Is Making Love Really Important in a Relationship?

@ronslove (481)
Philippines
June 22, 2008 1:09am CST
I'm just wondering if making love is really that important in a relationship. I am new to this relationship thing so I need more information on how arelationship should be. I have several questions though but let me start with a few ones. What if your partner is the best buddy in the whole world for you ;however he/she is that lousy in bed? Does it affect the relationship that much?
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@dpk262006 (54732)
• Delhi, India
22 Jun 08
It depends upon both the partners. In a mature and sound relationship, making love may not be compulsory or say essential. 'Making love' requires a certain degree of intimacy, which is only achieved, when you are very close to your partner and you have complete trust on each other and you have very good level of understanding between you and your partner. If you find that your partner is lousy in the bed, check out if your understanding level is on sound footing or not. Best of luck to you.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Thanks for sharing. Sometimes it made feel unloved when my boyfriend just satify himself. I feel like an object.
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@dpk262006 (54732)
• Delhi, India
22 Jun 08
If your boy friend just pleases himself and does not bother about your pleasure, it is not fair. You can tell him about this thing, without any fear and let him know that your emotions and satisfaction is equally important, as is his. Best of Luck!
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@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
22 Jun 08
If it's just about him all the time, dpk is right, you need to talk to him. But if it's just once in a while that he does this, instead of taking it personally (been there) realize that maybe you make him feel alive, (considering it is all completely naturally), and that it's a good thing that he's that attracted to you! You can draw the animal side out of him, and he's just so focused on your body and how you make him feel, and that's also something incredible for your relationship. You can make him feel like a real man, you let him be a man, and any real man, treats his woman like his equal (if not better...I love mine :) ) Men love real women, but men really love women who make them feel like men...;)
• India
22 Jun 08
it brings you a lot closer. more closer than you have ever imagined. you may cherish his/her company but once you experience this, you remember these as your most cherished ones. body contact is a biological statement. you do not speak but a statement is made by your actions. but if you are thinking about absolutely platonic relationships, probably bit difficult in today's world, but is possible. happy my lotting.
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@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Thank you for the information. That's what we call magic.
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@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
22 Jun 08
You are so right! the beauty of the world.. I like you...lol... That is magick :)
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@jofeli (504)
• Indonesia
22 Jun 08
I think it's really important. It involves intimacy between partners and psychologically deeper relations when we make love. It's ok for me if my partner is not a good "lover" in bed, as far as we can get the sensation of romantic feelings between us.
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@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Yeah, I agree. I hope our relationship eventually goes that way.
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@luki_aj (18)
24 Jun 08
i am just looking for making love, if i think making love not a just to prove a relationship but must be given to our partner on legal relationship
• United States
23 Jun 08
well it really depends on the kind of people that are in the relationship. if you are good friends with that partner you mite want to think strongly on the love making decision for it mite ruin your relationship with that person
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Surely, I won't give up on him because of that. We seldom spend more time outside the room and I'm happy at those time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Making love is as important as you want or wish it to be. If you are making love yet not getting any enjoyment or satisfaction form it then something is wrong. Both parties need to recieve the same care and consideration in what is wanted or for one to ahcieve the final response. If you really care about the person and want to be with them and them with you then making each other happy and completeing what you start is very important. You can always teach someone what to do and what you like to be done. Thus satisfying your needs while theirs is also met. Communication is important in this part and every aspect of a relationship. It is important that you make sure they you are doing what your partner needs. Ask if he/she is satisfied and if there is anything they prefer during the love making. If someones needs are not met on a regular basis yet love making continues, then the one not being satisfies will be frustrated and this will affect the relationship. You need to always make your needs known and ask what you partner wants to. If you have not engaged in making love then it is not a necessary thing in a relationship until both parties are ready for this step.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Communication is really that important. In fact, I'm a silent type but I'm talkative in bed. LOL. Having a talkative partner could be hot, I guess. It turns me on.
23 Jun 08
You have to be compatible in bed, otherwise, it's going to be frustrating for both of you -- and yeah it is actually CRUCIAL honey! :P
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Wow! Straight to the point! Exactly, it frustrates me to the point that it makes me cry. Nahh..just kidding. Actually we're working on gettng ease with each other when it comes to bed.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
Although at first a "best buddy" relationship can be ok for the both of you, at some point, you will want to satisfy your needs and he will want to satisfy his needs. If not together, then how? And i think that the intimacy level that you reach when you're making love with someone you love is out of this world, you are connected in such a special way.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
I love you name "Jewel". I think so, we are kinda in trouble to deal with the shift of relationship yet.Best buddies to lovers.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
Well if you are married, it is obvious that making love has a part to play, after all your bodies belong to each other. However, when you are single, that should not be the all in all. By the way, I am talking about man making love to his wife, and visa versa, not boyfriend and girl friend or girlfriend and girlfriend, etc. Because if making loving is that important before you choose a spouse for life, then you might wind up with someone who is the worse cook in the world, is fat and ugly, cheats all the time, or any undesirable qualities and yet could rival Cleopatra in love making, you will be stuck with her. On the other hand, if your one and only will be the best cook, sweetest girl in the world, an angel on EArth, yet she is clumsy in bed, and you bid her good=bye, you have lose a treasure. So is making love before marriage really that important?
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
I got your point.I respect your view. Well, opinion varies, it depends how each person look at it. That's why I'm asking people about it to come with a good move.
@shydeap (22)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
it depends, if u both are matured enough to do it just be responsible to that, but be aware because someday you or your partner might fell out of love already, or look for another flavor..hehe you know what i mean....
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Thanks for sharing. It's scary though whenthe two of use will fall out of love.
@relundad (2312)
• United States
22 Jun 08
If a person is my best buddy, I probally would leave that relationship where it is and not persue the next level. For one thing I would be too afraid that if a romantic relationship did not work that our friendship would be at risk. I think it should happen the other way around. Which is that you have a romantic interest in a person and you have a great friendship as a result of. Also if I were at the onset of a relationship and we were not compatiable in bed then I would not persue the relationship. For me lovemaking is a very important component of the relationship and if it to last then I would want it to be a good part of it. Now if I were in a long term relationship and for some medical reason we were not able to make love then I would still maintain the relationship.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I respect your opinion.i've seen a lot of liveshowand it is mostly the answer that I've got. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
In my opinion, love making is an essential part of romantic relationship. I also consider it as something sacred and should be shared by people who have foundation and connection. It's a way of gratifying the physical aspect of the person that you love. It should be done with the person's heart; therefore, mutual respect should go along with it. If done with the right intention, it is indeed something beautiful.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I believe in "respect". And as our concern is mainly on bed, yes, there is also have "respect" in bed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@celticeagle (115058)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jun 08
I don't think you would be writing this discussion if this didn't have some baring on the relationship. Ofcourse making love is important. Intimacy is of utmost importance. It sounds like you two are great buddies and perhaps this next step you have taken was ill timed.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
We are great buddies but not that great buddies in bed. We have differences. He is not expressive, I am too expressive.
• United States
22 Jun 08
I think making love is one of the most important parts of a relationship. Sure, it's not the ONLY thing that matters, and you need balance of course. However, being someone who was in a marriage where there was very little love making, I can tell you from experience that it is very important. You need that connection and intimacy and if it isn't there, then it isn't a marriage... it's a friendship. For some people that might be enough, but for me, it definitely was not. Someone who is lousy in bed can learn to be better as long as they are willing to listen to their partner about what they want and need. If they are not getting better it's because they aren't listening or you aren't truly being intimate and honest with each other.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Thank you for sharing. Our being together when we are going somewhere defines us as good friends, but when we are making loves, that makes us friends.
@Hatley (159378)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 08
Between two adults who really do love each other making love is important if you are close and really committed to each other. If your partner is lousy in bed maybe he or she needs a little help from you, being understanding helps' and suggesting things to spice up your love life always helps. dont give up on your partner on that aspect.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Yes, sure. I won't do ever give up on him. We've been together for four years. I think he is very teachable. Thank you for sharing.
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
For me it is not important, yes it is part of the relationship but, the weight is not as heavy as the entire attribute of the person whom i love. The entire relationship that we shared. i think that is the most important thing. That, your relationship is healthy not because on love making but because you accepted entirely your partner...
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I may sound absurd by putting so much emphasis on it. But, I'm just wondering if the same situation happens to some people. Of course, I still do keep him eventhough he's not that good in bed. He's been like this for four years. I'm looking forward on improving something. thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
22 Jun 08
I think it all depends on the total relationship. If you are best friends, and love talking, doing things together, and just being in the company of each other, then there are many ways to show affection, not just in bed. I love laying my head on his lap and watching a good movie together, I love just sitting around a campfire and talking for hours, about anything and everything. I also love just cuddling up next to him before falling asleep. Is it important? I think it's just another part of a bigger picture of the relationship.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
We have identical relationship. Though we don't have that quality time together because of our work. He is not expressive but I am. I think we are very opposite.
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
22 Jun 08
no not really if you feel like you want to you
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I think I want to. It's like expressing your love to someone through bodily motions. Thanks for sharing.
@yuber_ (1)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
it is important for me bacause the almost important to me is the girl that i love and its just a same we need a experience about in this relationship and that's it
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Thank you for sharing. Yes, just like yours, I'm enjoying and learning the journey of my relationship.
• India
22 Jun 08
It actually depends upon the partners, how they get along, whether they are close or not soo close, and their nature, views and ideas of the meaning of the word love! It depends on what the word love means to them. For instance if person is spiritual his love would be very pure,at the same time if a person is worldly, he might be after women. Happy Posting!
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I know where he belongs. He still up with other woman, we both are look for sexy woman. That's our past time. Sitting down in a park and looking for beautiful and handsome being in the world and we share out secret smile. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.