Do you often praise your spouse?

@youless (91533)
Guangzhou, China
January 22, 2008 11:39pm CST
Frankly, I seldom praise my husband. It is very common for me to praise my son but somewhat it's hard for me to praise my husband. I don't know why. Perhaps one is a kid and the other is an adult. We don't have a habit to praise a grown person.
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@williamjisir (22903)
• China
19 Mar 08
Hello dear youless. I love to praise my wife for her job done to us at home. She does the same to me sometimes though not as often as I do. What is interesting enough is my asking her for praise to get her confirmation sometimes. hehehehe. Thanks.
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Mar 08
That's interesting:)
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
23 Jan 08
OH! So you are partial to your son....LOl! You must appreciate your husband because he must have got some positive qualities, I uderstand. You see appreciation works as a re-charge tonic and it must be done. I make it a point to appreciate my wife, in whatever she does either cooking or doing something else. It makes her happy and elated and she put in her best efforts next time...in doing that vary job. Everyone loves to be appreciated..be it a child or an adult...so you please start appreciating everyone...and you would see some wonderful results, I assure you.
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
OK, I will try to do it from now on:) Let me see some wonders happen:)
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 08
Thank you Mithra!
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 08
youless, please take my words, you will definitely reap rich returns. And also please let me know the result of your efforts.
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@SViswan (12072)
• India
24 Jan 08
It wasn't easy for me either...but that was because my husband never praised me. In fact, I started and then stopped. But then I decided to start again...and recently started...and it's helping because my husband sees how good I feel and I keep asking how he feels when I do something for him or the family...and he's realized that I might like it too. Seeing us, our son has also started appreciating the family members (which he was doing earlier but only to me because I was the only one praising him)
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
I seldom praise my husband and the reason is like yours. We don't have this habit to each other. I think I need to give in at first:)
@SViswan (12072)
• India
25 Jan 08
Trust me, it will be worth it! Difficult and awkward at first...but then things will go smoothly and you will both begin to appreciate each other instead of taking each other for granted...and slowly your kids will learn to appreciate people too:) All the best!
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@meiteoh (421)
• Switzerland
9 May 08
Sometimes...but it's usually silly stuff like how cute I think he is or how sweet he is to me and etc. I do thank him often for the things he does and sometimes out of the blue I really lavish him with "soft" and sweet words. But I don't know if that counts for praising... *unsure*
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
9 May 08
Thanks for your response.
• United States
7 May 08
I guess it goes back to when your relationship with your spouse started. Think of the way you felt back then and the appreciation for all the little things you did for one another. Life takes over and sometimes people grow apart so its easy to not be in the habit of praising your spouse. I try so hard to let my husband know just how much I appreciate whatever he does. He has a great job, never calls out sick and helps out around the house more than most do. He is also a very hand-on father. I am truly blessed to have a man who takes in active role in every aspect of our lives and I try to let him know without overdoing it.. I cant ever have him think im kissing his butt that just wouldnt be right;)
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
7 May 08
He is a really diligent husband
@MAMABLAZE (242)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I do praise my husband. He is our provider and he has a heart as big as the ocean. He is definitely my other half. We have known each other since the age of thirteen and were married when I turned 26. He is my world and I try to make sure he knows. We have been through many a tough time and need each other to keep the other strong.
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Mar 08
That's so sweet that you have known each other for so long time. Your marriage must be so happy:)
@4mymak (1796)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 08
i think i do... in front of the kidz.. i would praise him when he does something nice for the kidz, which he will not normally do.. for example i would compliment him when he cooks - it's good to let the kidz know that their daddy - who normally does not cook - can actually make a 'mean' omelette.. and some other 'specialty dishes'.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Feb 08
Wow, that's so nice to praise your husband in public:)
@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
29 Jan 08
From time to time, I do praise my wife. A simple praise like she look extra good today, or her dress is very pretty today shows that you actually notice. It also goes to show how much you pay attention to your partner. Not only does it feel good for him/her, it also makes your day to know you have made your significant other smile. I will always try to praise where praise is warranted. No point keeping it to yourself that you find your hubby doing a good thing, like keeping the clothes without you nagging... cos he will never know you appreciate those little gestures and effort he takes if you don't tell him.
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Jan 08
You are a very sweet husband. I am so sure your wife is so happy with you:)
@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Hi youless...Yes I do, I praise my son and my hubby often. I always tell my hubby how good he is at his job, how good he fixes things in the house, how good he looks, etc. I praise him as much as he deserves.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Jan 08
What a wonderful wife and mom:)
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Hey yl, I praise my man every day b/c he treats me like a princess & spoils me rotten LOL +'s |:)
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Jan 08
Oh, that's so sweet:)
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
24 Jan 08
i praised my husband if he did great but most of the time i praised my kids
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
It is normal:)
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
Hi youless! I do praise my hubby all the time. I guess I am just vocal on how I appreciate my hubby. I think I am his number one fan! haha..Take care and have a nice day! :)
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
That's so nice for your husband:) Number one fan, what a nice description:)
@vanities (11376)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jan 08
yeah some people are like that cant express or cant give praises to their loved ones maybe due to shyness or just scared or something??or maybe theyre just not used to it since their parents when they were young are not fond also of giving one...but in my family its the reverse we always praises someones look, action or anything...if my husband look good in his new haircut i always told him that..and vice versa..( and if not still i give some comment but in a nice way so that he will not be hurt).
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
That's a good habit.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
Hi youless, Everyone needs praise, but I think a lot of us forget that, especially after we get married and have a family. I'm not referring to flattery, which does no one any good, but real praise. I think we can all find something to praise our spouses for, so lets do it, at least one a week. We'll all feel better for it. Thanks youless. Blessings.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
Just do it, hehe:)
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I always praise my husband in his achievements and even when he does things out of the ordinary like clean the house up since he never does. Apparently my opinion matters to him the most (so he has told me) so when I do praise him he knows he is doing well.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jan 08
You are doing the right way:)
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 08
Hi youless, I always praise my hubby for his helpfulness. He is always eager to help me when I come across any problem. I believe it is nice to praise and appreciate somebody who is serving us. It is not good to keep in heart without saying it out. It is quite normal for a conservative wife to feel reluctant to praise her husband. Once the wife has done it she will find quite easier for her to praise her husband later on. Sometime it could have a wonderful effect if you could use some other languages and phrase it jokingly. Why not trying so? My dear friend.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
Alright, I will have a new habit to praise my husband:) I am sure he will feel surprised to it.
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
23 Jan 08
I do praise my husband . Actually husband needs to be praise too, not only kids needs that. Try to praise him more often and you will know how happy your husband can be.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
I will keep your words in my mind:)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I really don't think I do. And I know I probably should since everyone likes a little praise every now and then, but it's just something I never think about.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
Thanks for your reply.
• United States
23 Jan 08
I praise my fiance every chance I get.They need to hear we appreciate them,and what they do for us.My fiance had a very low self-esteem,since he and I have been together I have seen his confidence grow, and I like that I took part in that.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
On the other hand I am sure your fiance priases you a lot:)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I actually do praise my husband all the time. It might be for little things, like putting a mailbox up outside or cooking a delicious dinner. He works hard all week and deserves to be shown appreciation for all that he does.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
I am sure your husband must be so pleased to hear that:)