Can we abandon our parents when we set a new family ?

China
January 25, 2008 8:54pm CST
I definitly hate this kind of persons , our parents are our treature , as their kids , we should never , never abandon them , even if they are too old to keep their lives ! I have met this kind of kids , they hate their parents cannot keep their lives by themselives , then , put them to organization , and never pay for their parents , but fortunately , the personnel where are kind enough , and give them a room for free , i don't know why strangers can treat the two old as family , how about their kids ?
4 people like this
9 responses
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
26 Jan 08
My dad passed away and my mom is 75 right now she is healthy and only need some help with her house work,vacuuming,dusting ect. my sister,sister-in-law and myself get together once a month and clean for her and I live right next door so if she needs anything I am right here and I will always be, she was there for me as I grew up and I will be here for her as she grows old.
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
For me this is the ideal situation - to live close to your parents so that whenever they need you you're right there for them. I agree that we should never abandon our parents. I plan to take care of them as best as I can, even if I don't expect my own kids to do the same thing for me.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I think that living far away from your parents may have to do with career choice or if your lover lives far away and you decide to be with them. People who really angry with their parents might have reasons that you don't understand. I know that I will never put my parents in a nursing home, even if I'm angry with them, because I object to them.
@kezabelle (2985)
21 Mar 08
I moved 280 miles away to be with my partner, I dont see my family that often anymore but that does not mean I love them any less. As a person in my own right I had the right to move out and have my own family with the person I love, that does not mean im not ever there for my family simply I have a right to my own life. I also think sometimes people have very good reasons to hate their parents and no one should judge without knowing the full situation
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
i also hate those kind of persons! i can say that taking care of them when they old is our way of showing them that we love them, that we are thankful for having them as our parents...its like paying back what they have for us started the time that we are born until the time that we find our own path...abandoning them is such a crime for me...besides, they are our parents, without them, we are nothing!
@roberten (3131)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Children do not fear losing the love of a parent no matter how badly they behave. They often treat others more kindly because they fear rejection by those who have no relative investment in them. Children also sometimes feel it is a parent's life-long responsibility to care for them as children. It is sad that what results is the abandonment of those who have given them life and the priviledge of a life better than that the parents themselves enjoyed. We should truly honor our mothers and fathers all the days of our lives and beyond.
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
26 Jan 08
My respond to this discussion is that it is really a heinous crime for the children who forced their parents to leave in an old age home. Today whatever we have done in the life or earned it is only the grace of our parents, who give us best education,culture by cutting their all interest. They have spent their entire for the betterment of their kids. If they earn 100 rupees they spent 70% of their income for their children . In lieu of these they want some happiness in the old age with the aim that their sons/daughter/son-in-law/daughter-in-law will look after them and will behave properly. But it is regretted to note that the present generation is not looking after them , Now a days children s feel irritate to listen their old parents, children s are disrespecting their parents in front of others. Daughter-in-law is also misbehaved with their in laws. In my opinion we should never abandon our parents. Parents are just like god. In our religion i.e. Hindu religion parents are being treated as god, they have been given the status of god. Whenever I have seen such a family who hate their parents and kept them in an old age home I really feel upset and I stopped talking with them any more. One thing is sure that what you will do to-day you will get the same in future. If some one misbehaved with his parents in due course of time his son/daughter will misbehave wit him, it is universal truth
@MGjhaud (20861)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
of course not. i wouldn't even send them to any home-for-the-aged- establishment. i'll keep them safe and near me until they're gone. i love my parents so much and even if i marry someone and have my own family, i still take care of them and even let them live with my family.
@musicman6 (2376)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Well unfortunatley, this is very true, there are a lot of persons that don't care for their parents the way I do, I just can't abandon my parents, I don't care how much trouble they are, or how much I'll have to sacrifice to take care of them!
@youless (94716)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Jan 08
No, of course not. It is too bad and wrong to abandon our parents. It is a very bad example for our children. Do you want you to be abandoned in the future? I don't think so. I am a mom now so I understand how hard to bring up children. We shall always respect and take good care of our parents. Money can earn, house can be bought. However, parents are unique and nothing to exchange them. I am grateful that they are still with us.