I miss my bestest friend!!

@Sissygrl (10999)
Canada
April 4, 2008 6:29pm CST
My best friend, whom is the person i was babysitting for, as my friends may recall me mentioning her. . Has taken a fulltime position in the company she works for, the same week that my daughter was born. So i have no really heard from her much, and i have seen her even less!! I used to see her everyday, even if it was only for 10 mins before she went off to work. I miss my friend!! Has this ever happened to you ? I know its not her fault, and she will be on mat leave in another 4 months or so, so we will be "bossom buddies" again as her mom likes to put it. lol.
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@CanadaGal (4307)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
My best friend and I have been friends since we were 4 years old... that's over 30 years now! :) We've had times in our lives when we've not even talked for months on end, and other times where we've talked and hung out every day for months and months on end. Now, we live 3 hrs away from each other, and haven't seen each other in person in over 2 1/2 years, even though we talk on the phone pretty much every day. So yes, I do understand your feelings of missing your "bestest" friend. We all have our own lives going on, and sometimes our paths can't merge for whatever reason, which can hurt. But when it comes to best friends, no matter what life tosses at you, you KNOW you will reconnect again. And lucky you, you only have 4 months to go!!!
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
I'm not sure how long i've known this friend.. I have a funny story to go along with it though. We sort of met when we were both pregnant with our first. I was working at zellers and she was coming through my till. I asked her when she was due and she told me july 25th and i was due july 26! Then she looked at my name tag, and said wow my name is tracy too but without the E (i spell my name Tracey). Now i have met a few Traceys in my life, and a LOT of them have the middle name lynn.. our mothers were NOT very creative!! Sure enough when i asked her if her middle name was lynn she said yes! lol. We have a lot of coincidences. . We also each have brother in laws named jason. . Her birthday is in july and my daughters is in july. My birthday is in june, and her daughters birthday is in june. . We didnt start being friends right away though.. not till our kids were about 6 months or so, we met again in a mommy group in town that we both used to go to. one day we started hanging out. . and BOOM almost every day since then we've hung out or spoke at least untill lately! lol we both joke with our husbands that we go through tracey withdrawls.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
lol yea.. she isn't THAT good of a friend :P
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@avonrep1 (1863)
• United States
5 Apr 08
That is the way it goes, life. Your friends are there one minute, then the next they are moving on with their lives. It happens to everyone at some time or another. It trying to keep in touch enough, that is hard, with life and all, and kids. But like you said, she will soon be off work herself, so you only have a few months, and until then you have us, here at mylot....
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
Thank you for the support avonrep :) I try my best to come on here as much as i can, but i dont always have the time ;/ before the baby was making almost 2$ somedays.. and now i cant get over 50 cents! lol.
• United States
4 Apr 08
I bet she is missing you just as much much Sissy. Its so hard when our lives change, but don't frett to much when the baby is a bit older and everyone is use to the new routines you will once again start finding the time on her days off to visit. I bet she is excited about the new job to. I have a friend that I adore but her job keeps us from being able to do much together except on her vacations. She is a general manager for a fast food place, and it really keeps her busy. Most of the time even on her days off she ends up working because she can't get someone that was suppose to work to come in nor find a replacement. She hates her job and keep trying to get her to go look for a new one...but she tells me who has the time.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
That is the problem with those types of positions! I doubt the money is worth the responsibilities either! I was oncce offered a managgement position in one of the pizza franchises i worked for, but after working there for 3 years i knew better then to take them up on that one! I went to dinner at friends house tonight. not only did i get to see my friend, but they cooked AND wannted to hold the new baby the whole time !! it was awesome!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
4 Apr 08
AH.....that too bad. Sometimes when our schedules change we do have to alter our times to see each other. One of my best friends is quite a bit younger then me and has two little girls. Last year we got to spend tons of time together but her youngest went off to preschool. Last year we had time to go shopping and out for lunch but now she had to be available to get her little one. She lives on the state line so her little girl actually goes to preschool in another state..we are going to schedule a time together soon! I miss her too!
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
6 Apr 08
I feel your pain jilly, and boy do i understand your friend! kids, especially when you have more then one.. take up SOOOOO much of your time, and are SOOOOOO needy.. even though you dont have much time for yourself or your friends.. its worth it.. and one day.. we will have lives of our own again that doesnt involve conversations about snot, poops, or diapers ;) (at least i hope so)
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I know the feeling! When my hubby and I moved to another town because we lived in the same town we didnt see each other as much but now Im back in that same town. It wont be long that 4 months will go by real quick.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
6 Apr 08
I hope so Terry ;) The last two weeks went by pretty freaking quick!! now i just need to find me a double stroller so that i can get us all there in one peice!! lol her car wont fit FOUR carseats!!
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
4 Apr 08
It happens,and I am sorry about the timing. Try not to take it personally. I talk to mine daily. But only see her 1 a month. So just know you are not alone.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
6 Apr 08
She actually came over for a quick visit yesterday morning, and i am waiting for her to pick me up tonight for dinner. Woot. but then its back to work for another few weeks for her. At least shell be off for a year for mat leave in another 4 months!
5 Apr 08
According to me missing your best friend is the worst thing that can happen to you. My freind has travelled abroad and am only able to meet him on a yearly basis. The only best way to cope up is involve yourself in other activities, or atleast try to.
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@pooh08 (672)
• Vietnam
5 Apr 08
I think maybe you too worry about that problem. Maybe because she is busy with her work at her company. When she has a free time, she'll come to you and chat with you as in the old days.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 08
Not at the moment.I always see my best friends in school.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
5 Apr 08
I had been friends with a girl for about 6 years, we were so close and just went through so much together and each of us only had each other as friends and had no one else. We had so much fun and we both had the same number of children and we both had our 4th child just 9 days apart. Recently, well about a year ago now, she left the area, and I miss her so much, I hardly see her at all. We still talk on the phone but it is just not the same at all.
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@sahyd2don (2950)
• India
5 Apr 08
your friend is really luckey .....to have a best friend like you....not every body is luckey ....i am one of them....i dont have best friend.....and i really need a best friend....i really miss him...
@skinnychick (6937)
• United States
5 Apr 08
This has happened to me. I miss mine alot of the time. There are actually 2 that I feel this way about. But you know, no matter how much time passes or far apart we are, we can talk to each other and it really is like nothing has changed. There might be facets of life that had changed but our feelings are the same for each other no matter what. These are my oldest and dearest friends so we have been around the missing block a time or two.
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@kjcolmo (24)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I have been in similar circumstance, though in your situation I cant understand why your freind has not called you. Is he/she trying to linger you on? Have you tried to call her/him? Has she made new freinds and put you on the back burner? How long has it been since you have actually done something with her? Please, if you feel it to be necessary call and talk to her and ask.
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
5 Apr 08
Yes this has happened to me before as well. Actually it is happening right now. I do not think I have seen any of my old friends in almost two years. Pretty scary.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
5 Apr 08
I know how you feel. My neighbour and I were very good friends...till she first got a full time job and now I do. We hardly get to meet though I stay in the floor above hers. It was hard at first when she got a job...and I was home...but I got used to it...and now I'm busy with a job too.
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@cortney09 (1348)
• United States
8 Apr 08
I am so sorry. I moved around so much when I was younger that I had a hard time making friends, but when I did, it was so hard to loose them. I still have trouble making friends now, but that's another story. I am sure once things settle down, they will get back to how they were before. I am sure that switching to full time work was a big change for her.
@suganrekh (264)
• India
7 Apr 08
I missed my best friend when I was in my 2nd standard in school after that I have no friends at all best friend. Still now am missing her I don't know she must have forgotten me also Her name is Manjubashni she moved to CANADA after we complete4d 2nd standard they are from srilanka. just now a thought came into my mind may be through mylot.com I can get her Only God knows I will be the most happiest person to meet her after 20 years
@Hatley (159683)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Apr 08
Yes it did happen to me when my best friend Nelda moved from our apartment complex to a trailer park. so we now have a standing date for supper out every other week on a Wednesday night we eat hamburgers and fries and just talk a streak and it is such fun. She is seventy and I am eighty one and both our sons are best friends too and get this we were both born in November so we even share birthdays. oh and we are both diabetics.
@mummymo (23709)
6 Apr 08
aww sissy just when you need her most! I do understand how much you must miss her but don't worry the next 4 months will fly past in a blur! My best friend used to get to see me every morning and then they moved her from our local branch to the one in town and now she only gets to see me on her days off usually! having said that we still speak to each other on the phone several times a day usually! xxx
• United States
5 Apr 08
I have some really close friends but there is not one like I went to school with and to tell you the truth I miss her terriably