The kindness of strangers saves me again...

By Leca
@lecanis (16664)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
September 12, 2007 4:51pm CST
It amazes me the extent to which the kindness of strangers has impacted my life. Tuesday a couple that I barely know drove me to a doctor's appointment. That sounds simple enough, except that the trip took 12 hours! What happened is that the person who originally was supposed to take me to the appointment (the minister of the Unitarian Universalist fellowship my husband and I are members of) wasn't able to make the trip. So she asked these people to do it, and even though they barely know me, they agreed. Not only that, but they wouldn't even let me pay their entire bill for gas or anything. After I insisted, they finally let me chip in a token amount, nowhere near what the trip cost them. Considering my history of abuse by people who were supposed to take care of me, it's still amazing to me whenever others are kind to me. Even though I've made a serious effort to be kind to others and help them whenever possible (in my case this usually includes risking my life, thanks to my superhero syndrome), I can't help being surprised when someone does the same for me. Does the kindness of others surprise you? Have you ever been done a huge favor by people you barely knew, or done one? Would you travel for 12 hours to take someone you've met just a couple of times and aren't even sure you remember to a doctor's appointment?
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@meanangel (167)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I have been used and abused by people who were suposed to love and care for me but I have also come across people who would do anything for me without much proding. My neighbors have extended themselves to me and helped when times were hard so I try to do the same in return. I can not become one of those people only out for myself. When I was to sick to work, stay at work, it was three am and my best friends mother came and picked me up. She did not leave me on my own she took me to her home and put me to bed then fed me the next morning when I woke up. I had not been close to her and didn't even think she really liked me until she did this. I now know how big the human heart can be. Without some kindness the world would not be worth living in.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
12 Sep 07
You sound a lot like me. =P I think it's great that you've been able to experience such kindness as well. It's great how people can amaze us this way! "I now know how big the human heart can be. Without some kindness the world would not be worth living in." Very well put!
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• India
13 Sep 07
This kind of renews your faith in humanity and somewhat makes up for the abuses in your past (I follow your posts and know something about your past from what you had written before). Glad you found kindness from unexpected corners. Something similar happened to us twice, a long time back. I was in my teens then. My dad has a wanderlust and without any prior arrangements he would pack the bags and my mom and me would follow in tow. Now as you understand the situation sometimes can become very risky for a man with two women, traveling in unknown parts without any prior arrangements. Once it was around 11:30 / 12 at night when we come disembarked from the last bus into a small town, where only the dogs were barking at that ungodly hour. Another person (a local) got down too. We did not where to go or whom to approach. My mom was obviously shouting at Dad (with me the mute spectator) when this guy walks up to us, learns of our predicament, helps my Dad with the bags, guides us to a small inn, calls up the owner at that hour, convinces him to take us for the night, arranges for dinner and then leaves, without any expectations. He was Godsend for us. Another time, same Dad with his family gets down at another nondescript town(he wanted to ‘enjoy’ the unspoilt hills and nature), again we meet another stranger to takes us to his home and believe me, for three days we enjoyed the hospitality of the entire family, free! They rather took it as an insult even if my Dad wanted to buy groceries for dinner one night. On top of that, while leaving they gave us a parting gift, a local handicraft. I will never forget these people, dunno if there are any like them anymore. Apart from these there are many many small incidents where complete strangers have helped me and I have thanked both them and God for his kindness.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
Eeek you're following me! *giggles* No, I know what you mean, and I have said a lot about my history here. It is amazing how a little kindness can make you feel so much better about everything too! Thanks for sharing your stories of kindness with me! Those are very inspiring! I think it's wonderful that you and your family had such good experiences while traveling, and were able to meet very helpful and kind people along the way!
• India
14 Sep 07
Well ya, I am following you, the only reason being I like your avatar…its somewhat like human nature…good one moment and evil the next ha ha!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Sep 07
*giggles* I'm glad you like my avatar! I really wanted to show that kind of dual nature. The character is from an anime called Fruits Basket, and I used to have just on of her pictures as my avatar, and then I decided showing more sides of her would actually better represent me as well, so I added to it. =P
@kiobug (2250)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Im not sure if I would go that far but I do do things like help someone push their car to the side of the road if it runs out of gas or some extra money if they are a dollar short or something. Every little bit helps. That was mighty generous of them.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Oct 07
Thanks for sharing! I've done little things like that a lot too. Helping is helping. =) It was mighty generous of them... I'm lucky to have met such kind people!
@kiobug (2250)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Yes you are.
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@ShawnBoB (215)
• United States
13 Sep 07
I've been in a few different type situations. Although I have driven a ex's mom who didn't even like me over 100 miles to visit her boyfriend while in prison. Not to count the countless times I have given homeless people (who I may have already known from the past) rides to Doctors appointments and job interviews. I enjoy giving kindness, but rarely get it in return.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
"I enjoy giving kindness, but rarely get it in return." That pretty much sums up the way I used to feel about it. I love being able to help others, but it seemed very rare that someone helped me. In my case, I'm starting to receive more and more kindness now, so hopefully you will as well! =)
@ShawnBoB (215)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Maybe one day I will, thanks for the best wishes though.
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• United States
13 Sep 07
It is just your good Karma coming back to you. You go out of your way to help others so others are helping you.You are a good person and you deserve it.And yes sometimes it does surprise me how helpful people are to complete strangers. And it is coming from the bottom of their hearts, they aren't trying to look good doing it. They are just doing what they think is right.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
*smiles* Yup, I guess I'm finally getting some of that good karma back! =) I like what you said about them just doing what they think is right and not doing it to look good. I really felt that these people cared about me, even though they didn't really know me, and that they couldn't imagine NOT helping me, you know?
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• United States
14 Sep 07
Yup. There are still good people in the world.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Yep that was very kind of them. I'd probably do the same thing if conditions were right (my time is getting strained nowadays). And yes it is surprising when I see even modest acts of kindness from others. Sad, since I display it all the time, and yet I barely expect it from others. On the other side of the coin, I can understand why bigger acts of kindness are rarely attempted especially between strangers. Some people do some sick stuff either by pretending to need help or by pretending to render assistance. I won't get into details, but I think most can understand what I'm talking about in today's world. I'd have to really reach and remember if I did anything this big for a stranger, or if a stranger did anything like this for me. I'm sure strangers have not done anything major for me, but I think I'm remembering a couple of instances on my end. One time I helped someone at 2 am get their car charged up, fixed and on their way home. Another time I helped a group of people move their wrecked cars out of traffic's way. Probably not much but its all I'm able to think of at the time.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Sep 07
You make a good point about the danger in such actions. In this case, even though the people were strangers to me, they were sent to me by my friend, so I guess I trusted her judgement. =)
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
13 Sep 07
it is amazing that a stranger will go to such an extent to drive you to a 12-hours long journey for your doctor appointment... i will be very very touched if i were you... i'm glad to hear that in this crazy world, nice and kind people still exist... and i am even happier that you got the chance to feel it... this world is not totally hopeless after all... take care and God Bless...
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
I was very touched. It's so amazing to meet people like that. I just can't wait until I'm doing better so I can go do something for someone else! =) The world is definitely not hopeless as long as such people are here. =)
• China
13 Sep 07
12-hour trip is long.they are really kind.In China, it is a virtue to help others.I often receive favors done by others esp when I am in a unacquainted place. at first the kindness indeed surprised me because the people are too kind for me to trust them. I remember once after winter vacation ,I went back to university by train.After the train trip i had to take one-hour bus trip to school.but at after a long train trip and i was trainsickness,I was very weak when I got to the bus stop. then a young man helped me to buy the ticket and lifted my heavy baggage for me.on the trip I was really worried about his kindness and thought he must had some purposes.at last I regreted for my bias. he just wanted to help me. so now I often try my best to help others.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
It is a very long trip! I was so amazed they were so helpful to me! =) Thank you for sharing your story with me! =)
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Nowadays, it seems like danger is everywhere and you can't trust anyone anymore but if I hear stories like that, it makes me still believe in angels on earth. It is really amazing that someone you don't even knew will help you in time of need when you least expected it. I'm not a bad person but I think I'm also not the kind of person who will help someone to that extent, but still ... I haven't been in that situation so I really don't know if I will do the same. Perhaps I will just follow my gut feeling if that happens.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
*nods* It is very nice to have things reaffirm your belief in good people. =) I think everyone has their own things that they do. I couldn't give someone a ride like that (I don't drive, which is why I needed the ride in the first place) but there are many other things that I do for people when I can. I'm sure if you had a chance to do something you could do, you would do it. =)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Generally, all the people that I see are rather uncaring people that just don't want a lot to do with anyone that is not within their select circle. So, whenever someone is nice and actually doesn't mind taking the time to do something for someone else, without really caring about whether or not they get repaid in some way.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
Yeah, I'm pretty used to that too, which is why it's so wonderful and surprising when people do things like this! =)
@mbilagan (178)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Wow, that's amazing. You are so lucky to experience that. It's been a long time since I experience that kind of kindness in a stranger.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
I hope that you can experience such kindness soon too then!
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Wow that's a long drive. I don't know that I'd even make that trip for me. ;) I'm happy that your karma is coming back to you.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
Yeah, it was a really long drive. Medical stuff tends to be like that where I live, because we just don't have any doctors beyond a certain level of specialisation here. Part of the problem with living in the middle of nowhere! Thanks for your response!
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@Valce1 (173)
• Canada
13 Sep 07
That's awesome. Also, neat display pic :P
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
Yeah, it's lovely to have a reason to believe in human kindness. =) Thanks for the compliment! I've had that avatar for a while, and I'm still excited about it. Partially because I was proud I animated it myself (not that it was hard, but it was something I didn't know how to do before). =P
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
13 Sep 07
That is a big sacrifice for someone to make. It's always wonderful to hear about people doing nice things for others. I had a good friend who drove me to visit a very ill friend and took the whole day to do it, but she was a good friend. I'm glad to hear you are blessed with people who care about you now.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
It is a big sacrifice, both in terms of spending their whole day and in terms of money, because gas prices are just crazy and they wouldn't let me pay for it! I'm pretty lucky to have met such wonderful people!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
13 Sep 07
There are still people out there that have a heart and do care. It just seems that it is made more aware of all the people that don't and are willing to hurt people. I do try to help anyone I can in anyway that I can, even though sometimes it is no more than fixing them a meal.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
It's true, we are usually more aware of the bad ones! No one's going to write a newspaper story about this kind couple helping me or anything! Thanks for your response! =)
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
In our times, there are only people who are still a good samaritan, and by knowing it or having a self experience with you would absolutely surprise specially when no amount of money involved. I love helping others specially when that person is my long acquintace, or even those who are old enough that need an assistant with. Though sometimes i feel so shy in approaching to help others but most of the time i do help when somebody need it. At least by helphing those who in needs makes us feel more happy and content, and receiving the same traits gives us more lesson to learn on helping others without expecting in return.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Sep 07
I love helping others too, and I'll be happy when I'm well again so that I have more of a chance to do so!! You have a good point that once you start helping others, you feel so good about it that you want to do more! =)
• United States
12 Sep 07
That is really great that these people could help you out. I have always told my family that you treat others the way you would want to be treated. If I had the time and the means to do so, I wouldn't hesitate to offer my assistance to another person in need. Big Huggers to you.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
12 Sep 07
That's a good way of looking at it, treating others the way you want to be treated. =) I'm glad to hear that you help others when you can. I know it isn't always possible to do as much as you'd like. Right now I'm having to actually not help others as much as I'm used to because I'm the one in need, and it's hard knowing that I can't do things for people when I want to sometimes! Big huggers to you as well! *grins*
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
15 Sep 07
Hi lecanis, After the problems you had growing up, it's so good to see you being treated with such kindness. Yes, there are many good and kind people in the world, and like you, I've been amazed by the kindness of strangers. I've gone through some rough periods in my life, as I'm sure many people have, and often it's those you least expect who are there to help. I've always tried to help others when I can, its part of the way I live my life. Blessings to you my friend.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
13 Sep 07
matter of fact last week me and my husband and my babies went out to dinner at outback,and there was a family next to us that had 4 kids and the lady had a newborn,so my husband asked me if we should give them something,and i said well hon its up to you,thats such a nice gesture and he said he knew how it is because we have our 3 babies and its really hard out there,and he wanted to do a good deed,so he went over to their waiter and told him that all of their desserts were on us,the lady was so schocked and we just told her congrats on your new born baby and enjoy.it was such a beautiful moment,i was so proud of my hubby for even mentioning it.take care.
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• United States
13 Sep 07
That was very nice of them. When people do nice things for me I really appreciate it. It lets me know they really care and it also makes me happy to know that they are going out of their way for me.
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