What Is One Of The Greatest Qualities Of A Friend?

@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
June 23, 2008 2:59am CST
or do you think a Friend should have? Is it their thoughtfullness, or their caring ways? Could it be their being there when you need someone to talk too? Or just to have someone to be able to hang out with from time to time as well? I have had many friends over the course of my life. Some of them I would still consider a True friend even yet today, while others even though I consider them friendly, I would consider more of an aquaintance than a friend. For me, I feel sometimes I only allow myself to get so close with some people for fear of rejection, and being hurt. It can be a hard time if people are always rejecting you and not wanting to trust you so then you never allow yourself to be a friend as well. One quality I always look for in a friend, is someone that will be there no matter what. Someone who will stick by you thru the thick and the thin and be there to help pick up the pieces when things go wrong. Maybe sometimes it is often harder to find and keep them, but at the same time, once you find one you will have that friend there for life.
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@michelyn (717)
• United States
25 Jun 08
This is a two-parter. A true friend should be there for you during good times and bad. A true friend should also be honest with you regardless of the situation. If you are a true friend in return, you will appreciate the honesty later. Now, being there for you, I don't mean that they should be at your every beck and call, but they should be able to take time out of their lives to be there at least on the phone during a time of need or at least just to talk every few days just to show you care. One of the best sayings that comes to mind when I think of this question is this: "True friendship isn't being inseparable, it's being separated and nothing changes!"
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
25 Jun 08
I agree with you totally. Even when we are separated, we do not feel that and we are able to converse as comfortably and in as routine a manner as possible with friends at a distance. That is indeed a true friend .
• India
23 Jun 08
Hi KrauseHome, I have many good friends who cares a lot.Who thinks about me who not only spend time with me when i am happy but they also help me lot when i need help. I like them i even help them in all respect what they need. To be my friend two things is very much required one is trust and other is care. If you have these to for your friend then i hope your friend will care about you as well.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
26 Jun 08
These are very Good tips and ones I feel most people could learn from. In todays busy world and lifestyle, sometimes it is getting harder to find True friends like this.
@zeloguy (4911)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I think the two things in a very important in a friend are first that they are easy to talk to and are someone who you can go to about any problem concern excitement or other events that are going on in your life. The other is that there must be some one who is honest. If a friend cannot be trusted with a secret, or friend cannot be trusted to truely we empathize with the way that you're feeling, then it would be very difficult to go to that friend with the compliments of knowing that you would get an honest reaction for opinion about how you actually feel. Thank you, Zelo
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I'll give you a few qualities that I value in a friend. I almost "require" it just because of my nature. Understanding, patience, empathy and tolerance. I'm probably not the easiest friend to have in some ways. I tend to not get too close to my friends. I enjoy going out and having fun and learning about a person. But, I lack the commitment to be what some would consider a truly good friend. I don't like to get caught up in other people's drama. I have to much of my own with my two children. I don't mind exchanging favors with friends occassionaly, but I don't like us to get too wrapped up in eachothers lives.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
Qualities I look for in friends are: Someone who's going to be there no matter what. Dependability Someone to talk to. Someone who has a personality that doesn't rub me the wrong way. Trustworthy and willing to trust.
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Hi KrauseHome! I have collected a lot of friends since my childhood days. Some have been my classmates before and some are from my neighborhood. All of them are good to me and we still have communications up to now. But for me the quality of a real friend is someone who can really keep a secret no matter what happens. Its a sign for me that she or he can be trusted.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
23 Jun 08
Hi! Yes I know what you mean. I consider a friend to be someone that does not inter fear in me being just me. A friend is someone who excepts you as you are. Someone you can trust. Someone that comes to my house whenever and it does not bother me. Someone where I could do the same. Helpful and caring, and the other way round. But, it is not easy to find that. And then again, I am not perfect either.LOL Take care, Margajoe
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@gemini_rose (16264)
23 Jun 08
To me a friend is someone who is easy to talk too, who conversation with is an easy thing. Friendship is about days out together, shopping, having lunch or having a coffee together. Friendship is being able to tell them your problems and talk them through but also returning the favour when they need to talk. Being there for each other no matter what. I have yet to find this in a person that I could call a friend.
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• India
23 Jun 08
I agree with you , i believe that greatest quality would be trust. The trust eachother keep on one another, being in all times, exactly!
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
I'd say one of the greatest qualities of a friend would have to be a good listener. When I'm having days when I just want to let out all my frustrations, I just want to speak out without fear of being judged or being told what I should do unless I ask for his or her advice.
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@melo_828 (427)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
a true friend is the one who are with you not only on good times but also on bad times. i said this because some friends are only with you when they can get something from you but when your in trouble or when you have a problem they already gone. a friend who you can trust, and you can share your problems.
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• India
23 Jun 08
One of the Greatest qualities of a friend is that he trusts you and you have Trust on him. Trust and belief are like the two legs of the man named Friend. A friend can stand on these things. If there's no trust and no belief, then he's unable to stand and has to crash down.
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@samnat (5)
• Italy
23 Jun 08
I would say that the greatest quality of a friend is when you have a problem and you are in difficulties and he will ascoltarti and help in every way so that you will loose. a friend is a precious treasure.
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@ifglan (1152)
• China
23 Jun 08
I think a friend should be a person that know you well,see your excellence and shortcomings.When we are happy ,they could share our happy,when we are sad,they can comfort and encourage us.So a friend should be faithful,we trust in each other.A friend will not give up the friendship even when you are homeless!
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
30 Jun 08
I think honnesty is very important in all relationships actually.
• Australia
5 Jul 08
Sadly, i've had no true friends in my life. I have always been a good friend to other people, giving up much of my life to help them at the drop of a hat, even losing my job once for a friend. When I needed them, I had to stand on my own 2 feet as they just didn't care or turned my issues around so that the issue then became theirs or they had the same issue, only 100 times more serious. I joined a parenting site about a year ago, and some of the other members are just amazing! The support and friendship I have gained there is incrdible, and I am finding that I prefer having them than having someone close by me who just isn't interested in my problems. Hey, if someone annoys me on the site, I can just avoid them or turn my computer off. Not so easy to turn the phone off though, need that! lol. Friends should give and take, even if the balance is not equal, because we all need help from time to time. I guess I consider my husband to be my best friend, because he is the only person in my life who has ever just been there when I needed him, though being a male, do you think he'd let me help him with his issues? Arrrgggghhh! He does now though because we came so close to losing everything due to his male pride!!!! No sir, can't hide anything from me now!
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
For me the greatest quality a good friend can have is to be there through thick and thin, for your friend. To always support them and help them when we can. And for them to be there for us too, a two way street. It is easy to meet people but to become good friends is special. I have a lot of acquantances but very few good friends. My best friend in the world is my baby sister. She has always been there for me and I for her, and we talk about things I could never talk to anyone else about. She always has time for me no matter if she is doing something, she makes the time for me. We talk everyday by email now that I moved away to another province and we talk on the phone at least once or twice a week. When we lived in the same city we were inseperatable and my hubby and hers used to complain about us always being together. But now that my hubby and her hubby are not in the picture anymore, we are glad to have each other.
• United States
25 Jun 08
The best quality of a friend is the ability for them to tell the truth! If you can't trust you are being told the truth..that's no friend.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
25 Jun 08
First off let me say that this is another milestone for me on Mylot.. This is my 1100th post and I have enjoy all of them.. I think that one of the most important qualities that a real friend should have is to be able to keep their mouths shut.. I have many friends but very few close friends, I am more of a loner than anything else.. I do appreciate friends and love my friends but do not want a constant friendship with anyone.. I will be there for my friends and should they tell me not to tell something, I will never speak of it to anyone.. But I do have a couple that do stick with me no matter what..
• United States
25 Jun 08
I believe that TRUST is the biggest quality in a friend, without TRUST what is the point?