The people in your neighbourhood....

@whywiki (6070)
Canada
March 12, 2008 3:13pm CST
How well do you know the people in your neighbourhood? Not your neighbours but the people that make your life easier like the mailman and the milkman. The grocer down the street. Your favorite cab driver? These are the people in your neighbourhood that make your life a little easier but do you take them for granted or do you get to know them. When I was growing up we knew the people that ran the corner store. It was a friendly place to go and shop and spend a few minutes just chatting. The postman would stop and chat along his route. We'd leave friendly little notes for the mailman. It seems that today what with the cashier free checkouts at the big supermarkets and a huge milk aisle that we no longer know the local green grocer and milk man. It seems to me that the more advanced we get the more we lose touch with those people around us. Don't you think sometimes that the world was better off when we all took a minute or two out of our days to make a neighbourhood a close knit family atmosphere to live in and didn't we feel more like the neighbourhood was our extended family?
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I do know that I used to have a grocery store near my home that I shopped at almost exclusively for several years. I was quite friendly with the staff there. I was so sorry when the store closed.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
We used to have an old outdated supermarket that was on our way home and we liked to shop there because it wasn't busy and the girls were friendly and efficient and over time they got to know us, it was a sad day when the store closed and the girls were transfered to other locations. I guess it is a sign of the times but I like to know the cashiers it makes an otherwise mundane chore and makes it somehow more personal.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
13 Mar 08
It wasn't even an out of date supermarket, it closed because Albertson's closed all the "low business" sites in Austin. Then they closed the only other one near me, that wasn't that near. I really liked shopping there, for one thing, it was friendly, we knew the staff, and Albertson's is the ONLY place I could get corn starch free french onion dip.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
It really annoys me when I have a favorite product and the only place that sells it goes under.
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• United States
12 Mar 08
I actually NEED to respond to this discussion! I've gotten my attention riveted on the aspects of it that I don't like and am ignoring the things that I do like about it! Good time to remember them. When I call the library to renew my books the librarian recognizes my voice and doesn't need to ask what my name is, she just says 'will do'. The owner of the little country store is my friend, but even if she wasn't she would let me carry a tab there. She also keeps items stocked in her store that I use regularly. Again, it's not a personal favor, it's the way they do it out here in the country. The Postmistress is my best friend, she knows all the gossip. One day I called her to find out what a guy named Clyde's last name was so I could call him. I said "You know who Clyde is who lives with Michael?' She said yeah. I said what's his last name. She told me. Then it came out I was wanting to call him. She said "Oh, then you won't find his number listed under his name, it's under Cave Springs or something. Try that in the post office of your average big city. Hehhehehe. I don't think I will ever be able to live in a big city or even a large town again. I really like this more remote lifestyle. And I sure would love to have a milkman!
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I had the good fortune to be able to rent a little shack in the middle of nowhere or at least it seemed for a couple of years. I just loved it and I miss a lot of aspects of it and one of those was the way out in the country if someone needs a hand someone stops to help. It sure does have it's advantages but the one thing I would have loved would have been a milkman. I even bought powdered milk when I lived out there because I was always forgetting to buy milk and the nearest store was quite a ways away. One day I will be able to move out of the city again and I can't wait.
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• United States
13 Mar 08
Yeah, that's one of the negative aspects of living here that I have found myself focusing on... I can't drive anymore because my neighbor the cop gave me a ticket and found out my driver's license has been expired for 5 years. I can't renew it because California wants 2000 dollars to release the hold they have on it. Anyway, I end up having to do a lot of shopping (for food!!!) at the dollar store, because every thing else is so friggin' far away. Needless to say my diet has been a little short on fruits and veggies this winter... especially since we didn't have a garden last year since I had it all torn up. But just today the guy who I get my wood from was driving by the house and noticed my wood was low and checked in on me.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
Maybe you can start a new diet trend "the dollar store diet" I really like the country for the fact people seem to care more about their neighbors and depend on them more.
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
To be honest, not that well and I prefer to keep it that way. My next door neighbor already dislikes me due to reasons that were out of my control (she has never forgiven ME because before we moved into our house, the painter dropped the ladder on HER property, she has issues big time btw) but I always say hello and good-bye to my mother neighbors, keeping them at arm's length. I don't want to get too close because what if a falling out happens and you have to see them all the time? With my next door neighbor, I just don't care, its her problem... but it would be hard to face someone all the time who you had a direct fight with. It happened to my mother, and things never got resolved so I admit I am a bit paranoid.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
Some people sure are strange aren't they. I think people like that are best kept at arms length. You always see those bad neighbour suing neighbour on those court tv shows and hope you never end up next to them.
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
Oh yes I certainly agree. Some are odd and those are the ones to REALLY stay away from. I failed to mention before that I have heard plenty of horror stories involving neighbors, more than just a simple fight and that alone is a good reason to not get too close to your neighbors.
• China
13 Mar 08
I can't agree with more. A good neighbour is our extended family. We usually have a chat or share good thing with each other. The neighbour sometimes helps to do something for us when we are not at home. It seems a family member at home. Therefore, we will get happy and comfy, even have many pressure or anxiety before come home.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
It is an extended family and the longer you stay in a place the more entrenched you become. On the street I grew up on most of the people had been there for at least 20 years. We grew up with their kids and watched as they grew and left the nest then we watched as retirement came and we were all there for each other without interfering in each others lives. I hope one day to find a home surrounded by such great neighbours again.
@whittby (3073)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Back east, I knew my mail woman, the clerks at the checkout counters, the librarians, pizza place guys, and on and on. Out here in a bigger city, it's certainly a little harder to find some familiarity with any of these folks - don't see the mailman, the checkout people change shifts and times, so it's taking awhile to know all the who's I run into every day. It was nice and I didn't even realize it at the time when I had all these folks in my life. I sold a bunch of my household stuff to my mail lady when we moved and we had huge discussions on how she was going to use it all - it felt like I was giving it to family. We have a sense of community in the condo complex I live in now, but it's more impersonal. the rest of the interaction in the city is fairly impersonal as well - friendly but impersonal.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
I imagine that a city like New York New York would be big and impersonal. Even my city is getting that way. Sometimes it makes me want to move to a small town again.
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@CRiley27 (984)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I agree. I know most people...My mailman, the garbage men, even my butcher down the road. Just going to get a cup of coffe at the deli, they call me by name. It's nice to have a friendly smile.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
It is nice to be able to go to a familiar place and feel welcome.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Oh I so totally agree with you. I will admit that I don't really know the mailman, we don't have a milkman but our neighborhood is getting to be quite a little family. The other day a few of my neighbors sat right in front of my house just chatting away with the ice-cream man. When I finally came out they had bought me some ice-cream too. It was a little bit melted but still good. And we all help with retrieving our run-away dogs. LOL. The world is getting larger and technology sure is separating us so it's nice to stop and chat with our neighbors once in a while. I will have to try and leave a nice card in the mailbox for our postman. Thanks for the reminder.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
I wonder how many dogs get returned by neighbours per day, my brothers dog was forever escaping and being caught by one neighbour or another. It helps the big old world seem a little more friendly to have a good neighbourhood with spirit.
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@fayfun (37)
• China
13 Mar 08
I still remember when I was a child,my home was far away from the grocer.But my brother and I often went there to have some snacks.Of course we were familiar with the friendly boss of the grocer.But now,since I haven't gone back to my hometown for several years,he forget us?
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I bet he hasn't forgotten you. We have a little corner store by my dad's house and we grew up with the owners kids. I go in there every few years and he never has forgotten me, we catch up for a couple of minutes and I don't see him again for years. He is a good neighbour!
@fayfun (37)
• China
13 Mar 08
You are lucky. You know ,now I even have no chances to go back to my hometown, because I live so far away. And also because I am only a university student without a job. I miss the grocer. I miss my village.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I would get homesick too if I was far away and at university.
• United States
13 Mar 08
The town I grew up in we knew the mailman,everyone at the grocery store. Even at the local post office. Just your basic small town with nice people in it. Now since I have moved away. I don't really get the friendly homely feeling at the stores I shop at. The cashier are rude and could careless of waiting on me. Which how I see it you are in customer service. You should at least greet the customers. Heck, I don't even get that half the time. Now as for my neighborhood. It is a nice quit community. All of us watch out for one another if there not home. My daughter can over in their yards and play on there swing sets and stuff like that. Even if no one is home. I just love it where we are at. It is quite and safe little place to be.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
There really is something to be said for a small town where everyone knows and cares about each other. I think that in a bigger city the little neighbourhoods can be little friendly communities too.
• United States
13 Mar 08
Yes, that is very true. Sometimes I miss the small town.
@SarahJaya (412)
• India
13 Mar 08
Hi, You know the washerwoman, Milkwoman are the two friends I have. We live in a small town where I work in a College, Where my In-Law's live. My hubby works in near by city and comes home weekly once. So the only friends I have is these two ladies, who come home every day, Talk for some time, do their job, have their breakfast or lunch with us. Nice to have them around. My In-law's rarely visit us. Nowadays Mailman don't have much time to chat around or of course we rarely get mails(Only Greeting cards ). All others are E-mails. My sister is in North America and my Brother is in Europe, and another brother is in New Delhi our country Capital. So, I am alone and these are two friends, and a helper woman who stays with us is like my mother, and one of our cousin who also stays with me is like my sister near by me. Though we don't have our own people around us God gives us some one who becomes more than dear ones.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
It is good you have two great friends like them. I think with e-mail being so popular we will see less and less of the mailman. I think however e-mail does help us keep in contact with loved ones around the world.
• India
13 Mar 08
Hi, it is true that through e-mail we can connect to the world. But there is nothing like the snail mail. I will be in touch with my brothers and sister through e-mail and online chatting.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
Hi whywiki, I agree with you although I'm always careful about saying that the world was better years ago. I've always considered that the reason people thought that way was because they were younger. You are right in what you say though, there is no reason why we can't take a few minutes to chat with the people around us. I try to do this whenever I can. I think the postman, for example, would appreciate a smile and a 'Good Morning' once in a while, and this can lead to little discussions sometimes. I bet it wouldn't be long before she/he would be looking forward to getting to your house. Blessings.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I think the mailman likes a nod and a wink. I can remember growing up and watching our mailman make his way up the street chatting with neighbours it just seemed to make it a friendlier place to live.
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Mar 08
well we can i guess..since they are important too in our lives...theyre the one who sometimes helps us when we need help or whatever...
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
That is so true and you never know when you may need help.
@yannycui (377)
• China
13 Mar 08
My neighbourhood is my coworker. We work in the same office and live in the same community and be neighbourhood. Is that weird? He has a lovely but naughty boy and I have a girl. Two kids play together all day. That boy knocks my door at 5:30am at weekends because he wakes up early. Although that makes me a little anger,it is good to live near a friends.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I think a 0530 wake up may annoy me too but it is nice to live near friends they come in handy.
@ppooja03 (67)
• India
13 Mar 08
i can think my day without these people b caz i am lil bit lazy in doing any work 1 day my milkman was on holiday....then i hav to walk t shop to bring milk...thats d worst morning in ma life
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I miss our milkman they don't have them here anymore and it is a shame.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
13 Mar 08
I must admit there are rally nice thoughts behind this discussion.Actaully i do not very well there in my arae. but i know something about the the driver. also i like the idea to know the life of different people around me.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
When I start a discussion like this by the time it is over I realize I could be doing more and try and make an effort to put my words into practice more. I think we have one world and although we may be different we all need to get along for the basic good of human life.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
13 Mar 08
Besides milkman and watchman i know the security who stands at the gate guarding it and gives us a welcome.Yes it would be better to remember our neighbors.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
Even a nice friendly wave puts a smile on my face. It is nice to be acknowledged.
@SHAMRACK (8525)
• India
13 Mar 08
We are here - There they are
Dear whywiki,I am from India and now live at Kerala a Southern State. People in my neighborhood are so much friendly and we do even have a residence association, were most our common problems are solved and also some extra curricula activities like dance, sports,parties etc are also done. Also about the newspaperman, mailman, milkman all are well aware and they are also so cooperative in any matter we discusses with them. Moreover I hope it is the cooperation for well being as a whole is seen by the neighbors at our place. Even the children and other teens play and have chats in parks all those facilities well maintained. I hope to get a better and cooperative neighbors also gives a big part to our mental peace and security.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
It sounds like you live in a great place, I think more neighbourhoods should be like yours. The more we talk to each other and accept each other the better off our towns and cities are.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
no. i dont know most.. well i dont talk with them, just smile at them most of the time when i do see them. and there is really no such "neighborhood setting" in our place. everyone seemed to live by themselves not minding others and neighbors do not know each other. hehe
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I think for awhile developers were developing without thought to putting in a neighbourhood centre where people could gather and become a real neighbourhood. I hope this changes in the future and the world can be a happier closer community.
@reejane (294)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
Right now, I don't know anybody from the neighborhood since I'm new to the place. I moved in with my husband in his aunt's home so I never knew anybody there. But in my old neighborhood where I used to live, I've known almost anyone since I grew up with them. I've stayed there for 27 years so I'm familiar with all of them and their parents. Most of the people treat each other there like their own relative/s. Others have some enemies which they don't get along with.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
My dad still lives in my childhood home and has been there about 40 years. We knew everyone on the street, I would like to find that for myself but until I can afford to buy a place I will have to move around the city meeting neighbours and leaving them.
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
hmmm..We do talk o the people who brings us mineral water they're the closest kind of neighbor that you meant that we talk to..but not me my son does. I don't know the mailman and no one brings us milk..The neighbors we know are the people who live around us. we don't get special cab driver but when I ride a cab I sometimes talk to the driver who tells me his story about his life and vise versa.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
I was a cab driver and it was always nice when the customer chatted with me, it gets awfully lonely sometimes driving around in circles with no one to talk to. It seems like the milkman is becoming a thing of the past, too bad.