The Slow Boil Or The Quick Boil...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
May 4, 2008 12:35pm CST
With all the problems that I keep seeing in the world I am amazed that so many ppl don’t see what’s wrong when it’s going on right in front of them. Kids are out of control and parents stand by saying I don’t know where they went wrong. Adults are committing atrocious crimes and ppl say I didn’t realize that they were so crazy. I think they don’t realize it b/c it happens gradually. The old saying about giving an inch and getting a mile comes to mind. Kids start breaking small rules and before you know it they’re breaking the big ones. Adults commit smaller crimes and then move up to the larger more violent ones.
It brings to mind something I heard once. If you take a frog and put it into a pot of cool water and gradually heat the water the frog will stay in the pot and cook to death. If you put a frog in a pot of boiling water it will immediately fight to escape.
How many kids and adults follow the same principle? If a child went out and committed a serious crime with no warning you’d know there was a serious problem and seek help immediately…the same with an adult. Because they build up to it the warning signs are often ignored.
How many of the kids that have opened fire on schools sent out quiet warning signs and no one paid attention? Do you watch for quiet signs in those around you or do you wait for something major to catch your attention? If you saw that someone around you was sending out quiet warning signs would you seek help for them immediately or wait for the major blowups?
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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12 responses
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
6 May 08
These days with attitudes the way they are children from an early age are allowed to get away with things...if it makes a noise, stick something in it's mouth, if it's a nuisance at the supermarket, give it a lolly to shut it up. It wants that toy, sure, why not. If it gives me a break they can have what they want. Kids have rights and can do pretty much what they want. Something goes wrong....blame someone else.
Parents take the easy way out, someone else is always responsible. We all have rights, it's my life, I can say and do whatever I please....break the law....why not....it's only wrong if I get caught.
Kids misbehaving, take them to a doctor who will say ADD or ADHD and medicate the child. Send the child to a psychologist because there is "something Wrong". Perhaps if they were taught limits and given time and love as babies they wouldn't now be problems.
It's all too hard and Mum and Dad are too busy either both at work or down the pub or just not paying attention because they are selfish and greedy and couldn't be bothered. They expect their kids to be models of perfection by the time they're teens (by their own low standards of course) and have little time for them so the kids are doing whatever they can to get the parents attention.
There is no-one taking any notice of warning signs because they are "too busy" living their own life.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
5 May 08
i'm not sure, if in all of that, you raised an actual question or not, but you made a couple of great points--that a)we're products of our environment and b)our behaviour, unchecked will continue to grow in the same direction. Great points, people need to wake up to the basic fundamentals of basic psychology, the moral/religous teachings of our ancestors, or in the very least, a smidgeon of common sense.
dr...
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 May 08
With people I am close to, I can sense when something is wrong.But with strangers and acquaintances I wouldn't know or even see the signs.Everyone is so busy doing their own thing that they don't see the signs.It's " me and mine" that are important not others. I think the kids that open fire at school are tired of being ignored or tired of being picked on at school. I gather the adults think why not do some thing against the law because they will never get ahead any other way. It is sad.
@danishkhan657 (54)
• India
5 May 08
well no one wishes to wait for major blows but often people do not interpret these signs
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
6 May 08
This problem started when they started "sparing the rod"!
They started spoiling the child!
This is the worst mistake people have made, that has increased bad behavior in youngsters!
Our family didn't "spare the rod", and we don't have those problems that a lot of other families have!!
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
5 May 08
I think most people like to hope for the best.. but hopefully they will spot a problem before it gets ugly.. You know what bugs me?! That so many people will say the world is the same, we just hear about it more now.. are they crazy? When I was a kid you could ride your bike all over the county.. nowadays I won't let my grand daughter venture into the front yard of our country home outside of a very small town.. no way!!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 May 08
I always looked for the signs and addressed them accordingly, you are absolutely right, the little things become big things if you don't address them early enough.
@KKKBsmom (1092)
• United States
4 May 08
Oh yes.. you have to watch the signs... that is what is wrond today... no one does anytig about those small things....
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
4 May 08
No way, even when my boys were small I made sure that I explained to them the difference between good and evil.We need to pay attention to warning signs before is too late.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
4 May 08
I am highly analytic of nuances, to the point that I frighten people by knowing too many things that I'm "not supposed to know"--like you, it is unfathomable to me that other people cannot see the microcosm of things that are boiled just below the surface. I don't think the signs so many other people miss are quiet at all. They SCREAM at me, and it is wholly frustrating when I can't make other people see and hear them.
