Can Online Friends be real Friends?

@34momma (13895)
United States
March 14, 2008 1:58pm CST
I was on Yuwie a while ago sending a comment to someone. My crazy co-work is at my desk and he asked me this question: Is that your online friend or a real life friend? So that got me to thinking, can people you meet online be real life friends? Heck yeah then can. No you don't get to go out to dinner or go to each others places for coffee, but you do get to share your lives with them. You laugh together, and share what is going on in your daily life and family with them. I have to say, I have meet some of the most wonderful people online, and I am proud and honored to say, they are my real life friends? What is your take on this question?
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Sure. I used to post on a soap board a few years ago and I have stayed in contact with 3 of the girls that I would chat with on that board. One of them and I send each other Christmas cards and Birthday cards. We email back and forth. We have never met face to face but, we are friends none the less. Kind of like modern day pen pals. Basically, Keyboard Pals.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
i don't send holiday cards, but i bet that is a nice add bonus. you know i think i'm going to do that now. thanks for the great idea
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
15 Mar 08
My pleasure!
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
thanks girl. i really like your Simpson avatar
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• United States
15 Mar 08
i have more friends online than in "person". my friends have come and gone over the years, but the internet opens up a whole new world for everyone. while you have to be careful who you may chit chat with, i have made a family with people online. i feel like barriers and walls are down, cuz you're not trying to impress with looks, but rather with personalities. most of society has forgotten how to NOT judge a book by its cover. now there is a lot of nonsense going on, and i could tell you i'm a tall thin blond, you wouldn't know if i were or not, BUT i'm not a liar, so i don't put myself out there like that. i stay true to who i am. without giving too much info unless asked, and then i still take caution. but the internet is just another form of communication and i love it! i love my forums, my game rooms, and all the other wealth of knowledge and goodies online. it's all good.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Hey there my wonderful Online Friend!! how are you doing? what's going on with you and your family? I have missed you. it's funny because you are what the post is all about. I have not talked to you in a while, but i think of you as a wonderful online friend. Please send me a PM and let me know what's been going on with you girl
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• United States
21 Mar 08
you're so sweet THANK YOU! i will pm you soon! i'm just trying to get caught up on so much! LOL!! you are so great!!
@fayfun (37)
• China
15 Mar 08
Some online friends can also be real friends and good friends. I soldem make friends online,but once I decide to share my life with online friend,he becomes my good friend but no just a virtual ID. Things are determined bu our attitude toward it. If you are real,he is real.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
that is the one thing about being online,. you feel more comfortable about sharing things you would not share with a off line friend because you fear judgment. but when you meet someone online you are thinking they don't know me so who cares. then you see that they are either going through what you are dealing with or have gone through it. and they give you words of wisdom
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@fayfun (37)
• China
15 Mar 08
Yes.People online become wisdom.They are more willing to help you when you say you are in trouble, because what they do are just to say some simple words.But this is also important to these who are really upset. So online friends are more sincere than off line friends.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
15 Mar 08
I have to say that I have met some really wonderful people online. They have touched my heart in a way that I never thought possible. If some would have asked me just three years ago if I thought this could happen, I would have declared them coo coo. But not only is it possible, it is reality for me.
@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
love the new avatar rozie! good for you. it's feels good to meet good people. people you can talk to and be yourself with.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
15 Mar 08
Thank you. And I totally agree with you.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I totally agree with you. I have met some wonderful people here on mylot. Some of them have become real "friends". You can really get to know someone by communicating by the written word. Its like reading a book, the book is better then the movie. Reading the book you can "see" what is going on. I feel like I really know some of my online friends. I just wish I could meet so many of them, maybe someday.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
ok let me start by saying i love your avatar!! she is to funny. then spoken word is very powerful, and it does bring people closer together
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I think my online friends are the closest thing to friends that I have right now outsaide of my marriage. I can always count on a couple of them. I consider them to be my friends online because I have never met them in person either. I am there for some of them and some are there for me.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
when you think about it, it it's crazy to feel so close to someone you have not yet met in person but on the flip side it feels good that you have people around the world that love who you are
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
Yeah, I agree. I have met people online who have been like 'real' friends to me. They can make me feel better when I'm feeling down. They make me laugh and smile even if we could see each other through pictures only. It's overwhelming that I can share my life with them without any restraints.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
i love my online friends. and i don't use that word loosely. because friends mean a lot to me. thanks for coming by
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@inked4life (4227)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I have better relationships with online people than I do in "real life". I have a real tough time meeting new people as I am very shy and get incredibly nervous around people I don't know. The relative anonimity of the online world takes all that away and makes it much easier to just be myself
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
OMG! where you been man!!! i thought you were MIA!! glad to see you back yes that is true, you can be you when you are online. you don't have to pretend and you can just be yourself!! good to see you back inked
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• United States
15 Mar 08
I myself have met several people online who I consider to be better friends then the ones I know in "real" life. My online friend lives over 5 hours away from me, and has two kids, and while she was expecting her second baby, I had come into some money and went out and bought her a Travel System (car seat and stroller) for her new baby, cause her and her husband we financially struggling. So I myself feel that she is a better friend than the people I know personally, that I can see anytime I want, but choose not too, because they take our "friendship" for granted. So don't let people like your crazy co-worker get you down. Online friends are sometimes more real than your friends in "real" life. And as someone else mention no matter where you go your online friends will still be there, they are just on the other end of your computer, the world, the country, however you want to look at it.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
that is a wonderful thing to do for any friend. oh he didn't get me down, i don't allow that. but he just got me to thinking about my wonderful online friends. he made me realize even now more then ever, the people that i have met online are my true
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Hey girlie yes you definitely can be real life friends.I have online friends that I chat with on the phone,messenger email and other sites.I have met a few online friends in person and really love having them as a friend til this day.You are one my wonderful online friends.You and I met here on mylot last year but it seems like we've been friends longer than that.I hope to get the chance to meet you one day because you are a very inspiring person.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
14 Mar 08
you are right about that girl! you are one of my wonderful good girlfriends that i met right here online and i am so happy i did. i know it has only been a year but i feel like i have known you forever! you rock girl! and i am glad to say you are my friend
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@disvachic (10121)
• United States
14 Mar 08
you rock 2 girlfriend
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
thanks honey have a great nite girl
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• United States
14 Mar 08
I believe they can be "real friends" yes. I have been friends with a group of women for about 5 yrs now...all online. I am closer to a few of those ladies than anyone I have ever known in person. It really is no different than when people had pen pals (do people still do that?) I heard of stories where they had written to each other for decades and finally traveled to meet each other. Same thing. Yes, you can be deceived online, and care should be taken certainly, but for the most part you can be just as easily betrayed in "real life."
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
14 Mar 08
LOL @ pen pals!! i don't think people do that any more. now it's social networking and emailing pals i think. LOL one of my wonderful mylot friends Teri is coming on down to the Big City to visit me on her quest around the USA. you have no idea how excited i am
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
14 Mar 08
And this little ruby is one of the ladies I was referring to!
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
14 Mar 08
oh girl you are making me blush
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I agree with you completely! I don't have any 'real' friends because I've moved so much and never got settled anywhere. My online friends are with me no matter where I go. There's one group of us that have been together for several years and pretty much go through everything together. One girl from that group I've met several times, two girls from that group are now here at myLot. Several from a previous group met at my house for a weekend of fun a few years ago. These friends are about as real as they get. :)
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
14 Mar 08
you are right about that. I have met some wonderful people on line and have had the pleasure of meeting them in person and we are friends. even a great place like mylot, you share your lives by talking about it. getting feedback, and finding some people you are comfortable enough to give a bit more detail. there are some people here on mylot that i would love to have over for dinner. What you doing tomorrow Ldyharhead?? LOL
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I'll be right here, Momma. What do you have in mind?
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
let me know what you what for dinner, i can cook anything but i don't make pork! so let me know what you want and i will make it for ya
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
15 Mar 08
Yes, I think they can be. I have formed some strong friendships and talked on the phone with them. I want to meet them all but not sure if that will be possible anytime soon. But hopefully one day. So yes I do think it is possible.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
17 Mar 08
thanks mbs, because i too know that it's possible. I am very happy to say some of my most wonderful online friends i have met right here on mylot
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
Thats really cool. I haven't formed any real friendships here, just more so acquaintances here so far but I really am fond of those who I have been in contact here and I hope to form some nice friendships here too. Yuwie, I sort of have but on myspace and facebook I have.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 Mar 08
I agree. Online friends, though different due to not being able to physcially interact with them, can be just as important and meaningful to you as real life friends. You can be out of touch with your online friends for a time and they are so glad to *see* you again, that the boost to your ego is enormous and so gratifying. You can't always say that about real life friends who immediately start asking a million questions, making judgements and driving you nuts at times. Online friends aren't nosey. They accept you as you are and take you at face value and have different expectations of you, which are often less stressful and much more fun. Give me online friends over real ones any day! LOL
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Mar 08
i didn't think of it that way spark! you are right they do just accept you as you are. and that is so important in a real friendship. i love my online friends as much as i love my offline friends.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 Mar 08
Well at least you didn't call me 'sparky', so may I consider you an online friend? lol
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
18 Jun 08
Friends are friends, regardless of whether they are made online of off. As long as they are able to chat with you, share with you and you are comfortable with them and able to do likewise, it doesn't really matter.
@34momma (13895)
• United States
18 Jun 08
you are so right about that. i have met some people on line that i would have over to my home without a second thought
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Absolutely =) I'm sure I have mentioned on yuwie how I met my husband. I have other friends that I met online that I later met in person, and many others whom I would definitely meet in person whenever an opportunity came along. I don't know how anybody in good conscience can try to say that an internet friend is not a real friend. There are of course different levels of friendship, but it is not necessary to develop a long and lasting and true relationship with somebody - to NEED to be in person. It makes me wonder what definition people are using to mean 'real friend'. I am a pc gamer so I have been familiar with the term 'real person behind the toon' for years. In fact, my husband and I get together for an annual bbq in LA with other gaming friends of ours and this year will be the 4th one I believe. Sometimes I have found that some people are not exactly what we expect via online contact, but for the most part they are still real people, and lots of fun to see! Maybe your coworker just meant real life friend as far as someone you see daily who lives locally?
@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 Apr 08
i guess my question is being that you don't get to see these people you meet online can you have that personal connection with them. I think yes, because i have met some of the most amazing people
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Of course it's possible to develop a real friendship with an online friend, 34momma, and the reason I know this is because it has happened to me. As you said, the intimate day-to-day contact might be missing, but there is truly a bond with online friends. You learn to gauge their moods and know when they need a little extra TLC. You share their joy when they are happy and their grief when they are sad.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
17 Mar 08
worldwise, very well said. you are 100% correct in this. I love my computer because all of my wonderful friends live in it!! LOL
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Most definitely. Even though I do have a few close real life friends, I also have a few online friends too that I consider my real life friends too. Even though we have not met in person, we have a lot in common online and with our life experiences which makes them all the more real to me :)
@patgalca (14605)
• Orangeville, Ontario
16 Mar 08
I have to admit, I do have a few friends online whom I have never met but I consider to be very good friends in that we hope to meet some day but miles separate us.
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• China
15 Mar 08
i argree with you!!! now i have many friends online,including in mylot. but i think if we are truth and honesty.wherever we are ,we also be the real friends.yes??/
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
17 Mar 08
thanks tiantianquan. I love when i get such wonderful positive feedbacks to my post
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
15 Mar 08
They're real people too so why wouldn't they be real friends? My online friends sometimes know more about me than anyone else.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
17 Mar 08
that is so true. i think some people don't see that online people are just that people. and you can have very meaning full relationships with them