Never worn clothes no longer fit

United States
August 7, 2008 1:48pm CST
My oldest son doesn't care much about his clothes. He honestly has worn the same 3 outfits all summer long, and will only wear a different outfit if I don't do his laundry right away. While going through all his clothes today I have found many clothes that he has never worn, but no longer fit him. I recall giving him these clothes for Christmas or his birthday, and they are nice clothes that he likes, but somehow he has never worn them, not once. The problem is his room is so unorganized that he can't ever find things when he needs them. Most mornings he is going through my clean clothes pile to find clothes as he thinks that's easier than searching his dresser and closet for all these clothes he's never worn. It's so frustrating to think of how much money I spent on clothing that hasn't been worn! Do your kids do this?
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@bowtieguy (5925)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I have my sons fold and put away their own clothes once they've left the dryer. That way they know exactly where what is and will hae no troublew finding it. As far as wearing the same out fit several times between washing, such a thing is unheard of in my household. Nothing personal, it's mostly due to my extreem geraphobia that I prohibit them to do such a thing. It is fine for sleeping in or whatever but not to go out in public in the same outfit more than once a week without being washed first.
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8 Aug 08
I always used to put a pile of clean clothes on my sons bed for him to put away where he wanted to. His bedroom was such a mess I did not know where he put them. Then every few days I would go in and pick up all the clothes that were scattered about and put them in the wash. I never knew if the were worn or not unless I saw him wearing them. This was when he started work. So if your son is young he could ge worse like mine did. Sorry!!!
@gemini_rose (16193)
8 Aug 08
My boys are the same, well actually my boys just live in their pyjamas, not kidding if my boys are off school they will stay in their pjs all day. They will even play out in them. I recently had to tell them that they could not go out of the door until they dressed (luckily they only play in the garden) but as soon as they have done in the garden then it is back into their pyjamas!! I lose count of the amount of things they have been bought and have not worn, if they are in good condition though I just sell them, never give them away. My daughter has been the worst, I bought her loads of beautiful dresses for this summer, and you know what? She will not wear a single one of them!! All brand new and she will not have them near her, so I guess they will be the next things to sell!!
• United States
8 Aug 08
Well my daughter isn't like this at all. She wears all of her clothes, sometimes in the same day, lol. It's my oldest son who does this, and luckily I just save his clothes for the next boy. After 4 boys I'm sure all of the clothes will have been worn their fair share.
@gemini_rose (16193)
9 Aug 08
Thanx for BR XxX
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Our oldest daughter does this. We had her go through all of her cloths so we could donate the old cloths to the United Cerebral Palsy Organization who run a local thrift store. She had all her stiff in a bag and we looked through it and found cloths that she had been given to her on her birthday last year as well as cloth that we bought her last fall for school. They still even had there lables on them. If it is cute or girly at all she refuses to where it. Instead she wants baggy dark colored cloths that hide the fact that she is even a girl. We get so frustrated with it but all it does is cause problems if we try convince her that she is a girl and should act like a girl. Yes and her room also is disorganized. If you say it you would think a tornado had landed in her room. But she claims she knows where everything is.
• United States
7 Aug 08
I wonder how old she is. I went through a similar phase. Everyone tried to convince me to wear a dress "It wouldn't kill ya" they'd say. I didn't start wearing girly clothes or wearing make up or doing my hair until I turned 18. Before then it was jeans and t shirts.
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
9 Aug 08
She is sixteen now. She does wear jeans and tee shirts but they are very lose fitting and what I would call frumpy.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
7 Aug 08
My kids never did it because they usually had 5 or 6 outfits and they never liked wearing the same thing twice in a week,especially to school. But one of my daughter's younger sons (he's 14 1/2) has clothes he won't wear. She bought him nice jeans last Christmas and she got so upset with him when she found he had never warn them. Why? Because someone else gave him some 'used name brands' that he liked better. I told her to quit buying jeans for him and see how long he went before he asked her to buy him some! Kids have this thing about wanting a certain color, a certain name, etc., and forget Mom and Dad can only afford what they can afford and they should appreciate them and wear the clothes they buy. But, another thing, like your children, their room is usually in such a turmoil that they can't find anything. But they spent lots of time here this summer and while one was home, they kept their room spotless. She and her daughter went through everything they had in the closets and drawers and got rid of old stuff, toys, clothes, etc., and had their room clean. I'm waiting to see how long it stays that way with both boys home and in school now. They have a habit of going through and slinging. Then they'll go through the dryer and laundry room to see what Mom has washed.
• United States
7 Aug 08
My son isn't picky in the aspect of wanting particular brands. He is more exited over sports clothing, and almost threw a fit when I wouldn't buy him a jersey last week that was a bit out of my budget.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
7 Aug 08
My daughter's kids love name brands, too. But they have a Factory Connection where they can buy some name brand clothes cheap - like buy one/get one free. And the smaller boys can wear the same size shirts, and sometimes shorts. The younger one says the older one just has to wear a belt. I took the younger one shopping for their clothes I was buying a couple weeks ago. He is good at knowing what his brother likes. He likes LIGHT shorts, nothing like the younger one who will wear any color, and he LOVES any type of sport shirt that is like under armor! So Casey found Ryan one and tried it on. It was too small for him but would fit Ryan fine. And, guess what! When I met their sister, and Casey was showing Ryan the clothes, he pulled out that shirt first and said, Nanny, I LOVE this shirt. Casey said, "What did I tell you!" Casey was also a help in finding good clothes for cheap prices. He did have to do without a pair of plaid shorts (piece work) that I didn't think I could afford. I had bought him a pair of plaid ones at Target on sale and I thought, unless Mom wanted to buy those, he wouldn't get them. He didn't fuss, just told his sister what I had passed up.
@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
7 Aug 08
That is exactly what my kids do! At school shopping time, I only let the boys get 5 new tops and 2 pair of pants, because they wear their favorites over and over. I do laundry every day, so they really would only need 2 sets of clothes, but hey, that would be gross:) It makes me very upset when I find things that they have never worn and are new!!!
• United States
7 Aug 08
Yes I usually only buy about 5 new outfits at a time, and then I will get one or two throughout the year here and there, especially when there usual clothes become so worn.
@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I am lucky...my sons birthdays are in November, so they usually get some new stuff for their birthdays and again at Christmas. I have learned to put things away for them at Christmas. If I dont' see them using the new clothes, I ask them if they like them or they go back to the store.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
7 Aug 08
My son sort of does that. He has certain things he wears all the time and really hates getting rid of things when they are too small. His room is pretty organized so he really doesn't have an excuse. More of the problem is that he has 4 set of grandparents that buy him clothing. There is no way any one person can wear all that. To make matters worse my ex-husband mother buy my son clothes that he doesn't like and are too big.
• United States
7 Aug 08
My son doesn't have that problem at all. He has very nice clothes that he just never wears. He has spent all summer complaining about how few clothes he has, but he just isn't wearing them.
@Uroborus (910)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
My boy is more inclined to do this than my girl. She would wear different clothes all the time, and is always asking to get more. The way I solved it with my boy is to get him to put his clothes into the laudry bin at the end of the day (or the end of the second day if they are ok after one day). If he doesn't do it, then I remove a privelege, such as watching TV. Not only does getting him to do this mean that he wears something different every day (or second day), but it also makes him take responsibility to put his clothes where they belong. This cuts down on room clutter as well.
• United States
7 Aug 08
My daughter is the same as yours, and she's only 5. My son already has that rule, but doesn't follow it. It usually only presents a problem on days when he brings down ALL his dirty laundry that he's been hoarding for months, and I have bigger problems so I only make a big deal out of it when I get this huge pile of laundry all at once from him.
@GreenMoo (11842)
21 Aug 08
When my kids were babies I found that this happened all the time. they just grew out of things so fast that I would put something aside as it was too large only to find that it was too small the next time I looked. So frustrating! Now the boys are bigger it doesn't happen quite so often, and to be honest I don't mind so much as many of their clothes are hand me downs and I just pass them on again. However, every once in a while I insist that my eldest goes through his drawers and tries to find an entire outfit that he hasn't worn for ages. Sometimes he finds things that he doesn't even remember that he has!
@ersmommy1 (12598)
• United States
8 Aug 08
As yet I haven't had this problem with my 5 year old. Could just be a phase that older boys go through. There has been this complaint with one of my nephews. Right now my daughter likes looking pretty and playing dress up. I am having a boy in December. So I am sure to go through this soon enough.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Haven't had a problem with my 6 year old son as yet. He puts his clothes in the hamper at the end of each day and gets out another set the next day to wear. So he makes use of all the clothes he has. He does have his favorites that he likes to wear and if they're not washed then it's too bad. He has to find something else to wear. There may be one or two dress shirts or pants that were given too him that he doesn't like, so I freecycle or give them away.
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I think it is hard to find any thing in a boys room regardless of how clean it is. I don't like dresser draws even for my self. You have to dig to find any thing. I like to put the folded clothes on a shelf or hung up. It is so much easier to find any thing that way. Socks and undies go in to a box on the shelf because they are pretty much the same. With most boys it's out of sight out of mind.
• United States
8 Aug 08
I think that most poeple have clothes that are their favorites to wear. The clothes that feel the best on their skin. Most people even if the have a huge well organized wardrobe will still have their favorite. The clothes aht you seem them in most often! I am sure you have heard the saying I can live in these clothes! Some folks do! :) Yes I have gone through this with my older son. He never wanted anything organized, or ironed. It drove me nuts! But he is a good guy and I love him bunches!
@cher913 (25887)
• Canada
8 Aug 08
yes, my daughter (15) has done this and so has my younger daughter (11). they seem to have their favourites in clothing and only wear those. the rest we get rid of; in fact, we just finished cleaning out their closet. perhaps you might want to take him shopping with you next time.
@thedaddym (1737)
• United States
8 Aug 08
That sounds a lot like my 11 year old son. During the school part of the year he is a little better. In the summer though he will wear the same thing everyday and until we make him change. When he does change he will just grab what ever was freshly cleaned or the easiest to grab. Hopefully they will grow out of this.
@IInsanity (290)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 08
well it's normal i guess. kids don't like changes or new things. maybe you could compliment how good he'll look in the new clothes you bought or just sneakily throw away all his old clothes one night? that's what my grandma did to me when i was still hanging onto my old clothes.
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
I do that too, I like wearing same clothes over and over again. I don't mind wearing old clothes. Old clothes are very comfortable. I only panic to look for new or nice clothes to wear if I am going to attend special occassions.
@devref (240)
7 Aug 08
they tried that and we just stopped washing those outfits till they started to wear the other stuff as well.and if they performed about it that took even longerfor it to be washed