Are you able to have a decent conversation with your Ex

Yes, I can still talk with my ex husband. We both agree that we make better friends then we ever did as husband & wife. Him and his new wife was here in October. Of course they didn't stay with us, they stayed at a hotel. They did drop in to visit a few times, in there 4 day stay. I don't think just cause a couple divorces, they have to be enemies. Especially if ya'll have kids together.

Oh how I wish I can.. The last relationship I had before my fiancee enden in not a good way. I was the one who ended the relatiosnhip and hope we could at least be civil to each other afterwards. He was so bitter that he tried to stalk on me and said bad words to my friends. He even joined a site frauding his identity which Im a member and grabbed all my photos and put some captions as if we're still together. I immediately removed him from my list and ask my friends to remove him fromhis list too. I came to the point of sending him a message and be friend with him. Such a freak when he posted to the website of our being together again??? I dont think we can be civil to each other again, just the thought of him gives me a creep.

I have maintained a relationship with my ex-husband. We seperated because of our inability to get along without fighting...and because he was seeing another woman when I was pregnant with twins. Even though I was bitter over our relationship I still was able to talk to him. Yes, there were times when it was extremely difficult, but it was necessary. We didn't fight or argue only talked like we should have when we were married. Today we get along quite well. We even talk for quite a while on the phone now and again. Life goes on.

I'll never understand why ex's can't get along...UNLESS the breakup or relationship was a violent one of course..thats somethign totally different.....but if it was just that you werent compatible anymore etc why not be friends..Especially when kids are involved... I'm friends with pretty much most of my ex's and wouldnt have it any other way...After all we were friends to begin with so just becuase the relationship didnt work out doesnt mean we can't be friends again.. I think what REALLY baffles me though, is new partners who are jealous of the ex's when they have kids together...all my ex's gfs use to get SO TICKED OFF that I was so close to my ex..nevermind the fact that we HAVE TWO KIDS TOGETHER or anything We originally were right mean to each other when we split up but it served no purpose...and wasnt doing our children any damn good either which is TOTALLY UNacceptable....

I still talk to my ex husband. (when I see him) I just recently sent him and his wife a baby gift for their new baby. I visit his mother all of the time, so it is natural that I see him too. I might as well talk to him. It makes my daughter happy that we do not fight anymore.

I mean I guess that I probably could have a good conversation with an ex if we boht ended it on good terms but I don't know if we could or not if it ended on really bad terms because it would seem like everytime that you talk to that perosn you are going to be thinking about what it was that happened that made it end that way and that would just bring it all up again...so I mean i guess that it is possible to have a good relationship with your ex but alot of people can't because things do end a certain way or something.... JHL930

I am not nor have ever been divorced, but I would like to think that I could be civil to my husband if that had ever happened. I don't know about calling or writing letters but like if we met up at a street corner or store sometime that we would be able to ask what the ohter has been up to and how they were. But this is just theory. I guess it would have to also do with the severity of the divorce. If he dragged me through the mud for no reason then I would be less inclined to speak probably but I might. Hopefully I will never have to find out. I have talked to ex boyfriends with no problems after breaking up but divorce is a whole different ballgame.

I don't really have an "ex" in the traditional sense. My husband is my first real relationship, and the guy I was "with" before him was more of a fling. Know what I'm saying? As for my ex-fling and I, we did have some interesting discussions about politics, and our different cultures etc. If he should show up in the coffee shop in my hometown, we'd have a chat, but we wouldn't leave together. As for my husband, he has an interesting assortment of ex-wives, one of whom we haven't heard from in years (all the better from what he told me of their mariage), and two of whom are still in our lives because of things that recently happened with children that they and my hubby had together. One of the exes called at 5:30 on Sunday morning. She was a little surprised when I didn't recognize her voice until I explained to her that I had not had my first cup of coffee at that hour, so I probably woudln't have recognized my own voice. LOL

have only talk 2 times in over 45 years nothing to say to him

My x was not a very nice person - to us anyways. I didn't talk to him unless I absolutely had too. The kids are grown now and I still have no reason to talk to the man, so I don't. I even get a bit queasy thinking about it.

I have an ex-boyfriend whom I moved away from 11 years ago. We are still close and talk on the phone, but have not seen each other in a long time.

what is the point in divorce if only to continue the battle? yes I talk decent with my ex for the sake of our daughter. i get along well with all my exes...even the worst. why not?

I can talk to my ex-husband most of the time just fine. I am usually the one he calls when he has a problem. He is also the father of 3 of my children. It is important that we get along for the kids. We celebrate every Christmas together still and it has been almost 6 years since we split up. We have both re-married and had one more child. He even still goes to my family reunions.

Yes, I still have a descent conversation with my ex. We are no longer lovers but we are still friends. I help her out whereever I can and even still colect some of her mail at my place after over 15 years of going our separate ways. There is no animosity and we can discuss anything. Had I remarried then things may have been slightly different in that I would have to respect my new spouse and not have lengthy conversations with her or any other woman. Still I would not isolate her altogether. One cannot get rid of memories and the happy times spent together.

I have spoken to my ex since I left my ex last October and I refuse to talk to him and as far as he's concerned he doesn't know where I am and that's the way I like it. I now pity him instead of being angry with him for what he put me through, he was manipulative and a control freak and I would never ever want to talk to him again or see him for that matter. It's part of my past I am successfully trying to bury and do not want to reopen. I never speak to any of my ex's and that's the way I like it.

This is my first marriage. I have dated a few guys previously though and they all treated me very bad. I could be friendly to them but I am not sure if I could ever be their friend because I just do not trust them. My husband was married once before we met and he does not have contacts with his ex. He remarried and she did also. They don't call each other, but they used to when the kids were young and he was paying child support. They weren't friends but they were able to be civil because of the children.

Normally, yes. We are having an issue at the moment but I still really believe it's a matter of miscommunication and once it's resolved he will feel bad for messing up and it will all go back to normal. We were best of friends for years before we got married and didn't see the need to throw that away just because it turned out we were toxic while married to each other. We've known each other since kindergarten and were friends from first grade on (he was the boy that chased girls on the playground in kindergarten lol but I put him in his place!) So we were friends for 11 years before we started dating, together for a total of 4 1/2, and it's been 7 years since the split....a 20+ year relationship can't be thrown away that easily.

It took about 4 years after I left my ex husband, for he and I to have decent conversations that didn't involve snide remarks back and forth (well, snide remarks from my sarcastic nature, and him cowering and being his passive self). Of course, I haven't talked to him in almost a year now, as that's the last time he came to visit his sons. Lol! But if he WERE to call, we could still have a decent conversation. It's fantastic when all of the drama and hurt is gone after the break up of a marriage, and you can talk civilized to your former spouse again. After all, at one time, you obviously got along well enough to get married, so there should be a solid base of friendship somewhere under all of the crap that built up. I know there are some people who can never be civil with their exes, no matter how many years pass after the relationship is over. That is a shame, especially if there are children involved.

I tried to be civil when my husband and I was separated but he'd always say something to pee me off.