I just realized! Noone knows me!

People should not be rude. I think you are right some time it is hard to give advice on here when you do not know the person or situation. Some times it is hard to answer and you need more information and instead of asking they just post! I am sorry if someone hurt your feels.

BeautyQueen, I've been here probably 7 weeks, and I don't know you either. I have seen you around and read a few of your comments. But you know, no matter how new a person is or even how long a person has been on mylot, it shouldn't give them the right to say rude things to a person or call them names. I have noticed some who seemed to not have been here long (smaller number of posts - although that isn't always the case to say they are new) do say things, at times, that seemed a little awkward to me, speaking to someone who probably knew the ropes around here much more than they did. I've also noticed it's hard to tell anyone anything that prefers 'not to hear you'. Had that happen to me yesterday in a discussion that I figured the person had done exactly what I thought they did (as did others responding), yet this person vowed they knew what they were doing, and continued to down a company I've been with years and never had a problem with. Nothing would change their mind or make them realize perhaps, after hearing several responses, they were in the wrong. I'm off to read about you and get to know you because I love posting and I love mylot!

I agree that you shouldn't respond if you haven't the time or do not want to put the time into reading long discussion posts; at least you can try to give a decent and well overthought answer on the current topic. It would be great if we took the time to read more on peoples posts to make sure who we are dealing with, on the other hand it seems impossible to do this with everyone and anyone and that's why I only do so with people who write various topics I like; people like you . There is a difference between mylot newbies and people who last longer, I was different when I joined and didn't know mylot well but I know I allways try to be as respectfull as possible. Now that I'm around longer I still care about that a lot but make sure I'm not trampled along the way and say what I like and think. It does look like there are more moneydiggers coming around these days then people who enjoy posting. Sure it's nice to earn something on mylot but to much people think this is one of those get-rich-easy formulas which it isn't because you won't get rich but luckily you won't get scammed either! .

Well I'm new and I don't know a soul on here but I try to be respectful and answer posts that I am interested in. I have a couple friends on here but that's it. I am not here just for the money, I am here to make friends too. I love meeting new people and getting to know them..but, seems to me on here that nobody is really that interested in the newbies and just stick with the friends they have, which is ok, but sometimes makes it a little harder for those of us who are trying. Anyway, nice to meet ya and hopefully people on here won't be so rude or disrespectful. Have a nice day. :)

I do not think that most people are trying to come off rude. Don't get me wrong there are always them few who are gone to be rude no matter what. The ones where they have to put other people down to make themselves feel better. I would say that I Think a lot of the new comers may come off wrong because they may not read the whole discussion or past discussions that may be linked to the current discussion. They get so caught up in the money making part of it in the beginning that they just answer to answer without really knowing what they are saying. So that they will see how much that made the next day. I also believe that sometimes it may just be miscommunication. I have found myself at guilt with this one a few times. Sometimes when we are thinking about our response in our head it does not come across rude. But than after you post your response and read it you realize that it does sound a little harsh.

Hi there beautyqueen26 As you can see I am a newcomer to mylot and would never intensionally disrespect anyone who, like yourself, have clearly been using this site for some considerable time. I in fact look up to people like yourself to help me through the problems I may encounter. I must admit that I am guilty of not reading mylotters previous discussions prior to responding but shall take your advice and try and do so in the future. Cheers

Some definate good thoughts on here my friend. I do agree so heartily as well in here, and all other things in life. How can you earn a Friend than to be a Friend, and if you choose to be annoying all of the time, you may not have so many friends in life yourself. I feel a lot of times, you can gain some great insight in here from people. Just depends on which ones choose to be True to themselves as well.

That is really good advise. I know that we have not been friends for very long and I just jumped into one of your discussions without knowing much about you. I added you because you always respond to another friends discussions and I always liked what you had to say. But now that I have learned more about you I do know more as to what to respond with.

I get these same tyoe of people myself that answer my discussions. Some of them leave very rude answers. Then there are those that have just left one word. Like either yes or no. On discussions I have started that ask questions. it can get frusstrationg in here at times.That is a very good idea to read a person discussions before adding them. I do always check out there profile to get a idea of the kind of person that they are.

Interesting - I am MORE careful with people I don't know than I am with people who have gotten to know me (whether I should or shouldn't is a different discussion, I think). I figure once people get to know me, they know where I'm coming from and know that I can say what I think and that it doesn't change how I feel about them, even if I don't like what they're saying or disagree with it. But, until I get to know them and them me, I am more careful about how I word things (usually - there are exceptions as with all things in life). I might slip up once in a while, but I try to "attack the statements and not the person" if I have to disagree. That may change if I receive a personal attack in response, either to my comment or to my discussion. I feel less obligation to be civil in those situations, although I try to be initially. I know I've responded to you before, I think when you responded to one of my discussions, but can't recall which. I hope it wasn't me who "went off" on you - I don't recall it being that kind of conversation, but there have been so many, I only remember that it was relatively recently. I apologize if anything I said came across less than respectfully (without seeing it to recall, I just don't know). This discussion makes me think of a Toby Keith song I get a real charge out of "How do you like me now?" [i]"How do you like me now? How do you like me now, Now that I'm on my way? Do you still think I'm crazy Standin' here today?"[/i] www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOkhqxaKqVs The song is a response to a girl who used to disrespect him in high school and thought he just wasn't good enough for her - now that he's famous and she's divorced, how does she like him now? That's the first thing I thought of. Hope you like it!

Hi Beauty.. I try to post to your discussions cause you are always bringing up things i can relate to and you have always been very kind to me..recently you've been very complimentary to me about my answers and that made me feel so good!Now where's my Gold star? At School if i got treated like this thats what i would get! Huggs

I havent really noticed. I think I tend to be more rude to the new people. It seems like the last month the new people post some of the craziest discussions. I dont even know why I reply but I guess it just irks me. I am usually more respectful to people who have more post b/c they have been here longer and probably have a better idea of what is going on than me. There is alot to learn from someone with 6K posts.

hmmm i don't understand why people that are new would be rude. they should be respectful of everyone whether they know you or not. sorry you have experienced the negative ones. hope it doesn't continue.

You know, when I go onto a new site, I try to get to know people and, as you said, read a few posts from particular people, just to see what they are about. I mean, really, there is no reason to be out and out rude to anyone. And, I think that I would probably be inclined to be really nice to veteran mylotters than to be rude and post rude comments. I might need their help with something, then where would I be, if I had been rude? I think people take the fact that we can't see each other, we don't really know who is on the other side of that moniter, to be mean and ugly and think they can get away with it.

some people join things just to be disruptive. you find it anywhere,really.some of the boards i was on previously required a sponsor of an older member to vouch for them for that reason or they didn't let them join.

You certainly have a way with words, my girl! Very well put! I have only been here a year...still feel like a newbie, but, I do find there is a generation out there, that seems to be devoid of "good manners!" I guess we just have to toughen up! It does tweek me tho, cheers to you!

Hello Beautyqueen. Yes, your advice is an excellent one. Some may be rude, but some may be just new to myLot and still needs experience in communicating with myLot members. They need time to get to know people from different parts of the world. Have a nice day.

That's like me and my twenty years in shipping. No one wants to know anything about those twenty years. Its as if they were twenty days in this company. Where I work are some of the most unappreciative and sour bingheads you could ever meet. I really don't like them. So I know how you feel. People as a rule don't show respect these days - no where at all ! You just have to continue and use your experience to your best advantage.

In some cases I think that the new responders here have no right to respond in a bad manner and with so few words. Most of the people here, in fact, all of the people here are at an age where childish responses should be nay. I do have to agree that it would be very nice if before they responded they got to know a little bit about our own discussions and the way you respond and act towards other members. Hopefully this would have them under our wings so to speak so that we can teach them (even if not directly) that the best way to make friends and money is to be respective. I really appreciate and love reading your own discussions and I hope that you give your opinion when needed. I hope that you have a very wonderfully lovely day!

Great post! Since I am very new here I have already found out that some have a game plan going here at myLot. They ask to be your friend in hopes that you will respond to their posts and then... never bother to treat you the same way. To me, that shows that people use people. Thanks for bringing up these issues in your discussion. There are a lot of people out there that really don't care about whos feelings they hurt as long as no one hurts theirs!