How nice of her!!!!!!!

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WEll I found out from a perfect stranger - more or less - that my daughter is not my husband's child. OK enough for a shock LOL THe fact is that she is but actually that's beside the point. Actually I thought about starting this discussion after responding another one today. THe story goes like this: I heard the doorbell. Wasn't really expecting anyone but I know that sometimes people confuse our doorbell with the one for downstairs for my in laws so I went downstairs. IT was a friend of my mother in law. I have met her a long time ago and we talked briefly a few times at that time, but she has been away from Toronto for quite a long time so I never saw her again. I explained that my in laws weren't home and politely asked her how she was doing. SHe asked about my husband and then the kids and when I answered that they were all well she commented: "SO your husband did accept your daughter." What in....????????? Why wouldn't he? " well - she continued - given the fact that he is not the father... some men don't accept it" Wait a second? I need to rewind here. Huh? By then I'm lost. Maybe she's confusing me with someone else. Maybe she is ill? I understand that the confusion showed in my face because she tried to make me feel better - I guess it can be called that - and explained that it was ok that my mother in law told her everything. She knows that my daughter is actually the daughter of this Filipino man I had an affair with. Please don't take me wrong, I have nothing but respect for all the Filipino men out there, but I did not have an affair and did not know any Filipino man around the time I got pregnant. By then the lady seems worried about her indiscretion, maybe she shouldn't have touched the subject. But she seemed convinced that my "Pecadillo" was general knowledge. I was mad for a few minutes, but not for long. I really don't feel like giving my mother in law the power to upset me that much. Even if this was true, which it isn't, maybe it was something not to comment with others. THen again if she told her friends that her daughter left her husband because of some other man, why couldn't she tell them that my daughter was not her son's child? Makes sense I guess. Of course who knows how many people are walking around thinking that it's true, but hey, what do I care? They're not my friends anyway. Throughout the years I heard from others many of the things my mother in law spread about me, but this one kind of takes the cake. It's actually funny:) IF this was some years ago, I would be feeling upset but might not tell hubby because I always tried not to do or say anything that could get them upset at each other, but this is not years ago so I told him. He was angry but we can now actually have fun with it. SInce my daughter heard the conversation with the lady at the door, she knows about it as well. SOmetimes when she asks us for money my husband tells her to go ask her father and she keeps the joke on saying she already called him but he's broke so she had to resort to the second best, and because they're both silly that way they end up laughing their heads off. But really, when we think of it, it just reminds me that my mother in law really isn't one of the good people. OH well... just talking .....