This is my extremely shy two year old...

My shy baby... - This is my extremely shy baby... trying to cover her face with my hand...
@aseretdd (13736)
Philippines
June 18, 2008 9:42pm CST
My brother celebrated his birthday last night... and the whole family was there... including some other relatives... so as expected... my baby never left my side... did not play with her cousins... and cried everytime someone else would try to hold her... And when people would acknowledge how cute she is... she would get my hand and use it to hide her face... take a look at at the photo and you will know what i mean... i don't know what to do anymore... i want to take my baby to a lot of family gatherings and parties... but she is just not comfortable... i thought if we attend to as many as we can... she will be able to overcome her shyness... but that doesn't seem to work... Well, i guess i need to try a different approach... i welcome any suggestions...
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@momz2gd (295)
• United States
19 Jun 08
She will get over it in time. My daughter did the same thing when she was little and now she wants to go to her friends house as much as she can.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
I certainly hope so... and i wish it would be a lot sooner... she is missing out a lot of bonding and play time with relatives because of her extreme shyness... thanks for the response... welcome to mylot... and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
• United States
19 Jun 08
I totally understand your case and don't worry. My middle son when he was two was very, what I called scary, I was a scary and shy child so I just assumed he got it from me. So when we went over relatives houses for parties with a lot of people or just to go visit his uncle and auntie with their two kids, he would not leave my side and if anyone tried to get him away from me he would cry, I couldn't get up to enjoy myself at all or even to fix me a plate of food. But I was very patient with him and understanding and now he is 5 years old and way better. I took him to his kindergarten assessment and had to leave him with the kids to play and he was absolutely fine. Don't worry about her she will be fine. I am sure she will out grow it on her time. Also, shyness can be a form of protection too. At least you don't have to worry about her going up to just any adult. So with time and patience and your caring love she will be fine. I hope this helps!!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
You already experienced what i am going through right now... good thing your son was able to overcome his shyness... i hope my baby will in the near future... i just do not know where she got that attitude... i was never shy as a child... and my mother-in-law told me that neither was my husband... i guess i need to dwell on the positive aspect that you mentioned... thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
@drannhh (15240)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I was like that until about 4 1/2 years old. But look at me now, lol. I think maybe she will become more outgoing soon and you will then wonder, where is my shy little girl?
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
You never struck me as the shy type... guess you were successful in overcoming your shyness... i sure hope my baby will also overcome hers... i just do not know where she got that trait... i was never shy... and neither is my husband... thanks for the response...
• India
19 Jun 08
Get her admitted to a Montessori as fast as you can. If she is already into one, they gradually she would overcome her shyness and mix with people. If not, you need to just throw her in the midst of other children. Initially she will not want to go, hold on to you with tearful pleading eyes. She may even fall sick. But you should force her to mix with people outside the immediate family. Maybe she is just introvert by nature, but school will help her to achieve a minimum bonding with others, which is so essential these days.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
I have thought of enrolling her to a Montessori school near our apartment... but i don't think they will accept her since she is only two years old... until she is old enough... i will have to just try or coax her to mingle with other children and relatives... thanks for the response...
@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
i have a two year old child too. there is him as my avatar show his picture. he is a very fun child. if the party is at our place he is not that shy but shy at first then when he gets used to everybody already he is no longer shy but when you hold his hands he is really grouchy. har har har just look at him or talk to him but do not touch him. if the party is on others house i bring with me a small toy seing that toy makes him feel at home. he is shy more when the party is on another relatives house or another place
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
You have a very cute baby... seems like he already knows how to use a cell phone... well, you are very lucky that your baby is not as shy as my two year old... it seems like my baby is not very trusting... which is a good thing... but then... it can be quite frustrating since she cannot enjoy parties most of the time... thanks for the response...
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
dont worry she will soon out grow that shyness. does she has any sister or brother? do you bring her on parks or on play house at the mall? try to do this so she can interact with kids and she can be used on having people around her. we bring our son once a week on playgrounds inside the mall where he can have a chance to interact with children and around people too. my wife bring him also at the park three times a week to run around there. i go with them if ever i have some time. this might help your child.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
She is my only child... and i do bring her to the mall every sunday... when there is a big crowd... she wouldn't walk... but when we are inside a store with less people... that is the time when she will hold my hand and walk...
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
All you need is a lot patience.. don't give up on what you think is good on how to overcome her shyness. talk to her most of the time.. Like you, I have a two year old as well and for the first year and half, I noticed that same shyness you are telling us, but I did not give up on her, so I continue to expose her to a lot of people and different places, I let her tell me what she feels and discover so in that way we communicate.. my efforts are well paid of because my little girl overcome that shyness..she is so happy now.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
Yes, i agree... patience is the key... and i will keep on doing what is best so that she will be able to overcome her shyness... i am glad that your shared your own story... it made me feel that there is always hope... and she will not be shy forever... thanks for the response...
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
you are always welcome..
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• United States
19 Jun 08
Keep going to family functions, if you give into her shyness then it will make the matter worse in my opinion. I may be wrong but my son was the same way. He would hide behind me with his head stuck up my butt. I did not ever think he would get over that. He is now a well adjusted man. It took him a long time but he outgrew it. He was in school before anyone in the family know he could talk. I know he talked but no one else did. Be patient with her but keep going to family functions. I think when she gets to know these people she will get over her shyness. Mine did.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I am glad your son was able to overcome his shyness... i hope my baby will overcome her's too... i will keep on taking her to parties and family functions... it might get frustrating and tiresome... but i am sure it will help her adjust even just a little... thanks for the response...
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• United States
19 Jun 08
With my son it became a game of hide and seek behind by butt or in my neck when I was holding him. Good luck.
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• United States
19 Jun 08
I also was a shy baby. My parents remember one time at a park we went to in California, the Dennis the Menace park (which is still there by the way) but, they rememered me trying to play on the train but since I had a fear of heights I couldn't get myself down. Well, there was this little boy who kept hitting me with his cowboy boot to get me to move. But I wouldn't and so sooner or later my parents had to come to my rescue. Mom said she felt bad, she said she wanted to see if I'd do something myself. Anyway, is she an only child? if she is than maybe you should concider a day camp where there are loads of kids to play with, or get her in a play group or something. I have a feeling that she may be shy just becuase she's alone most, if not all, of the time. I was like that, and even though my Mom had a day camp herself, I still like being on my own. My younger siblings like to socialize a lot more than I do.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
For now, she is an only child... but i don't think that is the case... i notice that she is comfortable with children around... but when there is and adult who she in not very familiar with... she shys away... i don't think she likes grown up people... thanks for the response...
• United States
19 Jun 08
Than I think she may grow out of it. Sometimes these are phases. I've grown out of it and I actually prefer to be around adults instead of kids my own age.
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@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
20 Jun 08
For your childs sake, do whatever is necesary to overcome her shyness. I Know what its like to be painfully shy. I grew up like that and believe me its hell on Earth.I suffered from it for my whole childhood. My parents stayed home and worked on the farm. I seldom went anywhere or played with other kids. So I never learned to act like a normal child. My advise to you- take her everywhere with you. Get her out with kids her own age. Take her to the movies (I remember Hating to go to the movies. I cried whenever anyone on screen got killed. It was agony!)enroll her in a daycare so she can learn to be comfortable with people her own age. In time she will learn to enjoy meeting people. Don't wait. Start Now! She will thank you for it for the rest of her life.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
I am doing all that i can for her to overcome her shyness... i take her wherever i go... even to the movies... but most of time she sleeps throughout the movie... i let her play with kids her age... and we always go to the mall... i thought of enrolling her to the nearest day care center... but they don't accept kids as young as her so i have to wait another year... thanks for the response...
@subha12 (18453)
• India
19 Jun 08
Hmm.. its quite clear that she is too shy. we are not able to see her cute face. i was extremely shy in childhood. but it went away when i was required to face the world. Make her play with other j=kids and don't let her stick to you so much.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I let her play with other kids... but when there are grown ups around... she tends to be very very shy... i try not to let her stick to me... but she would just cry her heart out... i hope that like you... she will overcome her shyness... thanks for the response...
@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I guess you should not be present sometimes when she is with your parents of with other children. In that case, she can't hide behind you, right? Maybe you can ask a friend of hers to be her buddy, who will always be there to play with her and introduce her to other kids.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I tried that ones... at my parents house... i left her there so that i can pay some bills at the mall... and after 1 hour... my mother called me to say that my baby hasn't stopped crying since she noticed that i was not in the house... so i had to go back immediately... She is used to staying with her paternal grandparents... but it is still quite difficult to leave her there... thanks for the response...
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
Hello aseretdd, Maybe she spends most of her time with you and that makes her feels a bit shy. Does she play with other kids at her age? Maybe it will help a bit. To let her being surrounded by her friends and your family will make her feels more comfortable. My son has a tendency to feel afraid of people (especially men) who are big in size. In fact he is bigger than the normal boy like his age. He likes to mix around with kids his age and also other children who are older and bigger than him but he is a bit harsh whenever he approaches others. I have a hard time whenever he doesn't like other kids especially the girls.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
She does spend a lot of time with me... around 6 hours with her grandparents during weekdays... and the whole weekends with me... her playmate are mostly 4 and 5 year olds... and no one same to her age... i bring her to my parents house every saturday... but she still shys away from my parents from time to time... i hope she will overcome this soon... thanks for the response...
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I had the exact opposite problem with my son when he was younger. He was not shy at all. He was way too friendly. My daughter is a happy medium most of the time. She is not really shy, but she is not overly outgoing like her brother used to be. He is 8 now and has become fairly shy in recent years.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
Well, your son is like my niece who is way too friendly... and there is no indication that she will start being shy in the future... i hope my baby will overcome this shyness really soon... because she is missing a lot of playtime and family bonding with her extreme shyness... thanks for the response...
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Hello aseretdd, I was once a very shy girl and it took me several years to cope up. My parents tried to expose me in the different gatherings too and they thought like my sister I will be able to cope up but it wasn't easy for me. I became more confident when I started HIgh School and join various activities which exposed me to different people and situations...I know she will be able to overcome that, maybe when she is ready, take her to a summer class and just continue bringing her in parties and family gathering!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I sure hope she will be able to overcome her shyness... it can be quite frustrating and tiring on my part since i cannot even mingle with friends and relative during gatherings... but that is the prize of motherhood... and i will take your advise not to stop taking her to gathering and parties... thanks for the response...