3 Aug 07
No not me not at all. It use to, then one day I realized it's more fun letting "them" look like the jerk. So now I speak my piece and I let it go. It’s silly since the last word doesn’t win the battle, the one that makes the most sense does, IMO.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I grew up with a sister that always has to have the last word. I realized at a very young age how dumb she made her self look on a regular basis by always needing the last word. I have always been more impressed by people who know how to appropriately not say anything and let others dig there own grave.
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• United States
3 Aug 07
I never thought about it till now but................. I guess it depends who I am arguing with. With my boyfriend most the time I think I try to have the last word. I don't know why, but I do. With most other people I would say no i dont try to have the last word. Kinda funny!!!
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@Eskimo (2329)
3 Aug 07
No, but I always want to get the last woof in a discussion, not always possible with the amount of dogs/cats/lions etc on MyLot, but I do get to be last sometimes. You also have to remember that last is not always best. I try to reply to everyone who responds to me, but it isn't always possible. Woof
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@Eskimo (2329)
3 Aug 07
I don't know what get you to the top, but I don't think I'v eever been anywhere near there. My last discussions got 3,6,4 and 1 responses, so I don't think I'm contributing much to Mylot at all.
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
12 Aug 07
I do not have to have the last word. But I do not like to leave accusations or things like that unanswered. Just today I got into an ugly discussion on another forum. As it turned into an attack on one of the people invoøved I said my goodbyes. I would rather leave an impolite discussion than have the last word in it. here on mylot I do not need to have the last word at all.
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• United States
7 Aug 07
No I will not argue with someone. I tend to just shut up and let them think they won the fight. I may still believe I am right, I just shut up. Why continue to argue withone who has to continue to argue?
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
6 Aug 07
Here on mylot- Nope- Man I’d be at it for hours- But at home- Heck yes- I’m a last word kind of girl- My sig. other always tells me that too- He is crazy I tell him- But I do- I’m like whatever- he says something- I’m like sure- then he says something back- sometimes I even whisper back to him to get the last word! lol
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
5 Aug 07
It doesn't bother me about weather or not I get the last word in. Some of my posts are opinions and it is mine. There is no need to answer people who just say thank you for posting. I am not saying that you should not go back and address their post to your post but it is not necessary. If someone post a comment to my post if they say something that deserves a post ok I will go back. However, if it is just a quick comment back no I do not go back. I also will not usually bite when someone comments on my post negatively because again the post is my point of view. Since it is my point of view it can not be wrong only different. I leave it alone because there is no use getting upset with people for what they believe is right. I use the email notification as well. I am not on everyday and I like to try and keep up with my friends. There are some posts or emails that I do not answer because I am not interested but for the most part I try to support my friends and I hope they try to support my work as well.
@mummymo (23709)
4 Aug 07
I am the very same molly - I rely on those notifications as I get too confused otherwise! lol I like to keep a discussion going if there is still something to say but I don't feel like I need to have the last word....well at least I don't think I do! xxx
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@derek_a (10903)
4 Aug 07
Maybe once or twice when I was a kid I was determined to have the last word in some arguments. But with a little discipline I've dumped that habit now as I have realised that there are no winners in an argument - someone may get to be right, but what's the reward in that except a false sense of superiority? I give people the space to "be right" if that's what they want.. it's fine with me. :-)
• United States
4 Aug 07
I feel like I am never heard at all in an argument.
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@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
4 Aug 07
In real life I have that tendancy to want to have the last say in an argument. This is not neceassily a good idea. I am trying to learn to just shutup, when an arguement is going no where. On My Lot, I don't care at all. I rarely even bother arguing.
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@Calais (10905)
• Australia
4 Aug 07
LOL..In an arguement yes I do .. I can keep on going on and on until I win...I can get a bit stubborn at times..
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@chertsy (3817)
• United States
4 Aug 07
I don't think that I want the last word in a argument/discussion. My husband would disagree that I have to have the last word in a argument with him. I do, but that's only because he will say something either stupid or down right mean. As for any woman, do you honestly think I'm going to let him get away with it. I think not, lol. With other people it doesn't bug me as much.
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Just a minute molly, I am waiting until the last second to post this so I can have the last word...........................did it work??? Probably not. LOL I don't think it really is important to have the last word so long as you express yourself well and get your information out in such a way the other person clearly understands you. The flip side to this is to be a good listener or a good reader.
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@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
3 Aug 07
well not necesarily I like to argument on my point of you though ... but if the other person still disagrees with me , well , that's his choice and I respect it even if I can disagree with it On my lot I always try to leave a comment to interesting additions to my dicussion I think it keeps the dynamics of the site
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• United States
3 Aug 07
I would have to say it depends on the situation. If I know without a doubt that I am correct about something then yes I want the last word. On the other hand, if I am not sure then I will leave it at whatever is said by the other person just to not start a huge confrontation.
• United States
3 Aug 07
Well, it helps to get the last word in your own discussions since it makes it easier to tell if anyone has responded since you last responded. If your username isn't the one showing, then someone posted. But, if something really doesn't require an answer after commenting back and forth awhile, it doesn't bother me to leave it open and try to remember who posted last in case someone else does respond. I've found it's helpful to shut rude people up by giving them the last word. If there is no comment for them to argue with, they stop commenting.
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