Somethings Make Me A Little Uncomfortable

I have, indeed, and if it is a friend I will probably just not answer that post or if it is really awful I will have to seriously consider whether to keep that person as a friend or delete that person. I have to realize that other people have different comfort levels though, so I try not to be too prudish. One of the things that bothers me most is when someone posts proselytizes by asking people to give opinions on a religious topic and then shows intolerance if the replies. I would not report someone for this, but I would remove them from my friend list. Another thing would be blatant plagiarism such as when somewhat copied 2 paragraphs from the book jacket of a best seller and passed them off as his own thoughts in starting a discussion. That one I reported because that sort of thing is fraud which is a crime.

I don't see anything wrong with most topics of discussion, to be honest. There's nothing in mylot guidelines that says you can't talk about mature topics, and since there is even a mature content option, mylot obviously allows such content. It's true that often things get tagged mature content when they aren't, so it is a huge disadvantage to block anything that says mature content, but the very fact that the option is there means mylot expects people to be posting on such topics. I often make posts that I'm sure some people would find unacceptable, but I expect that those people will simply ignore my posts and move on. Since I get a lot of responses to those posts, there are obviously a lot of other people who want to discuss such topics. If no one responded to my racier discussions, then I would stop posting them because no one was interested. There's one more thing to mention here. According to the mylot faq, you're supposed to be 16 in order to become a member. So this isn't necessarily a "family" site.

Ok, well isn't that crazy? As I said, editing preferences was only a suggestion. Sorry it didn't work for you. And what you all are saying, is that this basically is a 'mature content' site NOT a family site. I actually gathered as much when I saw I had that choice to make, in my preferences.. When you edit your preferences, to disallow adult or mature contemt, sometimes you lose a little more than just the adult content. I am sure Mylot does their best to see that this doesn't happen, but at the same time, I guess we are all called upon to make decisions for ourselves as to what we view or don't view and try to ignore what we don't want to see, or report it, if it is against the guidelines. We all have different 'comfort zones' as well, so I can see where it would be hard for them to edit everything, as they don't want to discourage some of the more controversial and diverse topics. As for language, I have seen some pretty 'colourful stuff' but you also, I guess, must take into account the context that it was being used in and maybe the point someone was trying to make. I am a site admin as well, and sometimes it is pretty difficult to make the call of whether to edit or delete posts. Personally, I think Mylot does really well for such a large and diverse site that runs mostly on individual opinion, of which everyone here has a right to express.

With reference to the kind of posts you are talking about, if it seems less than desirable to me, then I just don't read it. It's like a show being on tv, I'm not going to complain about, cause I don't have to watch it, I have a lot of other channels to watch.

If I see a topic that makes me a bit uneasy, I tend to just move on. There is the preference change for mature content. But then you may not be able to see something that may be relevant to the post. If I am not comfortable with a topic, I just search for one that I can be comfortable with.Most of the time that works. But as in life we cannot be happy with everything.

I read this post first thing this morning and I have struggled with it ever since. I accept all the comments made by your other respondents, but I know that I have certainly responded to some of the more adult themes here. And I a quite happy with that. I don't have an answer at all, other than perhaps we should have a separate area where adult themes can be discussed. I think that it is reasonable for people to ask certain questions, and accept that they may offend others. I am not particularly religious and some of the fundamentalist talk that goes on on this site I find very intolerant, but I would not dream of censoring it. But you are my friend, and I would be horrified to have written anything that offends you. I have tried to be helpful in my adult comments elsewhere, using the PM system where necessary. As I say, I don't really have an answer, but if I write something that you, or anyone else struggle with, please tell me.

To me mylot is one of the available decent forums in the web.Yes there are some shocking discussions.I always skip them leaving them to the ones who desire and go to the ones suitable for me.

OMG! That sounds totally intriguing! Hey, what am I missing here, because I certainly haven't come across anything making me feel uncomfortable, whether it's because I am blissfully unaware or none of my friends who I mostly respond to anyhow have ever done anything that has caused me to feel uncomfortable. I did get a comment that I was laughing at someone, but hey I never mean to offend, I am always joking around and I hope no one ever takes me serious, I am not that heartless, callous and would never laugh at someone, ever! But if I have done anything that's made someone uncomfortable I would definitely want to know about it, blushes I hope none of my discussions have been brought to attention, I try to remember that minor read these discussions too and try to tone down my humour x

For me unless it is blatantly disrespectful I ignore it. The best way for these posts to go away is for no one to answer them. But if it is really bad i would report them. I wouldn't want to say anything right to the person cause that could blow right up in your face and you could have someone always bother you And give you negative ratings.

I just skip them altogether and don't even bother reading into the discussions. I don't say anything to anyone nor report it and just go on my merry way :)

I have to agree that a few posts lately have not been "my cup of tea". But what to do, I've done like posted above and looked the other way for now wishing I hadn't seen them. If I see too many. there's going to be a point where I talk to the management. This is the internet and it takes all kinds to make up a site like this. If folks are responding to some of the discussions, obviously there is interest there - as long as it doesn't get out of hand. Surely there are other sites out there for these discussions? whit

Yes, I have seen some that are a bit questionable. I ignore them. If I posted something that offended someone in anyway at all , I would want them to PM. I don't think that most people would mean to offend. I don't know what the guidelines are here really. I know that I had to once re-type a post that contained a word that was considered offensive. It was not a swear and was in the dictionary.

I had this all figured out after the 1st few days here. I tried mine without the mature content not allowed and soon learned I would miss out on stuff, so I set it to mature. But I don't have any children about, and I do beleive most would think of me as mature. So I shall deal with it, lol.

I feel the same way you do, and no doubt can pick out which discussions you're referring to. I don't think they have a place here either. There are plenty of other places for people to talk about that stuff privately. It doesn't belong here. What to do about it? I don't know. I'm still learning the ropes as I just joined this week.

Yes I have a few Months back and they all turned up in new Discussions so yes I did report them as they where Disgusting and they where removed I have not seen any lately though but if they where really bad then I would report them

Well sweety I know it is viewed as a family site but really you are meant to be 16 to be here - that is in the guidelines, my teenage son wanted to join but as he is only 14 he would have had to lie about his age and I won't allow that! As far as I am aware anything that is a bit risque has a mature content tag and if you do not want to see that then you can opt out of getting mature content. If anything I posted had upset a friend I would be more than happy for them to pm me and let me know, if it were a misunderstanding then it could be cleared up and if they just didn't like something then fair enough - I'm not saying I would agree or change it but I would at least know where I stood! At the end of the day though sweety it is so easy to delete something that you don't like and move on, or at least that is the way I feel! xxx

Actually Mylot isn't listed as a family site, and you will notice that each time you tag a discussion with something that could be interpreted as 'mature' it is automatically marked with a 'mature content' tag. Unless what they were posting about were extremely harmful or threatening to an actual living person, I should hope that NO ONE would be petty enough to report someone for posting something that personally offended them.

I didn't take my lot as a family site honestly. If you don't feel like blocking your settings just ignore the discussions that offend you. There are many different topics on here and maybe you can just put interests that are of a cleaner nature? Just a thought..

Yeah I have saw a few post that I didn't think should be on a website that is suppose to be for family...because it really got detailed on some of the things..I left a little post but nothing like what the person did..I just stated my opinion and that was it..I got off of there..and no I didn't turn them in or anything like that..I just didn't say anything about it!