National costume

Woman in sari - Traditional attire for women in India
@SViswan (12096)
India
April 15, 2008 3:03am CST
I don't regularly wear a sari(our national costume) because I'm not used to doing stuff wearing it....and the times when I wear it the way people in my state too is even rarer. My husband NEVER wears our traditional attire. He's always in shirts and pants...and shorts at home. Our traditional attire for men comprises of a piece of cloth wound round the tummy and tucked in place. My husband's scared it would come loose and so he never risks wearing it. I love wearing a sari...but it's just too much hassle running after kids wearing one (I wonder how my grandmother did it!). Do you wear your traditional attire on a regular basis or only on occasssion?
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@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
15 Apr 08
Hi dear, I would love to see you all (you, apsara, deepak, cupid, bala, mithra.......and all) in traditional dresses. How about having a group photo of us! I just hope that day comes some day! I really love you all and wish you have your dreams come true. Bye for now. To be continued....
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
15 Apr 08
Wow what a wish hey Mimipi, would u mind if i call ir Day Dreaming
@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
lol....so right...when it's our little gang....it's always 'To be continued'! But Bala seems to be missing for some days now. If I'm not mistaken, you are Bengali....I'd love to learn how to drape the saree Bengali style. Hope you'll get back and let us know if you do wear the Bengali saree on a regular basis:)
@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
15 Apr 08
Cupid I think I am! But sometimes it feels so good to do so, isn't it!!
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@dpk262006 (41800)
• Delhi, India
15 Apr 08
I agree with you that regional or national costume carries its own grace. SARI has no substitute. I feel it is the best costume amongst the Indian costumes. Sari can make one feel smarter, slimmer,taller and more beautiful than what one actually is. I also agree that it is really cumbersome to wear a sari. It takes time to tie a sari. In Delhi also, working woman prefer wearing other attires,instead of wearing a sari, because they are always in a hurry and short of time. My better half too wears Sari only on special occasions and while going to her officer, she prefers wearing salwar-suits. For me, pant shirt has become a regular costume to wear. Because nobody comes to office in our national dress i.e. Kurta - Payjama....LOL! Very Good Post!!
@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
Thanks Deepak! I find it difficult to run around a toddler in a sari (I did have an occassion to wear it last week...and be sure I won't do it again soon...lol). I love the sari and feel graceful in it....but practically it's difficult to manage if you have a job which requires running around. Hats off to the previous generations who still do all their work wearing the sari. I was also wondering if the case was the same in other countries....if people wear their traditional dress only for certain occassions. Kurta-Pajama is nice and comfortable. Why not wear it to work? Is it because it is associated with sleeping alone?:)
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
15 Apr 08
Deepak, would love to see you in kurta pajama, with Gandhi topi......ha ha ha.....what do you say SV, I wish Mithra was here, she would really add spice to this discussion...........
@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
I so agree with you Apsara...it's been months since we had that spice in our discussions. I wonder if anyone wears the Gandhi topi anymore.
@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
15 Apr 08
Indian dress - Sari is so beautiful
Hi SV........how are you, saw you after long time. Let me tell you that I love saris and I looked my best when I wore sari. When I was in India, I always wore sari after marriage, but not at home specially after I had my children, I preferred to wear a maxi or gown, as we have to be very active with children and with other house work. I was very much found of soft chiffon saris, they made me look even more beautiful and sexy...lol. But now since I have migrated to Israel, I am mostly wearing skirt blouse and dresses and occasionally pants too.....jaisa desh wase bhase......but I do wear salwar kamis or sari in Indian marriages here. I really miss those colourful sari's with matching jewellery on it.......now you will ask me what is national dress of Israel, then I will have to tell you that their is no national dress here, they just follow American fashion.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
Traditional costume - Israel
Yes, Apsara...I have been busy with the kids and my training. Yes, I love saris too but like you mentioned difficult to manage with kids. Even I prefer free flowing saris to the heavy ones. But I never had to wear saris all the time even after I was married...maybe my in-laws didn't insist on it because they knew I grew up abroad. I was mostly in salwars though (respecting the fact that they might not like me to be too modern). My son did a project on the national costumes of people of different countries and it had one on Israel too. I'm posting it here....lol...this is probably some 16th century costume and no one wears it anymore.
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
15 Apr 08
Hi Apsara what if u wear saree in Israel as they dont have any specific dress Once in a week on week lets try
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@dpk262006 (41800)
• Delhi, India
15 Apr 08
You must be looking awesome, when you wear Sari!!
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
15 Apr 08
Hi Our regular dreess is shalwar qameez i wear it at home on friday to office or on Eids its comforable a look good too, they can be good night dresses tooo In officer normally in trouser and shirt or Jeans we should wear our national dress Take care
@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
It's good to know that you do wear your traditional dress regularly. Here, I find most of us have shifted to western wear (mostly in the cities). Even down south, most of us have adopted the north indian salwar kameez as our regular wear....but the previous generation still stick to saris.
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
15 Apr 08
cupid, how about sending your friends your picture in your traditional dress, Sv Mithra and I will love to see you.........what do you say SV
@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
Right Apsara...the last time we saw cupid...he was a speck in the backdrop of a lake:)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Wow a Sari. I know you look beautiful in it too.I am an American so the closet thing I have to a traditional costume is a t-shirt and blue jeans.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
Oh yes...a sari is graceful and suits any figure. But it really is difficult to run around kids if one isn't used to wearing it all the time (I don't....I usually wear a north indian dress or pants and skirts). REally? Don't American's have a traditional costume? Something you wear for weddings....or when you meet someone important?
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• United States
15 Apr 08
Most Americans wear t-shirts and jeans. And not every American gets married. And, horror of horrors, you Can get married in jeans if you want.We don't have a traditional costume that women can wear to show where their culture came from that All Americans wear. The closest we get to it is our Chinese Americans will wear traditional Chinese costume during New year. Our Orthodox religious people will wear their traditional clothes.
@SViswan (12096)
• India
16 Apr 08
Though our national costume is the sari (for women), it is worn differently in different states....and we hardly seeanyone from our generation wearing it on a regular basis. I'm sure the tuxedo and the gown can be considered as traditional wear (?)
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@lilybug (21184)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I am from the US and we do not have a national costume. I usually wear jeans and a t-shirt unless I need to get dressed up for something which rarely happens.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Actually, I think you "hit the nail on the head." I think jeans and a t-shirt are probably the closest to a National Costume that we have. I was working at PetSmart one day and all day long, all I saw were jeans and a t-shirt. One woman had a suit on and that really stood out. But day after day, I see jeans and a t-shirt.
@SViswan (12096)
• India
16 Apr 08
That's interesting....everyone from the US said jeans and T-shirt. I'm beginning to think it really is the national costume of the USA:)
@athinapie (1153)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
i like our national costume here in the philippines. it's just sad that teenagers and children in this generation don't appreciate it than before... that's why we only wear them on occasions...
@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
What is the national costume of the Phillipines? I'd love to know...if you can please post a picture too.
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• India
15 Apr 08
Hi Sandhya, How true and same here. My regular dress (or uniform you should say) is the ubiquitous salwar kameez in its various styles. The short one, the knee-length one and also the long one. I just cant imagine moving without it. Sarees are only for formal and festive occasions when the transportation is ensured by the family and I don’t have to do much running around. My hubby too is in shirt pants, he doesn’t even know how to wear a dhuti properly. I have heard it later that during our marriage, it was always my father-in-law to help him out (just imagine such a big boy being dressed by pa dear). I disbelieved it but it was true. Two and half years later during our son’s annaprasan, it was again his daddy dear and horror or horrors! During the recently concluded marriage of my brother-in-law, he again needed help. And (if possible) he needs somebody to carry the ends of the dhuti for him, like erstwhile zamindars!
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
lol...I can imagine! My husband never wears a dhoti. The last I remember him wearing one was for the younger one's annaprasna (which was at home)...the time before that was for the older one's annaprasna....and it came undone at my aunt's place. He refuses to wear a dhoti for weddings...and the only wedding I've seen him in a dhoti was ours (no chance he could avoid it). He didn't wear one for my sister's wedding either!
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@subha12 (18472)
• India
15 Apr 08
i am also from india. and sari, no i rarely wear ones. i actually feel very uncomfortable in a saree and do not use it. may be very rarely when its mandatory to wear.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
I know how saris are not worn regularly today. Only when it's really necessary to wear one do the girls wear one (even in my generation). I grew up outside India..and I was always fascinated by the sari and always wanting to wear one....and I didn't miss an opportunity to wear one before I was married. I loved to drape it and move around in it...of course I didn't have to do much in it. But after kids, it's just too difficult to wear a sari and tend to young kids....I now, avoid it and stick to churidars or even skirts and tops for functions. It's only certain weddings that I cannot avoid wearing a sari..that I wear one...and those times...the kids are hubby's duty:)
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@whiteheron (4223)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I live in the States and as I am not Native American or and American Indian there is no real traditional attire other than the clothing that you see most people wearing. Oddly enough, although I am an American of Irish, French and German ancestory, I do have a sari which I have worn only when a Guru or Saint or Mother from India was coming and I was helping out or wanted to do puja at some ceremony. I do not know how to wear the sari properly and find it difficult, needing at least one other person to assist me in putting it on, and requiring lots of pins to deal with it. I also have has difficulty find the appropriate top to wear under it as my size is not small so I have had to resort to using a T-shirt of the small color as the sari. I know that this is respectful as it is far from being revealing but I also know it highly lacking in traditional merit. grins.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
17 Apr 08
If it's any consolation, most of us learn to drape the sari after many attempts...and like you with lots of pins. And some of us never learn because we don't use it on a regular basis. I was always fascinated by the sari and learnt to drape it even before I was married. One usually needs the help of one more person if one needs the sari to look neat or else the pleats stand out which we don't like:)We also get blouses that are like smaller T-shirts. I'm sure it would be available in the US. It's easier than getting one stitched (which is what most of us do)...though I do have one in black...that's just as easy as pulling on a T-shirt and don't have to bother too much with the fitting because it stretches like a T-shirt...and fits well.
• United States
18 Apr 08
Thanks for letting me know that it wasn't just me... I must admit I was reassured. I know what those little shirts look like but I could not find one that fit me as I am not exactly a small woman. I am happy that pins are needed for all people... I thought I needed them only because I did not know how to put the sari on right. Hugs to you for your kindness in letting me know.
@SViswan (12096)
• India
19 Apr 08
I need atleast 3 pins when I wear a sari...and many more if I am going for a function and know I will be doing some running around with the little one. I think I had around 7-10 pins on me at my sister's wedding a couple of months back:) But I've learnt to hide them beautifully..lol
@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
25 Apr 08
I love your national clothes. I may try them. I wear sarongs. I try to buy more than 1 of a kind sometimes taking one and making it into a tunic. Sometimes i wear them with a top or tank top. I feel very comfortable in everything i do dressed this way. I'm white american and live in USA. Often while im out people ask me where im from. LOL. I dresses well i know because i get many complements. So i'm looking good and i'm comfortable. I'm staying this way. I'm so used to dressing this way that i feel uncomfortable in shirt, pants, etc.
@SViswan (12096)
• India
26 Apr 08
I sometimes make tunics from the sarong material too! I usually get a wrap skirt stitched and feel very comfortable in that. A sari is worn differently by people from different states. I'm sure that the sarong makes you more comfortable ...and it's more colourful too.
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@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Yes, and i invented a few styles of my own, Everyone comments on how nice they look so i dont understand why more women dont wear them. Add some Avon jewerly and flip flops and your wardrobe is complete. Except in colder weather you will need regular shoes and leggings or long johns. Womens LJ also come in many colors.
@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I haven't tried sari yet but i was looking on ebay and they are very lovely. i may try 1 soon. I did however win a bunch of the velvet tops. Nice.
@sats123 (29)
• India
22 Apr 08
You have made a good point. While everybody expects women to wear the traditional sari, men usually dont wear the Indian traditional costume. I prefer to see ladies in gorgeous sarees but at the same time I hardly wear a lungi. I too face the same problem your hubby faces that the lungi may fall of. By the way which state are you from?
@SViswan (12096)
• India
23 Apr 08
I'm basically from Kerala...but lived most of my life in the Middle East. I have worn the half sari too (out of choice and not compulsion...in fact, my father prefered the sari to a half sari). I find the half sari was more comfortable because I didn't have to worry about how the sari fell into place after I did some work. As far as my husband's case goes, it's very funny...because till we were married (8 years back), he always wore a lungi at home (for more than 15 years)...you would have thought someone with more than 15 years experience would be confident about wearing the lungi. But during our first year of marriage, my husband switched to shorts at home...and never wore a lungi. As far as expectations go, I don't think people expect women to wear the sari anymore. My in-laws never insisted and I never wore it after marriage (on a regular basis)....and most of the girls getting married now hardly know how to drape a sari.
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• India
25 Apr 08
After going through your comment I just could not resist thinking and visualizing about your husband. I agree with you that these days nobody expects ladies to wear sarees. The reason being is that in todays fast paced life when people are always on the move, saree is some sort of inconvenience especially if it means rushing and running around. However when it comes to functions saree still is the first choice for most ladies. The beauty of saree lies in drapery and many these days do not drape it around properly and make a mess of this gorgeous attire.
@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
25 Apr 08
I wear sarongs and sometimes wrap them. I'm white american. I was shown how to wrap and tuck by an african friend. I have never had one fall off yet. I trust the wrap and tuck and the tie more than my countries traditional zip or button.
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
6 May 08
I know this discussion isnt ment for most westerners lol, but i'm lucky if i wear something other then sweat pants when i go out. I know it must be hard with a sari to chase kids. . I think i know what a sari is. . it looks comfortable but hard to move around in ;)
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
7 May 08
lol..actually this discussion was meant for westerners (or ratehr foreigners) because I wanted to know if people in other countries wore their national costume regularly...and I also wanted to know what the costumes of the other countries were.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
7 May 08
I dont think canada has one unless its hockey jersey's lol. but we are very multi-cultural, and there are other people from other parts of the world that wherre their nation attire here :)
@SViswan (12096)
• India
13 May 08
Yes, I understand. Lots of people from the US and Canada seem to have the same response to the national costume question. No one can think of anything that can be termed as a national costume.
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
I love seeing Indian women wearing the Sari... when i went to Malaysia... i saw some women wearing that type of dress... and i was in awe at the beautiful colors and length... The last time i wore my country's national costume was during the United Nations Celebration in the school where i taught... and that was like 3 years ago... i only see women wearing the "Baro at Saya" when they are performing a folk dance on stage... but for the men... the "Barong Tagalog" is very common... it is worn in the office... during wedding... and even to some very ordinary occasions... Well... did you know that the "Saya"... part of my counry's national dress... was actually from India... i made a research on that... and it is so very interesting...
@SViswan (12096)
• India
17 Apr 08
REally? I didn't know that? Could you write a bit on that please? could you put in pictures too? It's interesting that the men wear the traditional attire more than the women. Here in India, it's the opposite....women wear it more often than men...lol
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
Barong Tagalog and Baro at Saya... - Philippine National Costumes...
Well, according to history... indian influence reached the Philippines through a very powerful empire... and indian trader also came to my country and left influences like clothes and food... even the Mango... which is very popular in my country has its roots in India... Here is the image of the baro at saya and the barong tagalog... there are a lot of variation...
@SViswan (12096)
• India
19 Apr 08
Wow! That's a wonderful costume:) Though I knew many Filipinos when I was at Kuwait, I've never seen them wearing their traditional attire. So, I was never aware of the Barong Tagalog. Thank you for the pictures and the information.
@balasri (26577)
• India
16 Apr 08
I wear the dhothi and shirt on poojas.Or else Idont find any occasion to wear the traditional dress.My wife wears the silk sarees for weddings and other functions.And in day to day life she wears the saree as a surprise change at times.And she looks gorgeous in that too.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
17 Apr 08
I find that most men do not wear the traditional attire on a regular basis. It's good to know that your wife does wear a sari at times even when there is no function. I used to wear a sari regularly (even at home) when my older son was around 2. But now, I find I can't run around the little one in on....hmmm...or is it because I don't have blouses that fit me anymore??lol
@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Apr 08
May be these ladies found the answer in the noodle strap blouses for that.
@SViswan (12096)
• India
19 Apr 08
Maybe:) But I doubt if I will ever fall in that category. A sari is hard enough to manage without a noodle strap blouse which I have to look out for!
• Australia
26 Apr 08
National attire? Um, I have that many different nationalities running through my blood that I wouldn't know which national costume to wear! lol. Can I go back to cave man days and wear practically nothing? I admire the women is saris. They look really beautiful with the delicate fabrics floating around them and the often bright colours.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
26 Apr 08
Oh, that wasn't something that I thought about...people having many nationalities in their blood. lol..the cave man days would be easy, eh? Saris do look nice...but it's difficult to get anything done wearing them because we are not used to wearing them on a daily basis. We've moved to more comfortable western clothes for regular wear.
@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Regular clothes are too restraining for me. I feel they restrict my mobility. Hate that feeling. I need to be free to move. I feel so free in sarongs. So many different ways to wear them too. I have invented a few of my own.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
15 Apr 08
When we lived in Samoa it was what everyone else wore, so did we. I wore a "puletasi" (top with wrap around long skirt) made from locally printed materials and my husband wore a "ie faitaga" (like a wrap around from the waist to the knee) and an island patterned shirt. We still do on special occasions like weddings and birthdays etc. but not as often as we use to now that we are in the US.
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
16 Apr 08
Hi dear sound intresting
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
17 Apr 08
I've seen the dress you are talking about and it looks so comfortable. Good to know that you would wear it on a regular basis and do stick to traditions in a different country ....atleast on special occassions. Here in India, we don't wear our national costume on a rgular basis only for special occassions.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I Imagine that your grandmother was use to it or she didnt run after kids. As I was born in the States I wear mostly Jeans and shirt
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
15 Apr 08
Oh yes...my grandmother and mother are used to it....and they do all the work the old fashioned way AND run behind kids in a sari. I did do it for a while with my older child...but find the younger one too active to be able to do it in a sari...I'm sure to trip and fall somewhere.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
15 Apr 08
yes I would think that would be hard and to me wearing pants are more confortable also can move alot better more freedom of movement
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@secretbear (19476)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
we don't wear our traditional attire regularly. we only wear it during formal occasions that usually concern national matters. for example, a gathering where there are many distinguished persons like politicians. the men would wear the "barong tagalog", that's the traditional upper garment. and the women would wear a "kimona", the traditional upper garment usually paired with a long skirt. its mostly the old women who wear the traditional attire. although i have worn something like that when i was in grade school during our Folk Dance presentation. we had to wear a "kinoma" and an old-fashioned skirt while dancing a native dance. ^__^;;
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
24 Apr 08
I do not wear a saree to often.Only on some special occasions like marriage do i wear one and that too has reduced. I prefer wearing salwar kameez which is a traditional dress of punjab. But i do wear western dresses too and am not restricted to traditonal wear.
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
25 Apr 08
That was my point...most of us have forgotten how to drape a sari because we don't use it much. I, myself am more comfortable in a salwar kameez (which isn't even my traditional wear) and wear that and western outfits more often...especially when I have to run behind kids. I love wearing the sari though.